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markos #2588965 01/22/12 09:39 PM
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So i am in a text conversation now, talking about our son, what her thoughts are about his future. Then i asked where does she hope to be in 5 years and it has stalled. I wish i could just get her to open up.


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Ruikee #2588971 01/22/12 09:57 PM
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Originally Posted by Ruikee
I have asked for an intermediary and she doesnt understand why, she thinks things are fine. There is no conflict during the exchange but i hurt so much seeing her.

Huh? You will not recover your marriage like that, if that is what you want. You have got to win her back.


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Originally Posted by Ruikee
Then i asked where does she hope to be in 5 years and it has stalled.

That conversation doesn't deposit love bank units, because it smells strongly like "Ruikee is trying to persuade Mrs. Ruikee to stay with him."


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markos #2589085 01/23/12 09:49 AM
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Originally Posted by markos
Originally Posted by Ruikee
Then i asked where does she hope to be in 5 years and it has stalled.

That conversation doesn't deposit love bank units, because it smells strongly like "Ruikee is trying to persuade Mrs. Ruikee to stay with him."

Very painful evening. i had try to contact WW to possibly take care of son because i had to possibly go into work. Took a while to respond, she finally said, sorry out of town til Sunday. I figured she went with her parent to see SS at the military school. When I dropped S of on Sunday evening, her parents car was not there. Of course the enemy starts attacking me with all these thoughts.
I just said, Im glad you made it back and she said thanks. And i left.

Markos, i guess i am really bad at this, i thought i was going down the right path after reading friends and enemies of conversation. Conducting the interview, what are your hopes and dreams, intimate conversation. The conversation about our son was very surface. I asked what her feelings were about S possibly having autism. She said i dont know what you mean. I said do you ever think about what you would hope for his life?
She said of course- I want him to love Jesus and find a job that he does well with and is able to make a difference in the lives of others.
Then i said where do you want to be in 5 years. of course no response.
Then i said you looked great this evening, the sweater top looked great on you, have a wonderful week. good night.....

I keep reading and reading and i guess i just dont get it. I know i can do it once i get it.

How can i make love bank deposits each day, how can i make love bank deposits each day. How can i meet her intimate conversation needs?


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Ruikee #2589778 01/25/12 09:06 AM
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Markos/Melody,
Any more input, i really want to turn this around. I really just need to learn how to get it....

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Ruikee, you last posted on January 25. How many times have you had contact with your wife since then, and what have you done during those contacts?


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