You learn something new every day

Okay...and real quick since I know I will get the questions about the biblical nature of this (why women are hardwired to respond to their names being said).

And it is VERY simple. What was the ONLY job Adam was given in the Garden? Anyone? Can anyone tell me what that one job is?

Okay, I'll tell you: his ONE AND ONLY JOB was to name things. He was to put names to the animals, the earth and sky...EVERYTHING. In order to have dominion over the planet, which he was given, Adam had to first name it. He had to go out and show possession of it.

Now, I dont have the Hebrew spelling of this...so I am just going to spell out the names phonetically so you can get this next idea. Adam went through the garden, and began naming things. He saw a lion...and named it "lion." He saw a crow, and named it "crow."

When he woke up after God made Eve...Adam had already given himself the name of "Eesh." (Again, that is NOT the spelling...just trying to get it so you can pronounce it). When he saw Eve, he named her "Eesh-ah." He saw her, and noticed she looked a lot like him. Thus, the "Eesh" part of the name. But, then he noticed also that she was very different. And thus, the "ah" part.

Why do you ladies take your husband's names when you get married? Well, there are many reasons...but at the base of it, it goes back to this. Eve was given to Adam...because Adam alone was not good. Once Eve got there, it was very good.

So, when Adam named her after himself...he not only was showing dominion like he was with everything else he was naming. But, this part of creation was like him. Was a part of him. But at the same time, so very different. It was Adam's recognition of who his wife was and who they were together.

So, you take his name because you are now joined by God. You become one. You both are "Eesh." But you bring the "ah" part to the equation!!

Again, this could be a whole hour long study. But suffice it to say...naming Eve after himself was Adam's very first act of love and protection for his wife. Giving her the "ah" to that name was recognition of his wonderment of this creatue that was so much like him, but so very different.

So, when you say your wife's name guys...it goes right back to this. It goes right to the depths of her soul. In one word, it shows her deep down that you see her as you...but wonderfully different from you.

All in one word.

Beautiful!

Interesting, Mortarman.

So why do I respond emotionally when my wife says my name?

That isnt emotionally, Markos...that is hormonally. LOL!!! Like when I call my dog and he comes running, looking like he is thinking "what do you want? Are you going to feed me? Rub my belly?"

Same concept.

ROTFL!

I'm going to start saying her name in a loving way and see what happens. I'm also going to steal that quote and give it to her.

Is it normal to still cry every day? It's been 4 months!

Why, yes it is. And you will some more.

Nothing new there. Nothing abnormal.

I have my personal counseling appointment tomorrow. I went to a counselor in November, but never went back. I'm going to try to stay with this one. I never filled my prescription for the ADs. I stay away from anything that alters my mind, to include alcohol.

I hated ADs also. I began to "embrace the Suck." You know what I am talking about. I figured, only if I am alive can I feel the pain. So, embrace it. And know it will pass.

Although I stayed away from ADs, I know someone who was using them for a divorce and just went off them and
wow

OMG, he is, now that they have cleared his system.........an explosive, emotional mess.

Just sayin'


(I so wish he'd go back on them for a while!)

Epic. I'm having a shirt made with that.

Every soldier and marine knows exactly what this means.

It is a way of life.

Yep....it's easier to embrace it in my career than with what I'm going through right now. I'd rather invade Iraq all over again.

And folks...if ever someone wants to know how bad it is to be a BS, all you have to do is use the Gunny's quote. "I'd rather invade Iraq all over again."

Single handedly... With only a knife... barefoot...

Yep. I agree

Wow, reading that GJM, I almost cried. The PAIN is so palpable. I always understood it from the "worse than rape" analogy on here, but this one is good for MEN to be represented. WOW

Hey Gunny...a note. This is coming up in my update, but I thought it relevant to you.

My wife once said, with tears in her eyes, as she began to realize the pain she had caused:

"I really didnt understand the depth of what this all did to you/OMW/etc. For a long time, I really thought that you all were just playing it up. I mean, I knew it was painful. But I now realize the pain level I have caused, I still cannot fully comprehend."

In my mind, I was like "Really? You didnt know this wuld be devastating?"

But it was an interesting look inside the mind of a wayward.

The worst part is, my WW always says "the kids will be fine and you'll find someone better that knows how to give you what you want". Ummm....no they won't be and wtf?

They all say that!