Should I provide maybe a 1 page print out of their phone records actively showing them calling and texting each other every 5 minutes @ work?


On a side note something has stirred the hornets nest I think.......

Sadly I got rid of a lot of my intel that I had setup.....but still have access to some

WW had a convo w/ her step dad today for about an hour......which is very unusual.

Then a couple hours later a half hour convo w/ her lawyer......which never happens, they usually meet up.

About what? No idea.......she filed....I was only served days ago......I don't think they would be expecting a response that soon?


And some weird phone stuff going on

POSOM and WW were talking last night around 0050 for about 10 minutes and they got off the phone......

Then he calls her back 10 minutes later......no answer

Sends her 4 texts right after that...........no answer

Can't imagine she fell asleep that fast? and she keeps her cell right next to her bed?

Calls again in the morning around 10.....finally an answer

Then WW calls him 2 hrs later.....I am guessing after she got ready.....real short convo 3 minutes...

POSOM calls back literally 2 minutes later......no answer

WW calls him back 20 min. later....

Then the rest is from her parents, the lawyer, a good friend who is trying to get her back involved in coaching, which my WW and I were actively involved in.

Finally POSOM sends a text at 1600......no answer

Then WW finally responds 4 hours later with a phone call.......real short 3 minutes.


Just.......seems odd b/c they usually never shut up and its just back and forth back and forth........

Maybe that is what she was talking about......that POSOM can be annoying in that sense..who knows.



It is funny though b/c I can label phone numbers when I view my bill.......so instead of seeing their phone numbers I see : WW text sent.......POSOM text received......lol

Affairs die a natural death. When did this start? Are they coming up on 2 years?

STAY VERY DARK in PLAN B.

Don't try to analyze this because it will make you crazy.

Let it die naturally - it is likely heading there!

It's not something I check often, but every once in awhile since the account is in my name I want make sure she is not making long distance calls to Tokyo and if so I can suspend the phone.

Which is another story in itself why I still pay her cell.

I'll stay dark....I can stay off the roller coaster pretty well when I don't have to see or speak w/ her, so it's nothing I obsess over, just thought it was weird.

But the EA started last year around August, maybe even before.

So this thing b/w them has been going on for over a year now....

Been physical for about 5 months now.

So what is this story? Just curious, as although Plan B is largely about YOU, it is also about showing WS the consequences of their affair, and showing you will in no way be supportive of that affair. Paying the phone bill is in some sense paying for WW to keep in contact with OM (even if this is not your intention). Is there no way you can disconnect to make clear to WW you will not support her affair in any way, shape or form?

If you can, take every action available that could show disapproval of the affair whilst still adhering to Plan B darkness.

Tough sums it up. Lets hope all is going crappy in crappyland. And meanwhile, it sounds as though you are feeling better without the contact with a wayward. Stay strong, and dark. Meanwhile, WW has to try and replace YOU, her knight in shining armour, with POSOM. I imagine that is no fairytale for her

Caracal-
Late happy birthday! Glad it was pretty smooth for u.

As for the cell phone.........it's stupid really I guess.......when WW and I first separated she wanted to do it as fast as possible, dissolution, sell the house, split everything, give her the bills, she would take care of everything........If I would have caved and turned everything over to her......I'd have zero leverage on anything ............It's not about the money........she can easily afford to pay for everything........
And she would constantly send me messages about it.........."let me off your account"......."I called and I need your authorization"......
I was stubborn and ignored it........I didn't want to do it b/c it was what she wanted........so it forced her to get prepaid cell phones and just waste money b/c she thought I was tracking her or something, so I thought it was kind of funny in that sense.
She can leave my account any time she wants now b/c I left an authorization note for her to do so.......but she hasn't.
Really to me it's.......a drop in a bucket.
I think it's going to take some time for my WW to realize what is "really" going on......honestly I think it will take a D for that to happen, I don't know........just my guess.

I meet w/ my attorney this week though.........I do have kind of a plan.....
I want to force a dissolution by giving up my rights to the house.......meaning she gets the house she becomes responsible for it and if it doesn't sell she will have to refinance eventually.

Boom court date set.......I come w/ a truck and grab my [censored] and I'm gone.....everything the table, the lawn mower the plates.....I'm outta there see you good-bye.

WHY would I do that.........it allows me to walk away faster, the house....it means nothing to me, if we were to reconcile..........I wouldn't live there.

Plus I want the full weight of that home to be on her......b/c when I was there........I did everything, Mr. Handy man, fix the house, fix her car.........as you probably well know anytime there was a problem.....who was there to fix it for her.....ME......I always joked with her when she would turn the dryer on or something......I would say " OH I didn't know you knew where the dryer was"
POSOM= not so handy and not too smart. Have fun w/ maintaining a home.

I'm not scared of dissolving our marriage........we could always get back together or not......

And really I need to start taking control b/c she has been swinging me whichever way she wants.

The funny thing is though........as soon as I start to show I am dead serious about giving her the house and getting the rest of my things out of there as fast as possible and or going forward w/ that god awful D she filed....

