Why are you advising someone to do something that you won't?

I have not yet read this other post that is being talked about, and I thank everyone for their kind words and advice! But in some sort of defense, I have also had a good friend recently that was in a sort of similar situation as mine and would also advise her to do the same thing thats been so hard for me to do all of these years. Perhaps its just easier for Gabby to root for the courage for another person she wishes she has but possibly has not found yet? If im understanding that situation correctly I can certainly understand both side of it. So I will not judge the validity of a persons advice based on what they are afraid or not afraid to do in their own situation.

But also concerning mine, the holdiay weekend has actually brought some hope. He has finally admitted therapy would do some good. He cried and cried during our conversations this weekend as I reminded him of some of the things he has put me through, some smaller things that he didnt even remember. And he was saying how terrible he feels and he sounds like a monster and he almost wants to push me away from him hearing those things because I certainly dont deserve any of it. He recognizes the therapy will be helping him to get better while helping me recover from the impact these things have had on me, so yes he is finally not blaming me. but I also told him I no longer love him like I once did because of these things and I cant and do not forgive him right now and I have a lot of resentment. I told him I dont want to just throw away all the years of building this wonderful family that we have made so I will start going with him to see if I can learn how or am even ready to forgive and maybe after that can learn how to love him again. But I cant promise it will work, honestly in my gut i feel it is too late. but I will give it this one last try for our family since he is making progress. but even if it doesnt work for me and I leave him he still needs to continue with help to get better for himself and to be the best he can be for our children. He understood all of these things and agreed with them. So i guess time will tell. I have contacted hotlines and talked and talked lol. And I have a few things in place for myself as far as an exit plan. Thank you again for every ones kind words and advice