Good for you.

I posted this on my saa thread but I'll put it here also....

WOW! What is going on???

Today, I ran into my wxw twice. This makes 4 times in the last 2 weeks. Before that, I had only seen her once in 8 months.

The first encounter today was as I was driving by a house where she must have been working (she's a social worker). When I turned the corner, I saw her standing on the porch. When I passed, I looked in the rearview and her eyes were fixed on my car.

The second encounter today was about 1/2 hour later. I met up at the park to chat with a girl a met recently and my wxw drives up. Again, she seemed to be working, but i was surprised she stayed because it was obvious she saw me standing there.

I didn't stay once she got out (since her PO says I'm a physical threat to her...which i'm not). But the real reason I left was the point was made even clearer than what she witnessed the last 2 saturday nights.

The last 2 Saturday she's seen me out having a good time by myself. Today, she saw me talking to another women. She now should understand that I AM MOVING ON!!!!

Have you considered moving to another town so you don't have to see her?

It really doesn't bother me to see her. I'm starting to really believe that I may no longer love her anymore.

If you say so, but not loving her any more doesn't erase the memories or pain. Resentment has to be fired up when you run into her. Seeing her serves no valuable purpose.

This means your lovebank is empty for her.

You may not believe it and it sounds weird to say but i really feel nothing. There is no resentment to fire up.

I just see it this way now. My wxw chose to cheat, destroy our family, limit my time with dd, etc etc but those were her choices to make. I did my best to keep my family together. It didnt work so im moving on. I'M MOVING ON!!!!

Well, it looks like its been quite a while since I've been here. Just thought I'd give a quick update.

I'm still single but its by choice. Hadnt met anyone that ive been too crazy about. There's been some dating but nothing serious.

Right now, ive kinda submerged myself into music. I havent starting writing (I probably should, though). Right now, i do a lot of popular music. I play piano/keyboard and i sing and I've been approached with several band offers.
I do a lot of solo open mic nights and was asked if i would like to be on a local spotlight show on a local TV station.

It was weird! This guy just walked up and interrupted me after my second song. Anyway....i think i might do it. Who knows? I simply started do this music thing because i love it and I'm pretty good at it...

Yesterday, I "booked" my first paid gig. I will be 1 of 4 acts to perform in 30 minute slots at a local bbq & blues restaurant. It's gonna be kinda cool. I've never done anything like that before. I'm getting more excited as that day approaches. I'm actually taking a break now from practicing on the keys to type this post. I can't wait!!!

Thanks for the update and I just finished catching up on your entire year of updates. Nice progress. I really like how you handled yourself and let recovery come to you.

Good luck with the gig and don't be a stranger

I just cannot even imagine myself getting to the point where I can call myself single.

I just want my life back and to rebuild it.

If you have truly gotten to a point where you are over it, run and enjoy your life for those of us that cannot.

If however it is just pride or embarasment and you still love her, dont give up.

In all honesty, I've never stopped loving her and i dont think i ever will. What i have done is realized that she is her own person and that if she chooses to do the things she's done and continues to do (i think...im in plan), then i just have accept that and live my life. She will always be special to me...no matter what!!!

Im on my way to a Halloween party now...fun, fun, fun!!!