He did not do a NC letter. He said he told her to stop contacting him. But that didn't work because she contacted him again in March of 2011.
Letty - WH really has tired. He's been completely transparent since all of this and we've been really close. Even my family said they've noticed a difference. We did not use this site when we were going through everything but we did/do go to counseling. I feel like asking him to do some of the things on this site would be going backwards. As if it would bring everything back up. I feel safe with him, but when I see her alone I get so angry. You made me laugh with the last comment! Thanks for that!
itsmeagain - I'll ask a friend to look for her.
glad i got a giggle out of you. gotta take 'em when you get 'em!
look, i was in a similar boat. my fwh and i did not know of MB during our "troubles;" i sure wish i had - would have saved me a lot of extra heartache and we could be fully recovered by now. but it's worth doing for how great we are now! and he's happier now too, because i am able to fulfill his ENs (and he mine). i absolutely recommend it. you are only 1 year out - that's not too late.
you can use MB without rehashing the a. that's exactly what we are doing, even all this time later, and i only now consider us in recovery, despite all the hard work we did (blindly) before. it's not about a's as it is making us a great marriage that will last us a lifetime - for real. the EPs are great because they are multipurpose - making you feel safe brings both of you closer together, which strengthens the m. your h can feel good about you and your m when he's working to protect it, just like you will feel good about his actions. if you really felt safe, you would not be having this strong reaction to her (although perhaps i shouldn't be the one to comment here, as i never had to face my ow, and i probably would've knocked her dead if i had, so really, i sympathise!).
seriously - one day in the not too distant future, you will have the occasion to be the one laughing, though you may be so besotted with your h & the great m you've both created by then that you won't even give her a 2nd thought!
