2Hope,

Many of us are in the same situation. The abandonment of a parent is one of the cruelest and worse forms of abuse on the planet.

The level of selfishness from the wayward is astonishing and shocking.

I am still amazed how my WH could have all these kids with me (we have very small kids), and now rarely see them. I have analyzed his behavior until my brain hurt. It makes no sense and it will never make sense to us sane people.

I just try to look at my WH as one messed up individual. He doesn't want to be accountable, responsible, or even remotely caring for the life he created. He really wants his past life to completely go away and to start a new life.

That is his issue and his sickness. We, as sane people, all know life doesn't work like that. We know it simply isn't that easy.

If you want to stand for your marriage while in plan B, then know you are not alone. We are here to support you and to help you walk this difficult path.

The greatest lesson to be learned is we cannot make them, force them, or control them to come home. They have to want to do that on their own. Unfortunately they inflict us with the worst form of cruelty, abuse, and hurt in their decision to leave.

Hang Tough~

Pray,
Thanks for the encouragement. I believe in God and will take your path to pray incessantly. Although, my H has said even if he wasn't with his AP then he would never be with me again, EVER! It's soul crushing.


I agree. My H and OW both have said they are "sorry" to me that A happened but it doesn't change anything. They have started a new life together but forgot that they left one behind.