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GJM,

OMW just let me know she was chasing ww in the car. This is crazy.

Hopefully your WW takes some lesson from this, and hopefully it will make WW gun shy in the future, our choices have consequences. This is not a bad development.

God Bless
Gamma

I imagine she will take it out on me in some way.

It is not a bad development.
The adulterers' illusions are being challenged by
other people on the planet.

At the very least, it isn't so romantic and hot that everyone knows they are are lying about all kinds of things to all kinds of people.

Wait, I thought there was a no contact order between you and OMW. Can she contact you but you can't contact her?

No, I'm not supposed to. I have to inform them if she does.

GJM,

I imagine she will take it out on me in some way.

At some point WW will either stop lying to herself, or continue in this downward spiral, in any event all you have to do is wait could be 1 or 2 years.

God Bless
Gamma

I'm waiting for the backlash to begin again after resending the letter.

I just received a response that I was a creep and my WW is going to get a restraining order on me from the step sister. That she should have left me a long time ago and how dare I attack her character.

Okie dokie.
Response one. At least she has food for thought about it all, standing up for stepsis's actions is her choice.
And as a matter of fact, you are not doing any character assasination of WW. You are speaking the truth. Revealing it.

Your WW did the actions that threaten her own rep. You just shared those actions. ...... rather matter of factually AND respectfully.

I've just been removed as WW friend on fb

If she calls you, remain pleasant. Don't let her pull you into a back and forth about everything. SHE had the affair. SHE deals with the consequences.

Sample conversation, your WW is in red "

"I'm sorry that Mrs. OM was upset about what's been happening to her family. I can understand how she would feel that way." Oh, yeah? Well, how about how I'M feeling?? You never think of MY feelings!!!

"Is there something I can do to help you?" Yeah, you can stop telling lies to all of my family and friends!

"I'm glad you've seen that I will do whatever it takes to save my marriage and family." Well, you've sure picked a lousy way to do that!! I'll never consider coming back to you now!!

"I'm sorry you feel that way right now. Would you like to come to have dinner with us tomorrow night?" WHAT?? Why in the world would I have dinner with you! You've ruined my life!

"We're having spaghetti and meatballs - and I know how much you love that" When hell freezes over, you lousy expletive!

"Well, hopefully hell will freeze over tomorrow at about 6:00. We'd love to have you."

Don't be drawn into an argument! If you feel yourself ready to engage, "I'm going to have to hang up now. The kids need to get ready for bed/have a snack/say their prayers, etc. I'll talk with you tomorrow. Think about dinner, okay? Goodnight." Click.

You're driving the bus, GJM.

Big deal on the fb removal of friendship.

Little does she realize it....but you are her best and truest friend on the planet.
Don't tell her that though. You can not educate a wayward.

Why don't I feel like I'm driving the bus? Restraining orders and custody battle? Seems like I fueled the fire for her to hate me forever.

Oh, boy!! She's pulling all the stops out now!!

I'm sorry to laugh, GJM, but that is the hallmark '1st Step' in the standard wayward tantrum-throwing handbook.

Tantrum. BIG tantrum.

She was found out (the finding of OM at her place) by you and OMW
and
more exposure of what she has done is out there
and
expect the vilest tantrums imaginable. The biggest threats to YOUR reputation.
Stay calm. Stay calm. Stay out of love buster land....yet....be firm and strong and true.
Stand your ground for doing the right thing. Even if we seem to be the only ones you meet who think you did. Cause you did right.
Keep on doing it.

(Its kind of like riding a bucking bronco!)

Let the consequences of her affair rain down on her. Her world is spiralling out of control right now. You don't know that because you're not her. You're dealing with your own emotions. When she does contact you (and she will sooner rather than later) you want to be her calm in the midst of the storm.

By the way, do you have your list of requirements together for what she'll need to do in order to come home? I'd get to work on those if I were you.

I do have my list, but I'll be honest, it seems far fetched that she would come back after that embarrassment to her. The OMW went to her work as well. This is just the beginning. I think she would rather go to where her family is than move back in with me. I need to file an injunction to keep her in the county ASAP.

Listen.
Things are in an uproar now but you do not let her turn this back on you.
Poker face GJM.

So much for her lies to her co-workers! Good for OMW!

Stay the course. And yes, make sure she isn't able to take the kids out of the county.

You've tied up the finances, right?