I'll meet resistance, guarantee it.......

She will miss your practical skills, I should know, shortly after separation and my parents going away the shower door handle broke. I was so upset over something so simple to fix, just because I have NEVER had to do this and it bought home the reality of the separation. Lucky for me I have some terrific family friends who are handy with tools. Sounds as though WW is not so lucky.

Thanks for the b'day wishes. Next years b'day will be even easier!

Can you explain to me what a dissolution is?

It's basically where the couple agrees to the ending of the M and the division of the assets...no real lawyers involved no judge to decide.

Hand in ur paper work.....court date is set.....judge looks at the paper work..see's that the couple agrees...and then declares you D.

takes about 30 days.

Thanks for the explanation, now I understand you are preparing for D. I have actually started reading your post from the start and see that dissilution is already explained, so sorry for the repeat.

I had a giggle over a few of your WW comments (NOT at your expense, simply that I heard some so similar). Honestly, WS's must go to an adultery website, maybe as we BS's post and scan MB's, our waywards are desperately reading about what fogbabble to spin to us and loved ones next! www.affairbuilders.com anyone?

I have not googled this, hope it does NOT actually exist...

oh god.......I'm scared to look back at what I said @ the beginning of my sitch.




Sad thing is I can't post all the really good stuff that spews out of her mouth......it's all to sexual in nature.....pretty sure I would get banned.

My WW is off in never never land with pink elephants and candy scattered all over the ground.

Honestly I thought it was getting better.......now I just see it as completely crazy.....I mean she is pretty gone.

The amount of txting they do is.....juvenile in nature. If I had someone txting me that much I'd change my phone number and I'm young so I understand texting......but srsly....I'm not in high school......pick up the damn phone.

But that's their R. I don't think they have a "whole lot" to talk about. They are never on the phone more than 10-15 minutes. I think I have seen one convo over 45 minutes and that was when I had her almost recommitted to the M and she tried to end it w/ him.

All they do is txt......it's impersonal. But it makes sense. B/C when I caught them going on a date......the first thing she said was.......we had nothing to talk about.....now how is that......someone you are having an EA w/ talking over the internet in emails/instant message and you meet in person and you don't talk???

I don't think either of them know how to communicate over a 9th grade level. Which again explains her weird comment.

" I don't feel a connection with POSOM like I do with you " Honestly WTF

That's a new one.......soul mates, we don't talk.......we text.





lol, only if anyone had more free time.......build a giant database on wayward talk



If you think you don't love your spouse anymore....... tell them you never loved them.

If your spouse catches you cheating........ tell them they are just a friend and quit acting all psycho.

If your spouse becomes more accusatory in nature of your "friend".......tell them you're soul mates.......but that you are just friends and you didn't mean for it to happen so quit acting all psycho.

WOW I read some of my earlier posts.......man was I naive.

I literally believed everything that left my WW's mouth.


If I am going down......I'll go down swinging.

A HUGE MISTAKE THAT I HAVE MADE:

Believing that OM's parents knew......

My WW assured me they knew early on.

Major F-up by me.

She let it slip they don't have a clue.

POSOM is getting impatient.� So all my efforts are pretty much going to be directed at ruining his life until I see fit.


Coming up next........massive full scale re-exposure.......on a much bigger scale than I did previously.�

2 certified letters went out today to their work place.....one where they work and another to their HQ.

1 letter to OM's parents

500+ FB messages to all his friends and family......starting early Friday morning.

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On a side note this concerns me..........

On 7/5 I wrote that below.....don't really even remember writing that......but it's a lie.� Is that normal?� To be so stressed out you forget things......or just sit there and openly lie......it's out of character for me.
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I don't know.� It's hard to remember.....I remember my WW making me feel as if.......it was useless.....I should just move on.....perhaps I had given up temporarily, hence why I stopped posting........it was only when I went dark that I regained myself.....interesting to say the least.
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Well this round of exposure.....I expect more from........we shall see.....I'll post updates as I get them.

Make sure you leave 90 seconds between each Facebook message , copy the names and web links of as many of the key friends you can and save them . He will block you once he gets a few calls.

Yup I know. I found the old list I had saved. Compared it to his current one. Seems like he deleted some specific women, perhaps ex girlfriends? Will message them as well.

I'm excited.

I'd like to knock out about 200 this morning and the rest Friday night into Saturday morning.

Go for it , get some tea sit back and send away.

let the fun begin

is it evil that this is so much fun?

took him 3 hrs to take down his FB page.....lol

still got all his contacts......keep on rolling

You will probably find he is blocking you hoping you can't get to his friends list. He is sure to have contacted your wife as well.

Ignore her if she calls .

Nope I checked via another FB login...his account was deleted it appears......

My WW has no way to get a hold of me

I did receive support from someone though which made me happy.

Said they were deleting this "loser"

I was going to stop for a bit........just gave me a little more adrenaline rush

WW keeps on texting OM.....he has yet to respond though

awwwwww poor affairville

Did you mention your wifes name in the exposure . The pressure has to be bought on her as well.