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Should I tell him that even though I'm in plan B?
He sent me this text message via email before I had a chance to block his address:
I will never be home,I wanted to but only for the kids,your a hurtful person,no
better than me , and for hurt YES I SLEPT WITH HER ON YOUR B
Should I say what you suggested as a reply to this and then nothing else? I can do that, if it's the right thing to do.
Last edited by dmh; 07/13/11 12:20 PM.
BW Me 31
WH 30
Married 2002
Children: DS 11, DS 8, DD 2
DD 01/07/11
I Filed Divorce 2 weeks later to protect myself and children.
In Plan B since 06/26/11.
Recovery began 07/23/11.
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In plan B....he hears nothing directly from you.
Do not even let IM address it.
Plan B protects you from his tantrums.
Do not reply/explain/defend your actions of exposing the truth.
Move forward and he works through his muck over 'there'.
Stay dark to him and now to OW.
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Okay. That's what I thought. I did just send an exposure letter to her family. I'm dark now. Thank you.
BW Me 31
WH 30
Married 2002
Children: DS 11, DS 8, DD 2
DD 01/07/11
I Filed Divorce 2 weeks later to protect myself and children.
In Plan B since 06/26/11.
Recovery began 07/23/11.
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Okay. That's what I thought. I did just send an exposure letter to her family. I'm dark now. Thank you. Good job!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Okay. That's what I thought. I did just send an exposure letter to her family. I'm dark now. Thank you. ![[Linked Image from files.leagueathletics.com]](http://files.leagueathletics.com/Images/Club/5943/GOLD_METAL.jpg)
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This is one of the few places you'll get a medal right off the bat for exposing. 
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb Neak's Story
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It wasn't hard. I think I will enjoy it if I get to experience his anger. I know I sort of chuckled with the whole he slept with her in my bed thing. I already knew in my heart that happened. Don't get me wrong, it hurt, but he's done so much worse, it's just a drop in the bucket.
Thanks for the medals!!
BW Me 31
WH 30
Married 2002
Children: DS 11, DS 8, DD 2
DD 01/07/11
I Filed Divorce 2 weeks later to protect myself and children.
In Plan B since 06/26/11.
Recovery began 07/23/11.
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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