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I suppose that's a step up from seeing him/them yourself... Document the missed appointment, and other than that, don't stress it. Next time you'll know what your days are and schedule it for then, and document that, too. You can try, but you can't actually make your parents get it. Perhaps if they knew how badly the knowledge hurts you, and impedes your healing, they would be more thoughtful? If not, whenever possible have a more impartial friend or relative to assist in exchanges. You're doing really well. 
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
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Mehr - I can see your stength through my computer screen. I just wanted to let you know I am here with you. I am fully behind you and your kiddos.
I pray for you, and I know 100% without a doubt you and I have great things coming to us from GOD. He will bless us with things we cannot even imagine today.
Stay tough and know we are here with your back and many prayers!!!
GOD Bless
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And......have IM request he buy his own car seats! No dropping them off for years and years and years.
Even spouses who are still together get seperate ones for their cars.
They are cheap at Walmart but.......your WH can figure out how to get some on his own.
If he has his own and was returning yours from the field trip.....next time tell the teacher/parents driving to send it with someone else, other than WH.
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Reading took the suggestion right outta my mouth. I heard a couple of things about WH and WF today too. Dust off and keep moving forward. And WF comes almost every time that WH drops and picks up DSx2. I find out from my kiddos. Sucks, but what can I do? I did say one time, to my mom and sister, that WH should drop her off at the corner, since that's where she belongs. It was a little venting. And even better is that WSs don't even see how that could be wrong. They don't think anything of it. TURDS. 
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He already has his own carseats, this one was because of the field trip.
He has grossly inappropriately matched carseats that are dangerous, but he has carseats.
Married 1/2000.
D-Day 3/7/11. WH moved in with OW and they married in 2013.
Single mom of 4.
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 on him having some. Boo on them being less than you would want them to be. That sucks but isn't surprising.
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No, why would he care one bit about the kids.
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I don't want him back. I am disgusted at the very thought of him. I can't wait until the divorce is through and I hope he has the smallest interaction in my life as possible. I haven't seen him or heard from him in weeks, but that's just how I feel. He is just trashy, just like her, and they deserve each other. I deserve someone better and there are a lot of fish in the sea.
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Glad that you have that self respect mehr
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All I can say is regardless of your moment to moment feelings, stick to Plan B. You could very easily swing to the other side and cry because he's not home.
Was there something that set these feelings off today? Where have your thoughts been recently? Hang tough. It's a long road, but one most definitely worth traveling.
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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I am sticking to Plan B because I have no desire to ever have contact with him....
I have been feeling really good about my life without him, and realizing that all is not lost just because he is gone.
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I am so glad to hear this. I am happy for you. See what some much needed time in a dark plan B can do for you. How has school been? And more importantly, what colour are your toes?
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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Good to hear from you mehr!
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Mine are pink and Mehr's are black and blue from kicking some butt ...ok imaginary
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09
Quote: "First thing you do is pray; when there is nothing else to do, continue to pray."
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Mehr - Good to hear from you. I am right here with you today. I am turning that corner and welcoming divorce.
I am so proud of you. How is nursing school? I hope the courses are going well.
I think of you often and your four babies.
All my prayers and hugs!!! Tough~
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Oh, dear. My toes are one pink and the rest nekkid.  I know it doesn't matter that I'm wearing tennies, there is NO EXCUSE for such sloppiness!
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
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Hi Mehr,
Any updates? Hope you are doing ok!
ba
Me-49, WH-51
Married 02/1983 yrs, Sons - 27, 26, 20
1st PA - 1985, 1st known EA - 1992/1993
2nd PA - 06/02 to 11/04
1st D-day - 09/03, D-day 2 - 10/04 D-day 3 05/08
NC e-mail - 11/04- it wasn't real
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Thinking of you and your little ones!
Me: 34yrs
OM #1 ONS July 2010
OM #2 internet/text EA (9/10-2/11)
He: WH 38 yrs
OW#1 Former friend, 7 month EA & PA 1/11-7/11
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