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Planning ... remember: God laughs when we make plans. LOL!
I actually LOVE post holidays. I get totally stressed out before the holidays (never get everything done that I want to do to make it extra special for everyone), and then I get motivated AFTER the holidays to start tackling projects/chores/get organized.
Though, if I keep reading/posting on MBs, I won't get anything done!
Back to triggers, though. I'm really of a mind, that I need to get them under control, and simply seek the hug/kiss/squeeze that I need to get through them. I am going to use a visualization that my therapist gave me: of putting this "bad" book, the one that's filled with bad memories, back on the shelf in a high corner of the bookshelf. And take out a "good" book, one of a recent good memory with FWH.
So ... do you really think you'll write triggers down in a log? Hmmmm. I can't say as I'm disciplined enough!
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LOL - Yeah - planning never works out quite right, does it?!
I like your visualization technique. Think I'm gonna steal that one!
I don't know now about logging triggers. You know, it might still be very cathartic, even if I don't share them with H. Getting them out onto paper may help me not dwell.
Have you ever written a long email (or post) and then deleted it accidentally? Then - when you go to rewrite it - you can't think of half of what you said? Sometimes, out of the brain, onto the computer (or paper) frees up the mind!
Just a theory I'm contemplating.
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And I hear ya about being on here, btw. I'm SUPPOSED to be cleaning house at this very moment!!! :0
Although....I did start exercising again today, so I HAVE done something productive. It wasn't necessarily by choice. My son forget something important at home and I literally had to run it up to school. (I don't have a car today.) LOL
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One more thought, then off to the kitchen for me.... Constant: I wanted to let you know I have read your last post over several times. I'm going to print it out. It really made me think about love, forgiveness, and even the heart of God as I progress in this recovery journey.... Just wanted to let you know how thought-provoking it truly was to me. Thanks! 
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Hi Sunny!! Just dropping in to say hey and tell you that was an awesome post to piecesofme! I hope she catches on soon!! Happy new year, friend!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Hi Sunny!! Just dropping in to say hey and tell you that was an awesome post to piecesofme! I hope she catches on soon!! Happy new year, friend! Thanks! I hope she does too! Sometimes people need to understand why they need to act quickly. They're so afraid of "doing something wrong" that they don't do anything - and THAT is more costly than any mistake you can make in a lot of cases! Maybe I should go back and read the entire thread. Sometimes people need to be smart and get their ducks in a row (esp. financially). Other times, they need a reason to act - to understand that inaction is costing them precious moments of resolve. I personally believe the greatest influence a BS has is right after admission of the affair or outing of it. Once a WS knows you know - and esp. after they admit to it - you start losing respect that is much needed to motivate a WS to do the right thing! Happy New Year to you as well! I have a feeling 2012 is going to be GREAT!
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Quick update...nothing much to report except that things are going well. H and I decided to plan a trip for our anniversary! It's this Thursday but we have to wait until the 18th to go. 4 nights away and I can't wait!!! It's always fun to have something to look forward to. Lots of need-meeting going on in the Sunny house!
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Lots of need-meeting going on in the Sunny house! 
Me 56 Former BS Widowed 5-17-09 --married 25 years. 4 children DS-35 previous marriage--18-22 DGrandSons 6 and 4 Me former BS DD-29 with DGDs 5 and 1yr DSs 26 and 23 Teilhard de Chardin..“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.” ...Sounds about right to me.
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Lots of need-meeting going on in the Sunny house! GET A ROOM !!!!
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Lots of need-meeting going on in the Sunny house! GET A ROOM !!!! Well...I didn't say it was THAT kind of need-meeting, BUT.... that's workin out pretty well too. LOL 
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Lots of need-meeting going on in the Sunny house! GET A ROOM !!!! Well...I didn't say it was THAT kind of need-meeting, BUT.... that's workin out pretty well too. LOL  Hysterical bonding... The contest of champions!
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Hysterical bonding... The contest of champions!
Where the best matches all end in ties!
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Hysterical bonding... The contest of champions!
Where the best matches all end in ties! Yep! Not for lack of trying though!
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Ya'll are too funny! Every retort I can think of right now has too much innuendo built in, so I will just refrain. LOL
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Pep, are you suggesting that hysterical bonding is just about victory and not finding a "new balance"?
Last edited by celticvoyager; 01/10/12 11:12 AM. Reason: erp a derp
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SO .... wait.....we're going from Nike to New Balance!!!
HA HA HA!
Where's the drum set icon???
"Just Do It" sounds about right for hysterical bonding!
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 Hmmmmmmmmmm Trying to come up with a non-mod-edit way of saying this ...... If memory serves (16 years ago) ..... I decided one way to wipe the memory of OW clean off my husband was to **** those memories clean off. I went about this task with great gusto and no small amount of sadism.  As in .... "Oh yeah? Well, try and ignore THIS, buster!"It was like stuffing an entire Boston Cream Pie down a diabetic's throat. Followed by a giant 12" chocolate-chip cookie. "Take THAT!" I'm certain I could not do that again. Exhausting.
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LOL, Pepper! I can sooooo appreciate that! It's like make-up SF amplified 10 times!
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Two things about your post, Pep:
1) Trying to "overload" the husband with massive offers/opportunities for...you know...should be the preferred strategem of women in resolving ANY marital issues caused by husbandly errors, assuming they're physically able to hold up to the...demands.
2) Do you mind if I have my bride contact you for guidance on this while I go spill bleach on her favorite black jeans?
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