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You can�t save your marriage by avoiding her anger. Say that 100 times. Saving your marriage will REQUIRE that you tick her off. Lots of good stuff here, but this in particular jumped out at me. You are right. This has made me far more comfortable with my thinking. Anger IS inevitable, you are right. Knowing that makes life a lot easier.
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You can�t save your marriage by avoiding her anger. Say that 100 times. Saving your marriage will REQUIRE that you tick her off. Lots of good stuff here, but this in particular jumped out at me. You are right. This has made me far more comfortable with my thinking. Anger IS inevitable, you are right. Knowing that makes life a lot easier. I think you're getting the idea DG! By all means get your plan in place, keep reading and posting here. But most importantly, ACT. Too many of us betrayed hesitate, frozen with fear, submitting to the wayward and the affair. Meanwhile, the wayward and affair becomes more entrenched. I think the more ticked off a wayward is by exposure, the more impact the exposure had on the wayward.
Me (BW): 35
Married 1999 with no kids, DDay July 2011, OC born September 2012, Divorce final November 2012.
WXH (Gollum) is corrupted by his A, and now forever bound to it.
Plan B has set me free.
"Mourn the man he was. Know the man he is."
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You can�t save your marriage by avoiding her anger. Say that 100 times. Saving your marriage will REQUIRE that you tick her off. Lots of good stuff here, but this in particular jumped out at me. You are right. This has made me far more comfortable with my thinking. Anger IS inevitable, you are right. Knowing that makes life a lot easier. So are you going to expose and tell all the BW of the OM your WW has been with?
FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Think of it another way, if you were to grab the crack pipe from an addict about to puff, would the addict turn to you and say, "Thanks. So glad you stopped me" or would they be more likely to lash out at you?
And yet, you did the addict a favor.
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Helpthelostdads,
Could you check out my thread "am I doing the right thing" and give your feedback on my situation?
I would really appreciate it
Thanks
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