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Originally Posted by hurtmama30
Originally Posted by MelodyLane
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I am suffering physically though...I am 4 monthd PP, gained 48 lbs during pregnancy, lost 20 over 3 1/2 months in the past 2 weeks i lost 10 lbs and my breastmilk is decreasing,,,i need to get over the physical pain for the baby, but eating has become an issue, i eat 1 meal a day and attempt to eat 2 others but only take s few bites.

HAve you told all your parents about the affair? Is your mother helping you?

my parents are dead..no way he will tell his parents...they are out of country anyway.

I never said to tell HIM to tell his parents. YOU should tell his parents. Without warning him. You need all the support you can get.


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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OW facebook page disapeared as of today...And WH is from a culture where doing something like this is not good, but honestly i don't think his parents would care...Though they are coming to visit soon so we'll see if he tells them. I am trying to figure out why I should tell the world? I have told those that are close to me to help me get through this, though he talks to no one except me and i guess the OW at that time. I am so, so scared that this A may go underground though the things she said to me on the phone and what i told WH I honestly think WH is not interested in her anymore, but I can't be certain at this point...


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I don't know of any cultures that endorse adultery so I would pick up the phone and call his parents. Ask for their help. Ask them to speak to their trashy son. I would also contact her husband and tell him about the affair.


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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Can you find the OWs husband and family on Facebook?


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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Originally Posted by MelodyLane
Can you find the OWs husband and family on Facebook?

just her kids but they are teens, cant find the xh though...i did tell dh i saw ow fb and showed family on sunday, went and looked today it is gone, it could have been her afraid i might do something,but who knows...


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Ddays: 8/3/11 (suspicions began) 9/4/11 WH finally admits A
9/17/11~Trickle truth sucks PA and EA for 18 months
2 LO's
Trying to save this marriage, but still in shock and pain
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What about the teens dad? Can you find him through them or other family members.


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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still searching...


ME BS 29
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Ddays: 8/3/11 (suspicions began) 9/4/11 WH finally admits A
9/17/11~Trickle truth sucks PA and EA for 18 months
2 LO's
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Or she blocked you. Sign up for another account and recheck.

DO NOT tell your WH that you are looking at her FB or that you are going to expose.

You need to expose the affair far and wide to KILL it. The first step in recovery is KILLING the affair.



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just looked up public records, and the ow's divorce was final 7/7/11, according to both wh and ow the PA was in may/june so she was still married as well, though the divorce papers were filed 4/22


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9/17/11~Trickle truth sucks PA and EA for 18 months
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just made a new account, yep she must have blocked me...found her again


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Ddays: 8/3/11 (suspicions began) 9/4/11 WH finally admits A
9/17/11~Trickle truth sucks PA and EA for 18 months
2 LO's
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now what?? i don't know what to do now??


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9/17/11~Trickle truth sucks PA and EA for 18 months
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dh said he did not tell her i looked at the fb account, but she could have seen me added as a friend to her other friends list...


ME BS 29
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Ddays: 8/3/11 (suspicions began) 9/4/11 WH finally admits A
9/17/11~Trickle truth sucks PA and EA for 18 months
2 LO's
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Stop talking to your WH about what you are doing behind the scenes. Does he know that you are posting here? Has he been seeing what is written?


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DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09
Plan B Dec18/09
Personal R in works
Scotty's THING laugh
Newly Betrayed click here


Praying for walls and doors. Thanx MM

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About OW's FB, what you need to do is copy her friend list into a word document. Then, using your FB account, you send exposure letters to ALL of her friends. You can find a template for those letters in that thread I mentioned.

Speaking of that thread, have you been reading it?


BW(Me)aka Scotty:37
DSx2: 10,12
DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09
Plan B Dec18/09
Personal R in works
Scotty's THING laugh
Newly Betrayed click here


Praying for walls and doors. Thanx MM

“Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.”
? Maya Angelou

PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION

THANK YOU
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No he hasn't seen these posts..I guess I am horrible at keeping secrets. Why am I suppose to send exposure letters?


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WH 32
Ddays: 8/3/11 (suspicions began) 9/4/11 WH finally admits A
9/17/11~Trickle truth sucks PA and EA for 18 months
2 LO's
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Please don't tell him about these posts, he will do whatever he can to convince you not to do what needs to be done.

You need to send these letters to HIS family, and HER family to DESTROY the affair.

Have you read that thread I mentioned? It's in there.


BW(Me)aka Scotty:37
DSx2: 10,12
DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09
Plan B Dec18/09
Personal R in works
Scotty's THING laugh
Newly Betrayed click here


Praying for walls and doors. Thanx MM

“Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.”
? Maya Angelou

PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION

THANK YOU
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Originally Posted by hurtmama30
No he hasn't seen these posts..I guess I am horrible at keeping secrets. Why am I suppose to send exposure letters?

Did you read my post about exposure? Here is an article about it. Exposure


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Help h wants me to forget it ever happened. I just found out 4 days ago I don't know how to handle my emotions. Should I have him write it out, will that give me closure? How will I know he is truthful?


ME BS 29
WH 32
Ddays: 8/3/11 (suspicions began) 9/4/11 WH finally admits A
9/17/11~Trickle truth sucks PA and EA for 18 months
2 LO's
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I bought many of the books suggested on this site but won't arrive for a week. H just wants to surpress the A like he has done. I can't do it. Rather getting all the details they are trickling out and h is angry about me asking. Also the timeline is sketcy for the PA so I keep pressing him for more info.


ME BS 29
WH 32
Ddays: 8/3/11 (suspicions began) 9/4/11 WH finally admits A
9/17/11~Trickle truth sucks PA and EA for 18 months
2 LO's
Trying to save this marriage, but still in shock and pain
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I don't know if I can stay if he is lying about the details.


ME BS 29
WH 32
Ddays: 8/3/11 (suspicions began) 9/4/11 WH finally admits A
9/17/11~Trickle truth sucks PA and EA for 18 months
2 LO's
Trying to save this marriage, but still in shock and pain
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