Her reply: "Ummm thanks for the offer...but I'm uncomfortable...sorry..."

Yeah, G's better at that than me

TW - I hope I didn't offend you. Didn't mean to.

Remember..

Plan A = No Expectations

Now she replied: "Go n do something fun <SW>...u deserve it..."

I'm debating whether to ask her what her plans are, you know, to be cordial. I almost have a gut instinct she's not doing anything. She apparently didn't do anything the first playoff game, and that was a big shock!

Why not plan to take the kids out to eat for the game at a sports bar/restaurant or something like that. Then re-invite her tomorrow. If you get off of your turf, she may be more susceptible to accepting your invite. Could be the source of her discomfort.

Just a thought

TW - that's a very good point. I'll kick that idea around.

Should I ask her what her plans are? Since she did ask me?

Isn't this incredible? 26 years with the woman and I have to ask someone else how to speak with her.

Guess I could reply back "I understand....what are your plans for the game?"

I would have asked her why she feels uncomfortable.

Not incredible at all. This is not the woman you've been with for 26 years. She's an alien wrapped in your wife's body. Right now, you're dealing with someone you really don't know at all. She may look and sound like someone you once knew, but that's it.

I wouldn't ask what her plans are. What's the likelihood she would tell you the truth?

LOL..oh Good Lord no. I can't be offended. My 2 exes sapped that right out of me!

You know GJM, I can't believe I'm saying this, but I feel scared to ask her such a question. Probably cause she'll come back with something like "Duh....figure it out." She's said stuff like that in the past. Just gets me discouraged.

You've had A LOT more conversation with your WW since she moved out than I have with mine.

Persistance my friend...she said a lot of hateful things to me, but I kept on going.

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I totally know what you mean. I had WW over for supper tonight with the kids and I actually wrote a list ahead of time of benign conversation starters for those periods of uncomfortable silence. Sad thing is that I had to refer to it.

I am on the other side - I have Plan A with WH happening. Perseverance is key. He wished I was dead last October. IKEA on Saturday and dinner on Sunday. We have come a long way!

Perseverance is key!

My motto today is if this man does divorce me, then he is by far the biggest fool on the planet.

Eye on the Prize boys!!!

I also kept the invites out there too. I give compliments when I see her. It wears me down at times because the giver is always at work and the taker is throwing tantrums. How bad do you want this?

Very bad. I see no other woman in my future besides her. Plan A for 6 more months - not a problem.

Interesting. Just got off the phone with one of my BILs. He said that my wife had texted his wife (her SIL) this past Tuesday to inform her that she was doing fine, sees the kids almost every day, blah, blah. He said that she texted them out of the blue and offered up how she's been doing. Had been close to a month since she was last in contact with them.

Now this past Tuesday is the day that WW texted me and jacked me a new one for me posting a picture on Facebook of the ice fishing fun I had with her brother the prior Saturday. So she yells at me, then turns around and texts them out of the blue to kiss up and say everything's fine. My BIL can't believe her, says she's way out there and she just expects everyone to think that what she's doing is fine.

Kind of irks me that she told them she sees the kids almost everyday. She hasn't been over to the house since Thursday last week. Hasn't seen DS since then. She did see DD on Wednesday when DD stayed over at her place. She does text the kids most days, but doesn't visit very often.