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im the one that had to push to get it in the mail she said tomorrow be ok i said no today
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Very short-sighted. I'm not buying that as an excuse or a reason.
Do you think that by clinging to them you will keep them? That as long as you watch them they won't disappear?
Getting that NC letter written and sent, completing your EP's, those things MUST be your #1 priority right now. You have already lost your family, and have a lot of work to do to even have a small chance of earning them back.
You're sitting there on the Titanic, trying to gather up a few of the dishes cause they're pretty.
The work you do, and the time you spend to repair yourself as a human being will benefit them enormously even if your marriage does not recover. Instead of putting that at the top, where it needs to be, you're hanging out with them and avoiding what needs to be done, because it feels better for you.
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner. ~ English proverb Neak's Story
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im the one that had to push to get it in the mail she said tomorrow be ok i said no today That's good. If you're serious, you will be the one doing the work, and not waiting around for the NCL fairies. Why do you suppose 2sweet thought tomorrow was just as good? Could it be that she doesn't care very much right now, after MONTHS of having her hopes disappointed again and again? While giving her all the space she needs and asks for, you need to be very motivated to work on yourself. To initiate and quickly complete all the things she has asked of you these past many weeks.
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner. ~ English proverb Neak's Story
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im the one that had to push to get it in the mail she said tomorrow be ok i said no today So you have sent the NCL with 2sweet? I'm not sure if you are telling us a discussion or an action you took...
Me (BW): 35 Married 1999 with no kids, DDay July 2011, OC born September 2012, Divorce final November 2012.
WXH (Gollum) is corrupted by his A, and now forever bound to it. Plan B has set me free.
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after talkin to 2sweet, it be best if i use Neak sample letter instead of my own. Is thisok if i send this or shuld i write my own?
Ms. OW,
I love my wife. More than anything in the world, I want to be with her. I want a chance to heal the damage my selfish decision to commit adultery has caused. I deeply regret the terrible devastation I caused to my beautiful wife and family.
Out of respect for my wife, I choose to have nothing to do with you ever again, as long as I live. Do not call me, email me, or try to contact me in any way. Ever.
Sincerely, Mr. 2sweet Send this only if you truly mean it. Even if you and 2sweet D, you should NEVER contact OW again. Totally agree with Scotland here...
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guesseveryonegaveup on it ok thanks for what help i got i will leave this site and find a new one thanks everyone
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guesseveryonegaveup on it ok thanks for what help i got i will leave this site and find a new one thanks everyone tsg, Why don't you tell us what is going on? Did your W send the NC letter? Jim
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There IS no other site tsg.
This is the ONE that could guide you to save your family and marriage to your current wife.
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guesseveryonegaveup on it ok thanks for what help i got i will leave this site and find a new one thanks everyone What has prompted this statement, tsg? Your last post was on the 6th at about 5:30 pm. There were four posts to you after that time that you did not respond to. Here we are, less than 48 hours from your last post, still waiting for you to respond to the four posts that were made to you, and you're posting that everyone gave up on you?? Where did you get the idea everyone 'gave up' on you? Sorry, but that doesn't fly. It sounds to me like you don't like being held to a certain standard, so you're going to play the victim card and blame the posters here for not paying enough attention to you. That's pretty bush league, considering that you have insulted your wife, many of the posters here, and have tried to hoodwink us with how 'busy' you are with household chores and your children. Do you think no one here has a house and kids? We know how involved that can be. We also know that every second of your time isn't tied up with chores and children. That sounds noble, but doesn't fly. You've also subjected the members to weeding their way through your posts that are full of typos and misspellings, blaming it on one-finger typing. We don't expect you to accurately type 80 words per minute, but the least you could be bothered to do is to use the backspace key to correct obvious errors. It's as though you can't be bothered. If you don't feel up to doing that simple thing, I question what else you can't be bothered with. I gave up on your thread last week because I was tired of reading your posts - if it's not important enough for you to at least try to be somewhat literate, you can't blame some members for moving on to other posters. I applaud the posters who have stuck it out, trying to help you and 2S. You need to quit whining about how overworked you are, and how everyone is abandoning you. It's unattractive. And it's disengenuous. I suspect you are trying to get out of establishing NC with your ex and are trying to distract the other posters. You've met your match if that's the case. The people here are waaay too savvy to buy that one. Did the two of you get that letter mailed?
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He's looking for ANY excuse to go and not have to do the work he is supposed to be doing simple as that.
He has been avoiding dodging and manipulating his way on here from day 1 so he won't have to tell the truth, do any work or take any responsibility.
I am sad 2sweet is no longer in a position to post here openly as i was silently following her progress but pray that she is ok and that she has moved.
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If you were shocked reading any of this, that this is the consequence of not following MB to the LETTER.
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Mr. 2sweet,
Good luck with all those other sites. You will have no trouble finding plenty that will sympathize with you and buy into your victim status. You will find plenty that believe that No Contact is stupid and unnecessary.
You'll find exactly what you're looking for, but not
HOW TO SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE.
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Mr. 2sweet,
Good luck with all those other sites. You will have no trouble finding plenty that will sympathize with you and buy into your victim status. You will find plenty that believe that No Contact is stupid and unnecessary.
You'll find exactly what you're looking for, but not
HOW TO SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE. can I put this in Marine Corps terms? MAN UP BOY. Quit being a child and post here. The truth. Quit stringing us along and thinking you are fooling us. You have majorly screwed your life up, for what?? half hour of fun with your ex? Please! And now you are going to try and pull the wool over everyone's eyes, except we can't be fleeced. Now.. I challenge you man to man to come back here and post. tell the truth and get to work. CV
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tsg, have you contacted Dr. Harley to see if you could talk to him directly on his radio show? It would probably be very helpful for you. http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi4200_radio.html
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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hey folks just con here to think all of you even though no one belive me my wife and kids are the only thing that imporant to me if yall want to think im blowing smoke up your [censored] than i dont need your help i need people who belive in me and my wife and kids ya i knonw i f----up oh well guess i dont need the help anymore we calling oit quits and my wife and kids are still the most important thing in this world so good luck to yall c u
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woh fyi she is the greatest
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oh fyi last night and this morning we had the best time in bed we had in a long time she is the greatest TMI. Are you saying this to us, or to 2S? Because your last post informed us that you two were quits.
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well went to lawyer this morning got to go back now had to come home dig up 1000.00 for him so we can get the ball rolling if you love something set it freee if it come back it was meant to be
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if you love something set it freee if it come back it was meant to be I always thought this old saying was a crock. I still do.
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