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he has given me the password to his cell phone. He said he will be honest with me from now on. He said he does not want to be that man. He wants his family. If he did not want that he would of left a long time ago. He loves me and I am the one he wants to be with.
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Do you think I could hang in there for the money
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Do you think I could hang in there for the money If you are separated. But if you stay with him while he continues contact with his OW it will take a terrible toll on you mentally and physically. I would separate until he gets another job. Recovery of your marriage is hopeless until that happens.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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he has given me the password to his cell phone. He said he will be honest with me from now on. He said he does not want to be that man. He wants his family. If he did not want that he would of left a long time ago. He loves me and I am the one he wants to be with. That didn't stop him from having 2 affairs. The word of a liar means nothing.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Pg, I know exactly how you are feeling I have 4 little boys and one of them has a congenital heart defect and I allowed my H to carry on working with OW for a year after I found out a out the affair, there was no further romance between them from d day onwards but believe me when I say it was the worse year of my life, I became so depressed, it killed that he was working with her and it destroyed our marriage even more than the A. With the insight of MB he quit his job and yes I'm not going to lie we did struggle but that was nothing compared to him working with the OW.
There is no hope for you two if they carry on working together. trust the vets on here no amount of financial stability can make up for the pain and distruction you will go through if they carry on working together.
BW 36(Me)
WS 38
Married: 2000
DD1November 22 2008 - DD2 October 2014
PA Duration September 08 - November 08
Second discovery- 6 online affairs 4 sexual one emotional. October 2014.kids: DS 17, DS 14, DS 12, DS 10 . Baby after divorce DS 18months
Divorced
Was misled into thinking we were in recovery for 6 years.
If you were shocked reading any of this, that this is the consequence of not following MB to the LETTER.
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he has given me the password to his cell phone. He said he will be honest with me from now on. He said he does not want to be that man. He wants his family. If he did not want that he would of left a long time ago. He loves me and I am the one he wants to be with. This is garbage. If he wanted his family he would have protected his family by not having affairs in the first place! The truth is that he wanted the attention from other women and wanted to hide it from you so he could continue his infidelities. You both have a long way to go. And I will ask you this again: Did you read the articles that I linked????? Yes, or no?
D-Day 2-10-2009
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...I asked him to go to the boss and have her removed. He feels that both of them will be removed, in fear of a law suit.
He needs to quit that job & get another one elsewhere. But even apart from remaining in a situation where his ability to provide for you is at risk, your marriage can't recover while they remain in contact.
And you need to tell him what my wife told me after my first & only affair -- see 2nd quote below, in red text. And he needs to know that you mean it.
Me: FWH, 50
My BW: Trust_Will_Come, 52, tall, beautiful & heart of gold
DD23, DS19
EA-then-PA Oct'08-Jan'09
Broke it off & confessed to BW (after OW's H found out) Jan.7 2009
Married 25 years & counting.
Grateful for forgiveness. Working to be a better husband.
"I wear the chain I forged in life... I made it link by link, and yard by yard" ~Jacob Marley's ghost, A Christmas Carol
"Do it again & you're out on your [bum]." ~My BW, Jan.7 2009
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Yes I did read the article thank you.
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