Well sent the invite. I texted would you like some dinner..no response so I assume not.

Dinner was a success. I cleaned up the kitchen and folded the laundry.

Now I'm feeling emotional.

DS8 tried to call WW and she didn't answer.

Mornings are very difficult for me. I find that I'm very emotional during that time. Tears fall for no reason and everything is sad to me.

The worst mistake we betrayed spouses make is to waffle: to take cues from our non-committal waffling wayward spouse and REACT to their ever-changing behavior. Review Plan A FREQUENTLY: every morning, every evening, and before and after each contact with WS.

Here's another little tip I came across form three different sources: engage your husband in conversation as early each day as practical. The FIRST person somebody discusses things with is the person they bond the closest to. It doesn't even matter what the topic is: the weather, the news, the children, soem tv show, whatever. Typically males don't talk as much as females so they might talk about something only ONCE so it's very important to try to take advantage of being the first (and perhaps only) person they talk to. So calling him before he goes to work each day is a good idea. Just remember to keep it lighthearted and chatty. One of the reasons so many WS's get involved with coworkers is because of this concept. They start out simply chatting about mundane harmless stuff, then joking around and being 'friends', then oops - one thing has led to another.

OK, one more tip: I've read that only 1 in 5 conversations should be about the relationship, problems, or anything negative. Talk about it if he brings it up and isn't trying to bait you into an argument.

This is for Plan A of course. Once you go to Plan B you will stop all contact with him until he proves he is ready to do all needed for recovery.

OK...the list of Do's and Don'ts.

Do's
1. Act Happy
2. Get a life (new activities, etc.)
3. repeat over and over..."I will make it"
4. Actively LISTEN....keep conversations at "to the point...small talk" ...don't blow it up beyond the waywards current comfort zone
5. Tend to Agree (Thank you for your truthfulness, It seems that way, you have a point)
6. Expand your social relationships (Being especially aware of your own vulnerability and keeping sharing and time with opposite sex relationships to an absolute minimum)
7. Get sexy (gym, new clothes, etc)
8. Focus on your strengths and Positives...don't put yourself down verbally or constantly go over what you did wrong
9. Accept Uncertainty (Do your best today and let God take care of tommorrow)

DON'Ts

1. Repeatedly say "I love you"
2. Ask questions that don't have answers yet
3. Criticize, complain, whine or nag
4. Say, "I've changed"....allow the wayward spouse to simply judge your actions
5. Argue, Reason or Plead
6. Don't get family or friends overly involved in recovery (notice I said "in recovery", EXPOSURE to bust up an active affair IS ESSENTIAL and EXPOSURE to the OP's spouse is an absolute MUST)
7. Act helpless or depressed
8. Discuss morality, invoke God or Dr. Laura type babble
9. Suggest marital counseling (must be the waywards idea)
10. Tell them continually "we need to work on the relationship"
11. GIVE UP

I prayed for God to bring my WW home.

God has sent you an army of help, GJM. Make sure you thank Him and praise His Goodness as well.

OMW just sent me a text saying that she was kicking him out and he would be staying with a friend near the apt where WW is. This is not good news. She said he may try to convince her to stay and he may decide he doesn't want to leave because the house belongs to both of them.