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My biggest concern is that she will take it more underground. She said she knows I can track her. And I think I would have some intuition if she does see/contact him again. But she has her work computer and can still email him and she could still call him Zed, One of the things that I have learned from my own experience and from reading here is that once that emotional bond has been formed, it is hard to break. THEY DON'T JUST FLIP A SWITCH AND STOP CONTACT. Hearing that she said ...can't go on like this something has to give...almost sounds like the I love you but not in love with you speech. I expect her next words will be something like ... ok I have tried to do what you want but I'm not happy and need space to figure this out. If that happens, you clear out a space in the garage for her. Absolutely expose to OMW at the very MINIMUM. You have already posted that OMW clearly is uncomfortable with this relationship. She is your biggest ally here.
ME: BW
HIM: FWH
Married 18 yrs
DDay 09/2008 and 12/2008
Recovered
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She said she knows I can track her. And I think I would have some intuition if she does see/contact him again. But she has her work computer and can still email him and she could still call him She's just upset that you're messing with her cake-eating scheme...and that you've made it slightly more difficult to have her affair. Now she has to wait to go to work to email/call him...until she gets that secret affair phone and can do it from the bathroom in your house. Watch, her sadness will probably fade once she gets her OM fix in again. Expose it like everyone else said.
Me (BH)
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Married 2000, DS 8, DD 6, DD 2
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Absolutely expose to OMW at the very MINIMUM. You have already posted that OMW clearly is uncomfortable with this relationship. She is your biggest ally here. What the hell? You haven't told this guy's wife that he's cheating on her? Seriously, guy, you're missing a golden opportunity here and, besides, it's the RIGHT thing to do!!!
Me (BH)
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Married 2000, DS 8, DD 6, DD 2
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Zed, Do you just enjoy playing Russian roulette with all 6 chambers loaded? The OMW would be on my speed dial #1. Your single biggest ally going to waste?
Zed, dont wanna get testy with you but grow a pair and get on with it. Quit letting the head games and the wayward BABBLE mean anything. Get the job done. YOU HAVE PROBABLY SINGLE HANDED DROVE THIS UNDERGROUND!!!!!!!!! EXPOSE then make your CONDITIONS known.
Divorced 11/5/2013
FXWW EA 2005/2008/2010
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