Well the betrayed wife has told me that they are putting their house on the market this coming week and YES MA'AM I will tell my children - what if my wife fights me on them not being able to play together? JUST FIGHT HER!!!

Regardless of what your wife says, you tell your children that he is a Bad Man and was doing bad things. He was trying to hurt you, them and their mommy. It is better if they keep away from him and his children.

Explain to your children it is not their fault.

Tell them as soon as you can, they must be very confused.

My nephew is six. I always talk to him very honestly about things. However I didnt get the chance to tell him about uncle softlads affair before he overheard me talking to his mum. He likes to eavesdrop and we thought he was napping in the other room.

When he came in and asked me if I was ok, his mum asked him if he had heard and whether he understood.

He said: "Auntie Indie is upset because she thinks that uncle softlad is not her friend any more.

"I think she should change the locks because then he will want to be with her and not her friend any more".

So there you have it, not only did he understand an adult conversation, understand what an affair is - but hes also a natural Plan B'er!

Dont underestimate your kids. They see, hear and know so much.

You will never end this affair because you will not follow melody's advice. You are lucky to have her attention.

My 2 cents you need to sell your house and move away from the OM. Far enough to make it practical that they won't be able to see each other easily any more. Relocate 1,000 miles away ASAP.

You do understand the affair will be ongoing until they actually MOVE, right?

As far as exposure, the affair needs to be properly exposed. I would call up her parents, close friends and family, and tell them all about her affair. Ask them to use their influence to persuade her to end her affair. And I would do this all TODAY, on the same day you tell your children.

After you tell your kids they cannot associate with that family anymore, I would call the OMW and explain to her that there can be no contact with their families anymore and that you have told your kids about the affair.

I would also not tell your wife BEFORE, but tell her AFTER you have done all these exposures. Explain to her the kids are not going to be going there anymore because they cannot be exposed to the OM. The kids should not be exposed to her sleazy, filthy affair anymore.