Anyone?

Have you exposed the A's to your in-laws?

Tell his parents what he's doing. You have evidence. Tell him if he is going to stay there must be change. No discussion. then lay out the conditions.

Yes. Talk to lawyers. You can get info over the phone. Call several to compare what each says and to get a feel for them. Check their standing with your local bar to see if they have dings on their records.
Squirrel away as much money as you can.
When the in laws come......tell them about the affair. Don't try to hide it. They can offer you support while they are there and they can discuss it with their son. When you expose, you do it by saying that you love their son and hope the marriage can survive the crisis.

Wednesday, celebrate your birthday. You matter. You were given the gift of life with all its joys and sorrows...but a gift for sure. Cake for you!

Yesterday was my birthday, and I am sad to say it was my worst ever. I chalked up the nerve and called OW again on the 20th. I am beyond enraged about the fact that my WH told OW that I was on birth control and that my daughter was an accident, that i tricked him into getting pregnant. We had been trying for a second for over a year when i finally got pregnant, at which point their affair was in full swing as the sex pics were uploaded 6/29/10 and i got pregnant just one month later. What kind of evil man did i marry? I just feel so heartbroken that I even wanted a second child with him now knowing what he did all these months. I know he had acted all caged back then when the affair began but I never suspected this affair the whole time. Neither one of them will admit that the PA pretty much stopped because i found the condom wrapper, they both are 'bad with dates', my [censored]! WH went out 7/28 and i washed the jeans the 8/3 and found the wrapper, yeah that is when I am sure the PA, because i finally found out! I don't know why WH won't admit it though, it is so stupid. WH did go for the STD test this week and has talked to some friends about the affair, but still not his parents (they don't speak english) so i can't really tell them myself. It has been pretty awkward in the house. But I am honestly debating whether WH even wants to fix this marriage. He said he is still deciding because he said he will change but he doesn't think I will. I haven't seen any change in our relationship. He is overly selfish, was mad that I had hobbies instead of devouting all my time and energy to him, which he says is why he cheated, he needed attention, and i was busy with this or that...I told him had I not been staying home with the kids i too would have probably had an A because many of my needs were neglected as well. When I was bored in marrige, i found a hobby, when he was bored, he found someone to replace me. I know ow lied a lot, just things i said to here before and things wh said about, i knew some things were not true, so i have two liars to go on, and i don't really care at this point, wh was obviously unhappy in our marriage which is why he found ow, so i guess he is the one who needs to choose if he wants to stay with me or not, but i won't wait around forever, and i definitely won't stick around if he doesn't change his behaviors.

If you want to expose to his parents you should write a letter and have it translated. Maybe you can get help at proz.com.
What language is it anyway? There are probably people here on MB who speak the language.

In any case, a picture of him and the OW is internationally understandable.

God give you strength,

Happyheart

Don't contact OW anymore. She is nothing to you, and contacting her does nothing for you.

You should get someone who can help you communicate with your in-laws so you can expose to them. Have you exposed to absolutely everyone else? Including everyone on OW's side? This needs to be done all at once.

You control this recovery, and if you let him dictate what needs to happen, he'll drive this marriage right into a ditch.

How are you doing in Plan A? What are you doing to meet ENs? Are you focusing on not committing any LBs?

I'd bet there are people here who are multi-lingual who can help with this. I am guessing you speak enough of the language to entertain for a few weeks?

What language is it? If needs be, I can help you prepare a letter in Spanish, Italian, Croation, German, Arabic, and possibly Korean if needs be. Others here may have other languages they can help with as well.

French, Latin, German, Dutch...

Russian...

Wh says he is moving out. Heading toward D.

You still need to expose, regardless of what he does.

He's just trying to scare you so you will go along with whatever he wants you to do. Don't fall for it.

Do you have the evidence to expose? Do you have all of the info for the people you will expose to? Are you ready to do it?

Mama YOU ARE NOT WORKING THE PLAN and this is why it is not working out and he tells you he wants a D.

