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we both talk to him i think things went real good
2sweet and i have been doing great last few days
dont want to give TMI on that but it get better every day


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ill get 2sweet to verify look at writing she wrote it for me even add a few type o 2sweet is with me and we doing great
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Originally Posted by tsg
ill get 2sweet to verify look at writing she wrote it for me even add a few type o 2sweet is with me and we doing great
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How do you feel you are doing 'great'? What is happening that is different?


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maritalbliss -- you just identified what I'm thinking.

How can everything be "great"?

TSG -- are you ready to get real and start working on your issues?

How did you start the affair with your ex-wife?
What made you take that first step?

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hello all
if i have made anyone mad im sorry
i know now you was wanting to help
to lrt you all know i thank you
would like for everyone to know something else
everything i said about my wife is true i do love her
well everone i fuc-- it up my love is true i was not blowing smoke up anyone [censored]
she is the best woman that ever walked god green earth
i cant stand to see her hurt any more i love her so let me save everyone some time
im [censored] im taking cowared way out i sux im a pieace of [censored] hell if i left anything out feel free
but im going to ask something out of everyone
please go and comfort her dont ask anything about anything let her tell you when she ready
ya im going to lawyer sign everything over even my kids my life everything i hope everyone know i love her but i waited to late and im sorry for that
please just comfort her with no quiestion i thank you from the bottom of my heart and i will always love her thank you for your time and help and i am sorry


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PS I FORGOT SOMETHING
i will watch this tonight after i go to sleep i will not be back unlesss she ask me to so tell her to come back out of hiding so all can comfort her you dont have to tell her to leave any more i lost the best woman in the world and im sorry thank you all take care


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Originally Posted by tsg
hello all
if i have made anyone mad im sorry
i know now you was wanting to help
to lrt you all know i thank you
would like for everyone to know something else
everything i said about my wife is true i do love her
well everone i fuc-- it up my love is true i was not blowing smoke up anyone [censored]
she is the best woman that ever walked god green earth
i cant stand to see her hurt any more i love her so let me save everyone some time
im [censored] im taking cowared way out i sux im a pieace of [censored] hell if i left anything out feel free
but im going to ask something out of everyone
please go and comfort her dont ask anything about anything let her tell you when she ready
ya im going to lawyer sign everything over even my kids my life everything i hope everyone know i love her but i waited to late and im sorry for that
please just comfort her with no quiestion i thank you from the bottom of my heart and i will always love her thank you for your time and help and i am sorry

You know what's really sad TSG? All you had to do was just be honest. 1 little thing. Honesty...

And you lied to us didn't you? And you're still lying here... Your love isn't true, because if it was, you would be honest about recovering. Who cares if we are mad or not? We're just folks on the other side of the computer. Who you destroyed and are destroying... 2sweet and your kids... Honestly it is just sad.

How do you change? Step 1 is just being honest. I mean really really honest.

Sign everything over to her.. Everything. Let her live in peace too. Quit harassing her. You have to get your head straight before you can even think about her and the kids.


Dang.

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Me (BW): 35
Married 1999 with no kids, DDay July 2011, OC born September 2012, Divorce final November 2012.

WXH (Gollum) is corrupted by his A, and now forever bound to it.

Plan B has set me free.

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No wonder we could not get better.

Our children deserve better.

I deserve better.

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i told all no secrets hornsty
i do love you
do you want to take back your answer on that letter
love you babe im sorry


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i was just being honest.
im sorry
i do love her


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ill get 2sweet to verify look at writing she wrote it for me even add a few type o 2sweet is with me and we doing great
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How do you feel you are doing 'great'? What is happening that is different?

Would you like to answer this question? I asked you this yesterday. I am failing to see where the two of you are doing great ***EDIT***, and I'm trying to figure out if you are trying to snow us, 2sweet, yourself, or all of the above.

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tsg --

I believe you. I do think you love 2sweet.

I think right now that you need to accept where you are at.
You've made some serious mistakes that are going to take TIME to fix.

You seem to be fighting against her moving. And panicking about her seperating from you. And I think you need to back off from that and realize that none of that means your marriage is over.
She has not filed for divorce. She does not want a divorce.
She wants you to FIX this.

So stop hounding her about her plans -- and start FIXING your issues. Stop worrying about her actions -- and start taking action on YOUR SIDE of the problem.




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Originally Posted by tsg
hi thanks to the one that want to help .you made 2sweet happy ,i told her i stay if anyone would.going


to talk to steve in the morning.


i love this lady and for some reason she very much in love with me .every day gettin better.and to the ones that though you had to run tell her what i post she knew before she ever looked at hers ,she is also free to look at mine anytime she wants .but i tell her everything .the lawyer i let you ask her you got to have something to tell her .what ever was going to happen there was her choice. never forget i told everyone this is the best lady on gods green earth.....


TSG

Did this happen? If so what can you tell us about it?

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Mr. 2sweet,

Yeah, you messed up pretty bad. It has probably cost you your M, and I totally get that.

I still hope you can stick around. Even if we can't help with everything, we can still walk with you on your journey to become a good person again.

You need to do that for YOU. For your CHILDREN.

There is no going back and fixing what was already done. All you can do is go forward from here, and become the man God intends you to be. I applaud your honesty in telling 2sweet everything, no matter the result.

Time to get started working on you. We can help, with some of that at least. I hope you will stay here and do that.


A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb



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