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been very busy

This is a cop-out. You have been choosing to prioritize your time. Whatever is most important to you, has gotten your time.


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I'm done.

You're not that dense.

You're playing us and expect us to buy it.

2Sweet will leave and you'll get what you deserve.

Hope that's short and sweet enough to get through to you.


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Originally Posted by KaylaAndy
I'm done.

You're not that dense.

You're playing us and expect us to buy it.

2Sweet will leave and you'll get what you deserve.

Hope that's short and sweet enough to get through to you.

And what I don't get is that he has an incredible gal there who is willing to work on rebuilding and is wizzing it away... Her, the kids, the whole shebang.

I'm not out yet. I'll stick around for a bit and see what happens. Curious to see if he posts his NCL here before close of business tomorrow.



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eation to you and this is not looking for easy way it to prove i do love herhi
i have something i would like to say and than i have a question i would like to ask hope this is ok with everyone
it look like everyone think im trying to blow smoke up *edit* a--i would like for everyone to know the i love her more than anything other than my kids they get the same i want everyone to know that this is no EXCUSE
when this affair happen 2sweet had left i come home to nfine everything gone no affair at this time wife gone kids gone 90% of house gone when i did fineally get in touch with her would not tell me where she or the kids where oh andwhy nshe listen to someone that she found out was wrong about what they where saying i was loooking for her paying people to look for her and new one person that did know where she was i was mad as he---my babys where gone the OW was keeping me from losing my mind no sex friends even cought me going to the one person that i knew where my babys whereand i will let you ask 2sweet what was going to happen anywayi had been to my lawery and was finding out what to do for my kids and filing for the big D i did not want t see her and never in my wilest dream ever though we would be back together no way this is still no excuse i just wanted everyone to know where i was at and this still is no EXCUSE that what i had to say now my question and this is for the love i know i have for her not no easy way out she says she dont want no divoce but as the saying gose if you set it free and it come back to you it was meant to be so i though maybe and i said thinking about want your oppion after we mail the NC letter tell her lets divcore oh to any that dont know there is a house she bought so everyone got a place than if she want to we could date and maybe she would marry me again when she fall back in love with me i mdont want to D butif it wouldprove to her that i love her i will i am truely sorry for everything that happen but the way i feel about mit is im sorry oh well so if you dont think this will prove i love her what will
not hurting easy way out i think i stand better chance of losing her this way and i dont want to lose her but i must prove to her mi love her and stop her from hurting i wiull dso what ever it take to stop her hurt even if it mean i must dissapear what it take i dont care she need to be happy thank you one and all got to gocx f v

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Originally Posted by tsg
eation to you and this is not looking for easy way it to prove i do love herhi

i have something i would like to say and than i have a question

i would like to ask hope this is ok with everyone


it look like everyone think im trying to blow smoke up bonnie a--

i would like for everyone to know the i love her more than anything other than my kids they get the same i want everyone to know that this is no EXCUSE


when this affair happen 2sweet had left

i come home to nfine everything gone

no affair at this time

wife gone kids gone 90% of house gone

when i did fineally get in touch with her would not tell me where she or the kids where oh andwhy n

she listen to someone that she found out was wrong about what they where saying

i was loooking for her paying people to look for her and new one person that did know where she was

i was mad as he---my babys where gone

the OW was keeping me from losing my mind

no sex

friends even cought me going to the one person that i knew where my babys whereand i will let you ask 2sweet what was going to happen anyway

i had been to my lawery and was finding out what to do for my kids and filing for the big D

i did not want t see her and never in my wilest dream ever though we would be back together no way

this is still no excuse

i just wanted everyone to know where i was at and this still is no EXCUSE that what i had to say

now my question and this is for the love i know i have for her

not no easy way out

she says she dont want no divoce but as the saying gose if you set it free and it come back to you it was meant to be

so i though maybe and i said thinking about


want your oppion after we mail the NC letter

tell her lets divcore

oh to any that dont know there is a house she bought so everyone got a place

than if she want to we could date and maybe she would marry me again when she fall back in love with me

i mdont want to D butif it wouldprove to her that i love her i will

i am truely sorry for everything that happen but the way i feel about mit is im sorry oh well

so if you dont think this will prove i love her

what will


not hurting

easy way out

i think i stand better chance of losing her this way and i dont want to lose her but i must prove to her mi love her and stop her from hurting

i wiull dso what ever it take to stop her hurt even if it mean i must dissapear


what it take i dont care she need to be happy thank you one and all got to gocx f v




TSG

Does this sound about right? What you want the readers to know? Your response/question?

