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Goldilocks, on my thread, you recently posted:...An affair is such a bad road to go down. Why anyone would choose to do that I don't know. It just snowballs. I see my hubby and I have a long way to go.
I came here less than a week after I physically cheated for the first time. I know I'm still messed up enough to think that it was better in my situation in that I didn't KEEP having a PA. The first time it became physical was also the last.
I'd like to thank you for posting on my thread and being the first one to actually get through to me.
Thank you again, and thank you both for sharing your story.
Sadly, it's truly experience that can speak to another in your shoes.
Keep working.
Me: FWH, 50
My BW: Trust_Will_Come, 52, tall, beautiful & heart of gold
DD23, DS19
EA-then-PA Oct'08-Jan'09
Broke it off & confessed to BW (after OW's H found out) Jan.7 2009
Married 25 years & counting.
Grateful for forgiveness. Working to be a better husband.
"I wear the chain I forged in life... I made it link by link, and yard by yard" ~Jacob Marley's ghost, A Christmas Carol
"Do it again & you're out on your [bum]." ~My BW, Jan.7 2009
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The thing to be careful with here, Goldi, is that you don't use this in any way to try and justify your A.
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Thanks Wulffpack girl. I'm not, and I appreciate your advice, it sounds like our husbands are similar in a few ways. I was wondering if I expected too much from my husband. I really don't know?
We are actually making a small amount of progress.
I have some hope!
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Thank you GO, I'm working.
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One of the hardest things I've ever had to do... 
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Hi Goldi - can you update us? You said you are working...what things have you been doing? If you're not doing the right things, then yes, you could be expecting too much from your BH. The folks here can help you figure out the right things to do to meet your BH's needs (is he willing to take the EN questionnaire?). You also talked about having an anger issue - what steps have you taken to address LB's? How is your BH responding to you - would he be willing to post here?
FWW
"Snow and adolescence are the only problems that disappear if you ignore them long enough." ~ Earl Wilson
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