YOU WORK THIS PLAN. You EXPOSE.

woman up..WOMAN UP DARN IT!!!

You have a totally out of control wayward on your hands, are a mother of a small child, and you are not working the one basic thing we've been asking of you. Expose.

YOu know how to do that. We have been spelling this out for you for weeks now.

Exposure kills the affair dead in its' tracks with truth. It makes their secret ho-mance seem DIRTY AND DISGUSTING when the world finds out about it. It is ugly and truthful and they need that!! YOur wh needs you to help him stop his addictions.

If he becomes angry or mean again, call 911. But you must expose this.

We can help you compose a letter on FB for all skankho's friends and family and for wh's friends and family and employees (if a work affair).

Your kids depend on you ok? Do you want to one day have to look your little ones in their eyes, say in six months, and tell them, 'I'm sorry sweeties. Mommy didn't do all she could have done for you to help stop Daddy's bad affair. I was scared."

Do you want to have to feel that in your heart even if you don't say it? Or do you want to be THAT MOM who stood up against all odds, stood up against an evil affair and a skanky ho who is AFTER YOUR LIFE, YOUR HUSBAND, YOUR HOME, YOUR ASSETS, AND YOUR FUTURE???

Woman up. NOW!

Follow our plan. It does work. Plan A and B and the carrot and stick (applied to plan A) works.

And even if you have the hardest, cold and meanest unrepentant wayward who does zilch, we can deal with him too.

I did all that MB taught me and I survived the worst of the worst and THRIVED. And am happy.

I once looked my child in the eyes, and said, "Honey, I did all I could do to help save the marriage with daddy, and I DID all i could have done. We won't stay married, but we will have a wonderful future. I will ALWAYS stand up for you and do what is right and make sure you are happy and healthy."

IF YOU DO NOTHING, YOU CAN NOT SURVIVE THIS INTACT. mentally, financially, or marriage-wise.

His parents are there, right? I linked a free translation site for you. You'll have to write this down for them. Apologize for having to give them the news in such a way, but give them the information. Get your exposure done asap. He's bullying you into backing off. Don't make that mistake.

WH has taken his parents site seeing for a couple days so they are not here right now.

I need help in revealing on facebook. I have seen through OW facebook I believe the guy she is dating, I am not positive but I think it may be him. I do not know how to reveal so a link to the samples is appreciated. I am still having trouble finding OWxH I am still searching, but keep getting dead ends. Now that I know that OW was married during most of the affair I do want to contact him, as recently WH said there were times when he had to leave OW's house because OWH (now xH) was coming over...SO I do believe there is more to the story there. I cannot find him on any social sites and the numbers on spokeo seem to be for his dad..

If it's Dutch I'm your woman, but most Dutch people speak English.

Well you have BOTH AN XH AND A BF who you can ALSO expose too! Great! Begin assimilating your exposure targets.

Show us your letter when you're ready and BAM you can send it out!!!

We're here and ready for you to take the next step in killing the affair. It cannot be skipped. You CANNOT EXCLUDE EXPOSURE from a plan to end an affair.

Okay Let me start working on a letter: Not sure i I should send different ones or one generic...

Letter to Possible BF:

xxxxx,

I am sorry that I have to write to you under these circumstances, but I wanted to inform you that xxxxxx, the woman you are dating, has had an affair with my husband for the past 18 months and only recently the ties have begun to sever due to my diligence and physical evidence of the affair. I have obtained graphic photos of xxxxxx that she sent to my husband over a year ago, as well as graphic photos of them together. According to public records xxxxx was married during most of the affair, and xxxxx knowingly had physical and emotional contact with my husband and she did know he was married the entire time. I have already been tested for STD's and if you have had unprotected sexual contact with xxxxxx I suggest you get tested as well. I am a mother of two small children and my children need their father in their life and xxxxx, has proven she not only has little concern for her own family, but certainly does not care about my children. I do not know how serious a relationship you are in with XXXXX, but if you continue to see her, please express your desire for her to no longer contact my husband.


Sincerely,

XXXXXXXX