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We agreed to start listening to the radio show together and have already begun redoing the books together. This is a good step, Mitch. Question: how much time do the two of you spend alone each week? That is, are you following Dr. Harley's Policy of Undivided Attention? The POUA is at the core of Dr. Harley's program: it won't work without it! During the time spent on POUA, you meet four needs: intimate conversation, affection, recreational companionship, and sexual fulfillment. You do this regardless of what needs the two of you rank the highest. These are the four that have to be present for your marriage to be successful and for this program to work. So ... how much time do you guys get together? And how do you spend it?
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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We spend a lot of time together, I would say all the time I am off work we are going to the store, playing games together, watching movies together, or otherwise hanging out without anyone else around. That is one of the great things We did learned from MB that stuck very well.
I would say... maybe 25 hours a week of true UA and 10 to 15 more of partial us such as watching tv together?
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I also am very very very happy to report that for the last three days my wife has been really taking care of herself, making me breakfast and lunch to take to work with me and is really reminding me just how in love with her I am and can really be.
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Quick Update, A week later and She is still on the right track, we are spending more quality time together and things are getting better.
We have however fought four out of the last six days about work drama with a (very dense) female coworker couldn't figure out the meaning of don't call or text me, but thanks to a chat with management that issue should be all but settled.
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