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TSG-

Are you saying that your wife left, you sought the comfort of your ex and that that's when the affair started?

Why'd she leave to begin with or was there another OW before your ex?



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Oh thank you for separating that...

And I want to ask the same questions. Was there another OW?


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Originally Posted by tsg
not no easy way out she says she dont want no divoce but as the saying gose if you set it free and it come back to you it was meant to be so i though maybe and i said thinking about want your oppion after we mail the NC letter tell her lets divcore

The right thing to do is ask her what **SHE** wants after your affair and let HER make that decision.

Still wondering if you are going to post your no contact letter here and your list of EPs.





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Good morning, Mr. 2sweet!

What's the word on the letter? What actions are you taking today to begin to repair the damage you have caused?


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I have asked 2sweet to type for me

EP - NCL, time together (UA - 15 hours at least), be open and honest, read up on LB, learn each other top EN and learn to meet them, read this site and on the concepts and keep reading, change phone #

Cell and house # have been changed today. Family locator is being put on.

i have been busy with the kids and cleanin while 2sweet was working the last 2 days.


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2sweet goin to get kids from school, she will write the NCL on here that i wrote to approve by yall when she get back


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Originally Posted by tsg
2sweet goin to get kids from school, she will write the NCL on here that i wrote to approve by yall when she get back

ok, thank you! This is a good start.

TSG, one more question before I get ready for work...

Is there anything else that may hinder your recovery? Alcohol or drug use? Another affair phone, or hidden emails that are being kept from 2S?


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That's a start - let's get that NCL sent today.


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tsg, firstly, I am going to try my darndest to be as nice as possible. Let's see how that works for me, shall we?

Firstly, why do you want to D 2sweet? Is it so you wouldn't have to deal with the consequences of what you have done? Do you think this can be a do-over? Cuz, I will tell ya, it's not.

Second, if you want to give 2sweet a D, the least you could do is give her full custody of your children, and she gets the house, money, etc. You walk away from this marriage with NOTHING since you buggered up so badly. How does that sound to you?

There is a lot of work you are going to need to do to save this, and I don't think you have realized the gravity of it yet.

WE have seen it ALL. There is NEVER an excuse for an affair.

What was the reason that 2sweet left you the first time around? Let's hear what YOU have to say about it, since you think that this somehow justified what you did.

You were WRONG for having your affair. You hurt the woman whom you vowed to be faithful to. You need to make up for that, and not just by lip service, you need to DO something.

Stick around, you may learn something. And let 2sweet dictate where this is going. It's not up to you anymore, 2sweet is going to do what she needs to do for herself and your children, if you are part of that, that will be HER choice. What you can do is everything that she asks of you.


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after talkin to 2sweet, it be best if i use Neak sample letter instead of my own. Is thisok if i send this or shuld i write my own?

Ms. OW,

I love my wife. More than anything in the world, I want to be with her. I want a chance to heal the damage my selfish decision to commit adultery has caused. I deeply regret the terrible devastation I caused to my beautiful wife and family.

Out of respect for my wife, I choose to have nothing to do with you ever again, as long as I live. Do not call me, email me, or try to contact me in any way. Ever.

Sincerely,
Mr. 2sweet



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Originally Posted by tsg
after talkin to 2sweet, it be best if i use Neak sample letter instead of my own. Is thisok if i send this or shuld i write my own?

Ms. OW,

I love my wife. More than anything in the world, I want to be with her. I want a chance to heal the damage my selfish decision to commit adultery has caused. I deeply regret the terrible devastation I caused to my beautiful wife and family.

Out of respect for my wife, I choose to have nothing to do with you ever again, as long as I live. Do not call me, email me, or try to contact me in any way. Ever.

Sincerely,
Mr. 2sweet

Send this only if you truly mean it. Even if you and 2sweet D, you should NEVER contact OW again.


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next question....

did you mail it?


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I like that letter. grin Now give Uncle Sam his 40-some cents, plus a couple extra bucks for delivery confirmation.

I want to clearly warn you that if you send this and resume contact, you will make your path to decency 1000x harder. Once you send that letter, NO CONTACT!!!!!!!!

How far does OW live from you and your work? How far does she work from you and your work?


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my time was tied ujp with 2sweet and the kids


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Originally Posted by tsg
my time was tied ujp with 2sweet and the kids

I am very disappointed to see this flimsy excuse.

YOU ARE LOSING YOUR MARRIAGE HERE.

Come on, you should be able to see that.

Get that dern letter mailed, NOWWWWWWWWWWWWW


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Praying for walls and doors. Thanx MM

“Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.”
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PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION

THANK YOU
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