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ok folks thank each and everyone of youy now beat me but show me the way i need all the help i can get i love my wife just old and not to smart if yall will lead me on my way i thank you
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tsg --
Here is what you need to do.
Stop talking. Your words mean nothing, because you have lied to her for a long time.
Show her your love through ACTIONS.
1. Sell motorcycles. Get an ad on craigslist today.
2. Put house in childrens names.
3. Continue with no contact of Xwife. Give 2sweet all passwords and access to prove you are not in contact.
4. Stop spying on 2sweet and trying to control what she does.
Start with those.
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ok let me see oh baby come back public hey good lookin check bath salt
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ok let me see oh baby come back public hey good lookin check bath salt say wha?
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ok let me see oh baby come back public hey good lookin check bath salt
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ok folks thank each and everyone of youy now beat me but show me the way i need all the help i can get i love my wife just old and not to smart if yall will lead me on my way i thank you Okay, you asked for the way, Lexxxy showed it to you: tsg --
Here is what you need to do.
Stop talking. Your words mean nothing, because you have lied to her for a long time.
Show her your love through ACTIONS.
1. Sell motorcycles. Get an ad on craigslist today.
2. Put house in childrens names.
3. Continue with no contact of Xwife. Give 2sweet all passwords and access to prove you are not in contact.
4. Stop spying on 2sweet and trying to control what she does.
Start with those. Are you going to do it, or not?
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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Your situation does not have to be hopeless. Your M still has a chance to be saved...
IF
you get professional help with each issue you are facing
stop trying to manipulate 2s
focus on your own healing.
You've gotten such good advice on here, and persistently refuse to implement it. I still hope to see you change. Regardless of what happens to your M, you will still be a father. Your babies need you to set a good example for them.
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
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Your situation does not have to be hopeless. Your M still has a chance to be saved...
IF
you get professional help with each issue you are facing
stop trying to manipulate 2s
focus on your own healing.
You've gotten such good advice on here, and persistently refuse to implement it. I still hope to see you change. Regardless of what happens to your M, you will still be a father. Your babies need you to set a good example for them. Amen nESRE
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Sorry tsg, but you need to step up to the plate. Not just for your marriage, or 2sweet. But for YOU and YOUR KIDS. No whitewashing. This is decision time.
Start dealing with your own problems as Neak points out... then follow Lexxxy's steps.
Actions... not gibberish.
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Married 1999 with no kids, DDay July 2011, OC born September 2012, Divorce final November 2012.
WXH (Gollum) is corrupted by his A, and now forever bound to it.
Plan B has set me free.
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what kind of mother keed the kids away from a good father a
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what kind of mother keed the kids away from a good father a Are you okay, tsg?
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When you get clean and sober and commit to a program of recovery ... your children will thank you.
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You can become a good father.
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
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what kind of mother keed the kids away from a good father a What father are you talking about, tsg? YOU? Are you clean and sober? Because you don't sound like it. You sound like an addicted man. Wouldn't you rather devote your time to your children instead of your addictions?
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what kind of mother keed the kids away from a good father a Is there some way we can help you? How have you been holding up?
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i been clean over 30 years she is the one that drinks a case a beer and almost a half gallon liq a week
i talk yo my kids on the phone when she lets them and they always ask to come over when they do she take the phone and hangs up im the one that got pic for 32 days in a row of her drinking thanks for asking ill be doing good on the 4/12 court day
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have any of you ever though maybe she not telling the whole truth
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have any of you ever though maybe she not telling the whole truth Have any of us ever thought maybe you're not telling the whole truth? Must ponder.......... tl
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have any of you ever though maybe she not telling the whole truth Sure, it's possible. I question everyone when their stories don't make sense. So you think that you BW has a drinking problem? Have you ever brought this up to her before? Did you ever try to get help for her before? Alcoholism runs in my family and it isn't easy to live with. It comes with a lot of abuse, and that isn't healthy for children to witness. I understand that you feel like your life is crumbling around you and you don't want to lose your children. Sometimes, when something like this happens, BOTH parents see the wrongs of the other and believe that they are the better parent. Your BW must have had some great qualities as a mother, or you would have tried to take them away from her before this, no?
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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my world is not crumbling i think her is we are both good parents and we was doing fine with the kids till about 2 weeks ago she stop letting them come over and only let me talk to them on the phone every few days .i am working to get them court is thursday my lawyer says no problem he take care of it so hopefully i will get them no later than friday she think cause she may so much money she can buy anything my money may be short but there people who have learn her and it got me and extra 7500.00 to fight for the kids so who not trying
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