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Re: My Story
TheGoodWife #2523712 06/26/11 01:01 PM
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My recovery thread is actions v words in Recovery forum. You have no idea how similar they are!!

I am a bit ahead of your timeline, good days and bad, more of the former now.

I read somewhere a line that said

I resent no one for no one deserves to live in my head rent free.

I liked that and remind myself of it frequently when I get to brooding or fantasising horrid accidents!!

the drain thing is also funny if your imagination is good too!!

Hang on in there, it sounds like you have a repentant WH, thats a good thing honey.

Breathe and vent here

Me 50
WH 52
WH in A 6 yrs in total, last 5 yrs JGF (Not!)
DD final 1.12.10
NC letter sent 3.12.10

Working at being the best I can be, the rest is up to you.

He is still a plonker, but he is my plonker!
Re: My Story
TheGoodWife #2523737 06/26/11 03:59 PM
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Originally Posted by TheGoodWife
Thank you so much for taking the time to reply. My biggest problem is the images of them together since I know how she looks and sounds and acts. I just can't stand the fact that MY H would do this. I always expected way more from him. Another thing that is bothering me is that everyone else around me seems to have "gotten on" with their life except me. I feel like I am living in the past and they all moved on. My H says he isn't moving on and that he just feels like talking about it all the time is stopping us from moving forward. redflag redflag redflag I just wish it wouldn't take so much time to get through this. I feel like I am giving the OW too much time. I need to find a way to forget about her and the A and focus on moving forward and making my marriage better. My daughter is getting married in 13 months and my goal is to be happily married by then. I want to be able to dance with my H at her wedding and feel happy and secure in his arms.

TGW, does your husband post here? Is he fully on board with MB? Can you swing counseling with the Harleys?

He is not getting over her, gives me reason to question the NC.

CAN YOU MOVE? get out of dodge so to speak? With you all being in the same town, something as simple as seeing her at a traffic light, in the grocery store, around town anywhere, all puts you back to square one.

Get him on board here, let these vets swing some serious twoxfour on his head. He needs a wake up call.

I am 52, stbxh is 46
One child together 15 DD
2 (mine) from 1st marriage, 26 dd and 28 ds.
Married Dec 94
Separated Oct 09
Too many D-Days to list. (EA/Cyber affairs)
He filed no fault 3-2011 I countered with grounds.
Court date set for June 6, 2011 for Final Decree and was continued.
That ticked him off, he is now fighting for custody.
Lawyers are expensive, my daughter is worth every penny.
Even the ones I have to borrow.
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No_Stress_Zone #2523756 06/26/11 05:48 PM
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I must apologize...there was a typo in that line. I meant to say that my H said he didn't move on from this yet...but he doesn't like to keep talking about it because he feels like it is preventing us from moving on and rebuilding our marriage. He is over her, he says he can't even stand to say her name. He hasn't had contact with her for over a year now. That's how long it's been since our friendship ended and I believe him when he says he doesn't have any feelings for her at all, except hate that is.

No, he doesn't post here and we cannot afford the services offered by the Harleys.
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