What? That doesn't change anything that I have said in any of my posts to you.

I don't understand your point about it being only "attempted contact" at the workplace. I knew that. This is an on-off affair with the same man who by your own admission has pursued your W for the last five years, including at the workplace which is five minutes from where he lives. I've heard Dr Harley tell a WS caller on his show who had to drive close by to the OW's house daily (affair was over but it had reigniated in the past and he wanted to R with his BW) that he should have moved and should still move. I don't see how this is any different, except that your situation is worse off because OM has stopped by her workplace and has a history of pursuing her.

Call up Dr Harley yourself on the radio show if you are questioning whether the information we are giving you is in line with his writings/philosophy. But I don't think that's the problem - I think you two are not willing to do what he says because you think your situation/her affair is "different" because of her childhood, or that the OM is a creep or whatever. It's not.

Good luck!

I suspect you're looking for unconditional approval. You're not going to get it on this site, because it is clear to other survivors (like me) that you are in danger.

I suspect your wayward wife is keeping you in check by her 'attempts' at suicide.

You'll have to give me more information to convince me otherwise. Until then, I will believe you're being played.

Agreed. And, what's sad is that this is can be turned around. Skiddo, I am going to add what you will perceive as insult to injury with a hug and a fact...not only is your WW not unique; neither are you my friend.

You can defend and fortress yourself and your WW in the "we are different" tower, but it is simply not true.

Good luck.

Also: Skiddo...I LOVE that you are jumping in to defend your wife. Do you feel she is being attacked here? That may be too strong a term, but play it out. What is being advised to you is to protect her now and in the future.

Protect your WW...right here. Don't reply to me and defend yourself. I don't care much for one that fights so much toward a solution. Look your WW in the eye and protect HER.

Help her.