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Most marriages affected by an affair should move: HE MUST CERTAINLY NOT WORK WITH HIS FORMER LOVER AND SHOULD PROBABLY LIVE IN SOME OTHER CITY OR STATE And Dr. Harley discussed some great reasons for this yesterday: http://www.marriagebuilders.com/radio_program/play_segment.cfm?sid=3418
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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Great truthful title to a thread.
We moved and the OW lives several states and about 1200 miles away. I wish OW lived in another country -- no make that the moon.
AM
BW - 70
WH - 65
M - 35 years
D-day - 17 Apr 08
H broke contact 11/1/09
Back in love after the worst thing that every happened to us.
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The moon is still too close. Jupiter is better. 
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb Neak's Story
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I believe a man like this has told the truth. He is hopelessly entangled and needs all the help possible to be kept away from his lover and stay faithful to his wife.
"I often recommend that a man once involved in an affair come in to see me every three to six months on an indefinite basis, just to talk about how things are going and to let me know how successfully he has stayed away from his lover."
One item on the EP list that often gets missed.
A NEUTRAL party that hopefully knows this program that helps to hold us waywards accountable.
Some one who is not afraid to say "YOUR sheeiit stinks"
4-EVER.
Indefinate Basis.
AS in periodically see this counselor as long as you live
The addictive nature of A's & AP's is so strong that indefinate basis is the truth.
WE obsess...
Websters dictionary: Obsess..........To preoccupy the mind with an idea or an emotion; to be abnormally preoccupied
Over 20 years later I still at times wonder what FOW is up to.
Thank God the counselor I see knows the power of and how the addictive nature works Dr. H is talking about.
And....Better yet... knows me.... Knows My ADDICTIVE nature ...And tells me when it stinks!!
He must resign himself to a lifetime without her. HE MUST CERTAINLY NOT WORK WITH HIS FORMER LOVER AND SHOULD PROBABLY LIVE IN SOME OTHER CITY OR STATE. Even with those restrictions the desire for her company persists...
Just my 2 cents
nESRE
M 29 yrs
DS 28 DD 18
Me 53 FWH FBS
MTA signed 5/11/2011
D final 5/16/2011
Free.... and going wherever the big guy wants me to go......
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That's a good point, nesre. I think Dr. Harley has mentioned some former waywards he has counseled, particularly men, continue to speak with him once every few months or so, just to talk about how things are going.
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