So rs with all the good that happened today exposure would be good tonight.

Get while the gettn' is good.

When are you exposing?

You are simply awesome!

Now get on that exposure.

Yes, I will! I want to make sure he gets served with the PO first, so my kids and I are safe. I expect him to lose it a little:) Or a lot. She will be FREAKING out at him to, "Do something! Stand up for me! Defend my honor!" Yes, I've heard that more than once from OW. Slightly humorous, isn't it?

Defend my honor! Ha ha...haha! No seriously!

Tell me another one.

I just saw your posts, BH and TW. Do you think I should expose tonight? He doesn't know about the PO yet. Hasn't been served. And if he stays on schedule, he will be with OW this weekend - don't' want them together conspiring against me, and him trying to "fix" it all for her, especially if he doesn't have PO yet.

Do you all still think I should expose tonight???

And can I message more than one person at a time? She has like 400 fb friends. Or just 1 every 60 seconds? That'll be a looonnng night. Longer day for her the next day, though, wink wink.

Do you know when he will be served or at least have a general idea? I would maybe wait until he gets served just so that you are protected. I could easily be wrong and will be corrected if so.

Can you believe she says that? She's written it in letters even. Which she signs, "your angel." Angel of death. Can you say, "sociopathic narcissistic nymphomaniac?" Who wouldn't kill for this woman, seriously?

It would probably be better to expose now, than to wait.

That way, the fallout happens before the PO. I don't want anything to happen, but any backlash from him might give you time to get extra evidence to back the PO before it's put into effect.

They told me between 2 days up to as long as a week. He is out of town, I think until Friday, but maybe only until tomorrow (not with OW for once). I was thinking wait for that too. I dunno, though.

This is a temporary PO. I have to go to a court hearing on May 31st (and face him) to get a permanent one. If he violates the temporary PO after he's been served with it and before I go to the hearing for a permanent one, that is a VERY good thing for me (assuming he doesn't kill me:) because they will almost surely grant the permanent one in that situation. So, I almost kinda hope it really does tick him off, and that I'm protected, and it works against him in that time frame. No? I admit I'm feeling all gung-ho right now. But trying to think logically too - art of war. Don't rush into battle unprepared.

I would expose tonight. Hit family from her facebook and people who are married.

You don't have to do all 400 but do a big chunk.

How far away is his business trip?

Okay, how safe would you feel if you did this right now without the protection order served?

This, IMO, is the one thing that has to be considered.

If you feel okay with it, then launch that puppy.

What do you have on your plate this week, Rainy? I'd probably wait if you need to finish out the school/work week or have a lot going on. Once exposure starts it can take a toll on your time. Get some rest.

RS, If you exposed tonight, could you & kids stay with family for a while?

We could camp out on my parents' floor, but not far away, and not any safer. He'd go there in a heartbeat, has before. And the kids would complain - not comfortable. And my parents would have more anxiety than they already do about all of this - not something I want to do to them if I can avoid it.

WH is only about 3 hours away, and I could totally see him storming up here in a rage. I'm a teacher - if he barrels into my workplace, it's a little more traumatic than an office job or something. Yes, they lock outside doors, but kids come in and out from portables, etc. - if he wanted to get in undetected, he could. I just took 2 1/2 days off trying to get the PO. I really can't afford to take more time off. My youngest son also goes to my school - he's in a portable outside, easier to get to if WH sets his mind to it.

I would love to get it over with. But I would fear for my safety. But then, he's kept me afraid of him for a long time, and I'm tired of it.

I would kind of like to finish out the school/work week as BR said. I'm worn out from dealing with all the PO stuff, and my daughter has a party here tomorrow night that we planned awhile ago - can't make her cancel it. But I don't want to lose my courage.

I think I answered my own question. As much as I would feel a lot of relief in just getting this over with, and he is out of town, I just have no idea of what he is capable of right now. I do not know what he would/would not do. He is only 3 hours away, and if he came barreling up here in the morning, he would arrive smack in the middle of a work day for me.

If there is even the slightest possibility that I could be putting other people's children in danger, then I have to wait. I am responsible for 24 little souls every day - their emotional and physical well-being while they are in my care. I can't put them at risk, even if it's only a slight risk. And I'm not sure that it is. It could be a major risk.

So even my safety and my children's aside, I can't risk him storming into my school or classroom.

I'll wait. Thanks, all.

Have you.changed the locks?

He never lived here. The kids and I moved into our own house 4 months ago. He has no key, doesn't know the garage door code - I just changed it again to be safe, and we lock the inside garage door too. There's a broom handle in the sliding door. He can't get in without breaking in, which would cause big problems for him.

Then go ahead and finish out the week. Rest up a bit. You will want to be available if anyone close to your WH asks for more details.

By portable, do you mean one of those classrooms out back behind the school where it's basically just a trailer? You may want to personally speak to his teacher if you are concerned your WH may do something.

Do not let fear of him rule you. But then...it does not look like you will.