Remember, she had her period beginning of october. Pregnancy test would not even be relevant as it is not even the time for nex period, remember? Morning sickness does not start that early.

Also it does NOT preferably come in the morning. Actually more women have problems in the evening.

Come on, you know that she is just having her last tantrums before moving on to her next victim. SHE IS NOT PREGNANT. (I still have my hat, and I am not planning on eating it!)

You are doing just fine.
Good luck to you,

Happyheart

Confused.

The OW in your sitch. reminds me of a young woman(Jane) that I used to work with. Jane got involved with a married man and decided that she wanted him for herself. She would spend the entire day devising ways to cause a blow out between this man and his wife. She was hoping that the wife would get mad enough and kick this man out. Then Jane could have him for herself.

This was her mission and she was relentless. She was convinced that she could have this man if only his wife would get mad enough to kick him out.

Don't let your OW do this to you. Look how she has set you back after looking at her FB page. Block all avenues of contact with her and focus on recovery.

I am praying for you too, and yes you are doing amazing. Definitely block the skank on FB, no way should you subject yourself to her drivel. H is with YOU and that's bothering the heck out of her!

Thank you guys. I'm having such a hard time. I'm so angry and hurt

So much is a lie. I feel like everything for 2 years is a lie. Maybe he's a pathological liar and I have no chance. I just can't believe anything as sincere.

I'm depressed and sad and get a border panic attack just thinking about it or her. I hope I can do this

What you are feeling is normal, there are stages you go through. When you first find out you are fighting to save your marriage, your man at any cost! Then comes the nesting stage, reestablishing your own right and place once again. Then comes the anger stage "how dare he do this to me!" and you're left wondering if it's even worth saving anyway. All of those are common responses and to be expected.

You're doing fine and right where you should be...in fact, you've moved through this rather quickly. Yes, it's worth saving. You are a family! Go ahead and experience your anger and questions...just don't issue any DJs to him. Keep your goals in mind. If you divorce, which is your prerogative, you will both be spending less time with your children, and it will be expensive. Is that what you want? It's not likely another man would view your children in the same priority and caring as your husband will.

Hang in there!

Can you get proof that that OW slashed tires?

See we can't know if OW is not on her way out either. She might just be not worth it for the drama at the place of business compared to your Hs influence there.

Is he on a different shift from her? I guess I might have missed that. I know you said you had people watching out.

Hang in there and keep him under tight reins.

I will pray she leaves, gets canned, or H gets the transfer to another place of business.

At any rate, his job is not worth this temptation to play, and his Job is someplace he is supposed to be working. Any good employee knows that, and any good employer insists upon that.

You are supposed to be where he goes for that comfort, and priveledge, of sexual fufillment.

How is he working to regain his control over his urges? Is he going to see a sex therapist? I hope he is a good one who is not a handholder. This is manhood 101.

He is in therapy. He likes the guy. The therapist wants me to come in for some sessions to, so yea.

They are on almost the same shift...I'd love if she disappeared. But she's been there longer so not holding my breath.

I can't prove anything on the tires besides they where slashed. Hopefully bc the whole company supervisors included are aware they are keeping an eye out. Some of the guys fill me in on water cooler talk just so I know which is nice.

I'm glad at least my feelings are normal. I just feel defeated. Amd I start to wonder-he seems to lie to me and others so easily...can he even stop?

I'm trying not to say anything judgmental....I'm very down Amd its painfully obvious...he keeps asking me if I'm ok "you don't think I'm trying"... I say I know your trying...it's just hard and I'm so so sad. I'm not even angry right now I'm
Just so sad. (god forbid I say depressed...he told ow I wanted to kill myself dday1...which was not what I said)

He hasn't gone back to work, has he? That won't do, sweetie. They can't work together.

I know it won't work. Hes being considered for a position at the other office in Torrance but they said he had no chance if he quit pre-transfer so he had the choice to resign or go back (per work)

I know he can't stay there. I also know I'm not getting any better w him there. (he was only there thurs/fri). He's applying to 2 jobs a day (at least)....it just sucks. Everything sucks.

Amd of course I finally get excited about something ((we made our own costumes yesterday they turned out great) and I sent a pic out and a few of my friends where so nasty about how they don't want to see photos if him (out of town friends).

We are going to Disney today amd of course as soon as his gma hugged me I fricken burst into a blubbering mess. I tried to hide in sil room and of course they all follow me.

Can't i just be happy >.< for like more than a few minutes.

