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Now you know how those of us who have been trying to help you for so long and pretty much getting nowhere other than this feel.

There are people here who care about you and your marriage and your unborn child and would like to see you take that next step towards a truly happy and healthy marriage and family. And we feel equally distraught when we try and try and try again and seem to get absolutely nowhere.

Yikes, Tom, what'd you do? Is it so much to ask that Dr. Harley's Marriage Builders board be used for teaching Dr. Harley's Marriage Builders program to people who arrive here?

Tom, you sound like you are seeing it as your side and her side and fearing that people are taking her side.

We are not on her side, Tom. We are on the side of your marriage. We want you both to have a win-win solution. Truth is, Tom, you can't win if she doesn't win. Bring her on board so that you can both work this problem so that she can start winning so that you can start winning.

I don't want you to be a loser, friend.

Get your wife on here so you guys can start getting some help

Another option would be to call Dr. Harley. One of the world's most successful marriage counselors, a clinical psychologist with three decades of experience, would talk to you for FREE. Why not take advantage of it? Send Joyce an email at mbradio@marriagebuilders.com and see if you can get yourself AND your wife on the phone with Dr. Harley.

She might believe that, because you have lied to her and deceived her as to who you really are. Thats despicable that you have tricked her into loving you.

And THAT is one of the most patronising unpleasant statements I've heard in a long time. She is not a child. She is absolutely your equal in every way and able to handle the truth. She deserves the right to make her own decisions based on the truth and not be manipulated through her life by your lies.

And breastfeeding, your wife may well change her mind and decide she just doesn't want to stop when you have decided she will.

I never imagined I would end up feeding my child to 5years 3 months but I did just that because it was what she needed. I am currently breastfeeding my 3 year old. Its important to both of us and my husband gains a huge amount of love from me by supporting us to do what is right for us. Motherhood changes women and you can't hold her to something she said she would do before the baby was even born.

Yes we know lots of women who stop breastfeeding at 6 or 9 months or whatever, thats brilliant that they got that far when so many don't get the support they need to even initiate breastfeeding successfully but it doesn't change the facts that there are proven health and social benefits to continuing to breastfeed to two years and beyond.

http://www.parenting.com/article/ask-dr-sears-extended-breastfeeding----handling-the-criticism