GJM--repeat this to yourself.

Your marriage can survive her anger.

Things will get CRAZY for her because she is living as if you are the enemy and she must get away from you or hurt you, or what-have-you.

You ARE doing the right thing.

If the kids have passports, pull those too.

Also, I agree with mb, good for OMW!

With a car chase to boot, this OMW sounds like a cool cat indeed!

You're doing great, GJM. You might want to print out that sample script that was posted...keep it handy for when you have to talk to WW on the phone as she'll be in batshart la-la-land for sure. You'll need to have good responses in hand so that you don't end up defending your actions or get drawn into an argument.

And the kids know about OM, right? Make sure they know that he's a bad man and that they should tell you if they ever see him.

So true.

You may not believe it, GJM, but everything you're reporting about your WW has been said by other waywards as well. She's just following the script, that's all.

Ok....I believe you. It just feels like I'm alone outside of this forum. I'm scared that she's going to pull some maneuver to try to get the kids away from me.

Which is why you need to document absolutely everything and keep a VAR on your person if it's legal in your state.

Lots of WWs who go batshirt insane like to claim the BH is or was abusing them.

Luckily I wasn't alone today. I had someone on the phone with me and two people over me came from work to make sure everything was civil.

That's good. The VAR or making sure you're never alone with her will work wonders in stopping any wild stories she might want to say.

GJM,

Good for you, I know you are scared and you think this is ruined at this point, it is normal after exposure, she is mad her world is out in the open now for all to see and hear about, that is exactly what you want, it usually doesn't take long for the waywards to come around, sit back quietly. Have your requirements ready and you answers ready for when she does call....
She isn't going anywhere, she just needs time to settle down and really think what her next move is going to be....reality is hitting hard right now, she knows it's not just you now that is watching her and the OM.
If she didn't want to play with fire she should have thought about that...make sure your kids are alright, if they are with her stay in touch, offer to take them to give her time.........
You should feel in control now you have put a huge wedge between the affair and there is going to be some consequences for both of them....
Just keep telling her you love her and did what you needed to do to save your marriage and your family, over and over agin if need be......don't apologize for the exposure.....
Don't panic this might take some time, stay on the site and vent and get your support here, we are all here for you.......you are not alone.......
Try to get some sleep tonight and remember to eat.........you are no good if you aren't well rested and have the energy it's going to take the next few days.....
good for you and the OMW.......you are taking over the control.........

I ate dinner. I don't even want to try and contact her....she thinks I stalk her as it is.

I would say don't contact her tonight...

This OMW is awesome.

My sisters and I chased my younger sister's WH's OW down in the car and confronted her too. Jerry Springer like.

Oh, and my BIL defriended all of us on FB after that episode as well... (BTW, yes, my sister busted up that affair!)

This is all very good. Even this ends in Plan D, you don't want this creep around your children, GJM.

True, but I'm sure some other creep will come around. Apparently she needs some type of man in her life that isn't me. She says she don't have time for a man and she just wants to be left alone. Apparently she is trying to find something on me to use against me. The story they made up was that he was bringing her text messages from me to his wife. And?

The whole apt complex heard her make a fool out of herself too. I stood about 15 feet away from the door. I still have to write a statement....oops

DS11 just told me that WW tried to take his phone and ipod away from him. He doesn't know why, but I'm sure WW wants to see what we're texting. He said she's crying on the couch on her phone.

That she's turning into an emotional basketcase will be good for you. Just remain cool and detached especially in public...you never know when someone might see a reaction from you that can be used against you should legal complications arise.

Be careful what you text. Assume that whatever you write may one day be read by a judge.

I covered my bases. She had nerve to say we might have had something if I would have left her alone.

Wayward script.
She is right on target.

(amazing how the same people tend to be)

Well I guess it's good to know that she's following the script. Let's see if she goes all the way to the point where she wants to earn my forgiveness.

I just LOVE this!

Don't call her. She's busy imploding. When she's done depleting all of her high anxiety and calms down a little she'll call you. That's when you come in as her lighthouse and start to guide her home.

WW implosion. This is good.

Do you know if there are alienation of affection laws in your state?

In CA there Is no law for that anymore. The courts now only want equality and the best interest of the children.