My whole life is uprooted and messed and I can't stand it

Confused,

I hear you about your life right now I felt the same thing, my husband had an affair with an office employee it took 8 months to resolve that issue, it was a living nightmare to watch him go to work every day knowing that she was still there, they didn't have direct contact but it was difficult for me, I thought I was losing it some days........
Others have strong opinions on adultery, they are instantly angered by it, they don't want to believe that kind of selfishness..........
My mom died and I have a friend that isn't far from her age, so sort of a mom person in my life and she for some reason was the person I couldn't bring myself to talk about the affair with, I just thought she would be so disappointed in my husband and that made me cry........
In time it all gets better, I loved the friends that just said, we love you and we want what you want, we support that.......
I found it kind of a relief to have the talks with everyone myself, it seemed harder trying to not talk about it and how I was feeling..........make sense.
Hopefully a job will come up and things can turn in a new direction, patience my friend..............I know it's hard.....

Nothing makes me happy. I feel like I'm falling apart. My sil told me yesterday "did you see her profile? She changed her pic to "here's a poem about me. Im prettier than you. The end" and her status says "I like his outfit im that picture, it looks better on my floor"

Of course this sent me into a blubbering shaky fainty sick mess AT Disney. I can't even see past this blur when I think of her.

I wish I could afford a stress leave. I need to stay I'm bed and not come out. It's Halloween and I don't even want to go. I feel like an awful mother. It's so hard to fake happy. Maybe they see through me. Everyone else does.

People who don't know "you seem sad"..."you ok your not yourself"

My mom took me shopping Friday ...open credit card for anything. I got... Nothing. I thought I could go get some new clothes to be sexy...nope. I stood in stores staring

I don't know how to do this. Im sinking. It's awful. How could this be so bad. Tis is way worse than time 1

Of course it's worse, you let yourself believe again.....
Nothing is going to make you happy until you have come through some healing time.......right now you just fake it until you feel it........give yourself moments to just cry for a few minutes and then wipe your face, get up and move forward again. you are worth it and that is all that matters here.....
You should not speak about or look at her facebook page, don't do that to yourself, you can control that pain.....
Staying in bed will get you now where, tell your mom you would like to go again, get some sexy things and feel good about yourself.......just for you, no one else....
People know your sad, or course you are going to be this is not a normal thing to have to live through.....but each day you will get better, just brush yourself off when you get down and regroup, start again.....
keep doing it until you get it down and you don't fall any longer......
you have already made it through the toughest spot and very quickly I might add.....your strength got you here, keep yourself there with it too......
we have walked in your shoes and know tomorrow seems impossible but here we all are living and breathing and living our lives......
all of working towards the same goals, a happy self first, a happy marriage and a happy life.........
keep your eye on that finish line.

Your in shock

Yes you are going to feel this, and in time you will heal also

It is said two to five years for this, you must be proactive to make it work faster

The fantasy that life is what is was is over, but the reality of what it can be is before you.

The reality is scary but has much deeper rewards in the end.

Your just beginning your journey into this, don't trust your feelings, trust in His actions, and the feelings will change in time.

What has he done to heal you?

Confused, you need to have NO CONTACT with OW. That includes people talking about her. Tell your sil that you don't want to hear another word about that ho.

What has he done to heal
Me? I don't know. Not enough

I'm waiting to see a judge to get a temporary tro. Then ill need a hearing in 20 days. I don't want a hearing. I don't want to see her. And he's not supposed to see her. And what if I cry or shake? Or lose?!

Confused,

I know how you feel..... Numbness was the best way I could describe how I felt. I would listen to sad songs just to see if I could feel something. It does get better. A roller coaster of emotions. If you haven't already, see a Dr about some AD meds. They are useful for a short time to regain your sanity. Dr H even recommends they if the anxiety is too over whelming.

As far as OW, she is a wolf in sheep's clothing. Your WH will figure that out. I know others have suggested and I agree, block her from your post. But before you do that.... Have your husband post how lucky he is to be married to a wonderful person...something like the best women I've ever known. Vindictive people hate it when they fail.... Then on your page, say simply "I love my Husband". Stay off of FB for a couple of days......forget about it. Others will see it and appreciate both your efforts.

I had a "friend" of my WW who helped her. We have de-friended her since. But before I did, I made sure she knew, NO ONE on this planet meant more to me than my wife. She blames me for their friendship ending, and she's right.

Protect your marriage, let others know you are willing to fight for it, that there is nothing you would not do to keep it together. OW will grow tired and move on. She is a vulture, don't be road kill. Vultures don't attack if they they think they could be attacked. She should know that you are not playing dead, you are armed and ready.

Good luck..... God bless.

Thank you

They denied my tro bc the emails where 3rd party. *sigh*

I guess I better strap my happy face on for halloween

Hey don't worry if you will cry and break down

It's real

More than we can say about OW

He seemed to feel sincerely bad that it didn't work...