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They were smart enough not to text or call each other. Communication was through email. I'm trying to find something that will log everything, especially web and email content.
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GJ, tell her to install eblaster AND the cerberusa app. That will give her alot of intel plus a built in GPS. I will tell her. Thanks
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They were smart enough not to text or call each other. Communication was through email. I'm trying to find something that will log everything, especially web and email content. hmmmmmmmmmmmm  eblaster will tell her about any web-based accounts he visits and that might lead her to his email account. But I don't know of any that log emails. With the eblaster she will have GPS and with cerberusa, she will have the ability to BUG his conversations. That will give her ALOT right there.
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They have to be meeting up so she would be able to get proof if she has a GPS and a voice recorder.
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Have a look round our spying forum!
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She has a GPS locator on his phone. She just needs something that will show email addresses. I found some other programs that she's looking into. WW tried to tell me to lift the MPO so we could all move on with our lives. I said if you don't care about him, then what does it matter what happens to him. She said she didn't think about his family at the time and she doesn't want the guilt of them suffering because of her. I responded with: cause and effect. You both said you had so much to lose in your emails so you were aware of the consequences of your actions. What about our kids? Did you think about them? She said our kids will eventually get over it. I said wow.
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She has a GPS locator on his phone. She just needs something that will show email addresses. I found some other programs that she's looking into. Let me know what you find out, ok? If there is a such a program we can make a post about it on the Op Investigate forum. WW tried to tell me to lift the MPO so we could all move on with our lives. I said if you don't care about him, then what does it matter what happens to him. She said she didn't think about his family at the time and she doesn't want the guilt of them suffering because of her. It's in his family's best interest for him to be held accountable for his wrongdoing. That will help him be a better man in the future and learn his lesson. It is very clear that the affair is still on and he is pushing her to get you to stop the investigation. That is one of the smartest things you did.  I responded with: cause and effect. You both said you had so much to lose in your emails so you were aware of the consequences of your actions. What about our kids? Did you think about them? She said our kids will eventually get over it. I said wow. I guess the OM's kids "will just get over it" too, huh?
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My only problem is Thanksgiving. I have the kids for the week.
"Having" them is not the problem. "Not Having" them would be!
Enjoy your week with them. As difficult as it will be, do NOT let them see you as anything but upbeat, comfortable in your own skin and actions, and bestowing upon them all the careful attention that they will require. I don't care how much YOU are hurting, amigo; they have the potential to be hurting a whole spitload worse.
We have often awarded "hero" badges to BSs who carry the load for themselves and their children. You have the opportunity to earn yours. (In the best cases, the returned WS has superseded OUR hero award with a more personal one. That should be your aim.)
Avoid answering the "why" questions about the situation. Quite frankly, you do not yet have the answers yourself, so stay with the standard, "Married couples should do what is required to handle any issues internally, NEVER going outside the marriage for what should be managed inside."
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GJ, what are you having for Thanksgiving dinner? Do you know how to cook?
I think you should start focusing on your CHILDREN and creating a happy, stable life for them without their mother. They have been hammered by her selfish, self destructive behavior for so long.
Can we help you figure out a Thanksgiving menu?
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I do know how to cook. I follow instructions very well too. I am playing cards with DS8 and talking to DS11. DD13 is on the computer. Everyone is happy and enjoying not being in the 1BR. I'll gladly accept menu ideas. I also need dinner ideas. I can make spaghetti, chili and rice, steak, tacos, brats, and chicken items. Anything on the grill is easy as well.
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Thanks! And for Thanksgiving we will have turkey, mashed potatoes, gravy, corn and apple pie at the minimum. I can handle those (I think).
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Stuffing! A box of Stovetop is easy and tastes delish!
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Just make sure you remember to take out the giblets and neck(sometimes they are at both ends). I knew to take out the giblets from TV shows, but I forgot the neck the first time I made a turkey. Learned my lesson now though.
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Lol! Thanks for the tips.
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I'm about to make spaghetti for dinner. Should I send an invite to WW?
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Hard to say. It would be the plan A thing to do. Don't make it anything other than a quick note and act as if all is well if she comes. Do not talk relationship stuff if she comes.
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Well sent the invite. I texted would you like some dinner..no response so I assume not.
Me: BH 36 Her: WW 34 Kids: D 14, S 12, S 9 DDay 1-6/2009 DDay 2-9/2011 DDay 3-11/2011 Filed for D 10/2011-Papers Served 11/2011 Divorce final May 24, 2012 My Story
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That's all right. You're doing well, keep it up Regarding Turkey Day: the biggest tip I have is to do some of the prep work the night before so that you don't have to be so hectic the day of. You can peel and cut the potatoes, prep the turkey and make the stuffing [It's pretty easy, please don't make stovetop! *cringe* ~ sorry, reading ]
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Have to step in here as an emergency response. (T/J)
Stovetop ROCKS all year round! It's a seperate food group just like potato buds are. Get real with these perfect foods, people! Bahahahaha!!!
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