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I have a contact at his work who is getting me hrs info.
Ok Can you go on the website and get the email address of a key VP and both of their bosses?
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And copy and paste the OW's fb contacts into a text doc. Can you find her on facebook?
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Ok I asked my friend at his work.
My gma lined up another job for him
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I don't know if I can. I don't even know if I can ask him to get out Yes, you can. You can do all of this. I know it is hard but your children need you to put aside your fears and stand up for your marriage today. What you are doing is in the best interest of their family. You don't have the luxury of giving into your fears today. Today, you have to put aside your fears and do what is right for your family. Yes, you can do this. 
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Yes ok. Not sure I can see her friends list. Can I post her name here?
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Yes ok. Not sure I can see her friends list. Can I post her name here? oh no, don't post her name here. Keep trying to find her friends list.
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Ok I asked my friend at his work.
My gma lined up another job for him Good! So you can tell him he can leave that job today or hit the road! But, you need to have his bags packed and tell him what I said so he will see you are serious.
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Question: when I send this letter today...if he gets fired...would he qualify for unemployment?
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I guess it doesn't matter. I want to send the letter 1st.
Vp and hr...not their bosses and hr?
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Btw her sister and best friend know what she's doing and her parents are dead
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I guess it doesn't matter. I want to send the letter 1st.
Vp and hr...not their bosses and hr? VP, HR and their bosses. And cc them all so they all know the other was notified.
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Btw her sister and best friend know what she's doing and her parents are dead Do you see her family on her facebook list? And how do you know her parents are dead? I would expose the affair to any family members and married people. Send out that letter to some key people on her facebook. THEN, get on the phone and start calling family members. You want this all to hit him today like a tsunami. What is his mother like? Will she pay a visit to that skankho?
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If he is typical, he will go ahead an move out, at least for a while. If he does, do not fear. He is just being normal, for a wayward.
Just in case he is not typical, it would be good for you to have a list - only a STARTING point - as to what it would take, today, for him to stay.
The starting point would be:
1. Quit the job immediately, since he already has one to go to.
2. Agree to No Contact for life, and write out a No Contact letter and give it to you to mail.
3. Change all phone numbers, email addresses, close any door she might use to try and get in touch with him.
4. Agree to do anything and everything else you need from him in order for you to feel safe.
There will be more detail to your boundaries than that, and you will find help here to know everything he needs to do. But if he balks at anything on that first list, you will automatically know he isn't ready yet, and needs to leave.
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
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Ok. I doubt he will leave. He may and I'll be ok but I doubt it. He's a wuss.
Do u have such a letter? Can you help me make a bigger list?
Ok I'm waiting for emails but the letter is written.
I have therapy at 1230 but I can make calls between. I'm scared and excited
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His mother is complacent. She dealt this [censored] with his dad (although they never married). She is immature.
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His mother is complacent. She dealt this [censored] with his dad (although they never married). She is immature. Ask her to support your family and her grandchildren by calling the OW and asking her to leave her son alone. She can tell the OW that she has no future in their family and will never darken her doorstep. Also ask her to call her son and talk some sense into him.
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Can you ID her family members? Go change your facebook picture to one of you, your H and your kids. Then send them private messages - SPACE THEM 60 SECONDS APART SO YOU DON'T GET SHUT DOWN FOR FLOODING. Dear friend of Skankyhola, It is with great regret that I send this letter but I believe all of her friends should be aware that Skanky is having an affair with my husband, Joe. We have been married for 5 years and have 3 heartbroken children. They have been having this affair since October according to the evidence. I would be happy to provide the evidence to anyone who asks. I would ask that you use your influence with Skanky to persuade her to leave my husband alone. You should also watch your own husbands around her because she is no friend to marriage. I would appreciate it if someone would notify her parents and ask them to call me at xxx-www-xxxx. Thank you, BW
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I went in his email...he opened monster job accounts yesterday. Positive sign?
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Niiice ok I'll pm them all. But at home. That's to much to do ob my iPad and I can't use work computer for fb.
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