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I'd back-pat ya, but I think that the LB$ balance you are building w/ your H is the true reward!
Go, chica, go!
Thanks, H!!!
You're right about that one! I can honestly say that we are very happy and very much in love...a real tribute to the process. I feel like it can only get better from here. I was very proud of us - how we handled things as a couple - with the ton of stress we have both had on us the last few months. Things aren't perfect and I still have thoughts of, "If only he hadn't..." but things are better than good and we haven't even hit the 2 year mark yet.
"The #1 reason why people give up so quickly is because they tend to look at how far they still have to go, rather than how far they've gotten."
I'd back-pat ya, but I think that the LB$ balance you are building w/ your H is the true reward!
Go, chica, go!
Thanks, H!!!
You're right about that one! I can honestly say that we are very happy and very much in love...a real tribute to the process. I feel like it can only get better from here. I was very proud of us - how we handled things as a couple - with the ton of stress we have both had on us the last few months. Things aren't perfect and I still have thoughts of, "If only he hadn't..." but things are better than good and we haven't even hit the 2 year mark yet.
It happens.
Bad days happen.
You just don't let them stop you, ya know?
You brush the thought aside like a cobweb or annoying insect, set your jaw, and keep going forward.
Did you get to see this one yet?
Those thoughts are trying to stop you at the 20. Don't you quit!
"An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field." - Niels Bohr
"Smart people believe weird things because they are skilled at defending beliefs they arrived at for non-smart reasons." - Michael Shermer
"Fair speech may hide a foul heart." - Samwise Gamgee LOTR
Things are really good - and yes, it's great to have a break from classes! My only issue currently is a stupid pinched nerve that has me at the chiropractor every day... not fun. I have a couple of fingers that are numb.. it's crazy.
My daughter has been home from college so I haven't been online a lot. She's working during the summer in college town but coming home when she can, which is always nice. The boys have both been in and out - going to different camps. Although, once S18 gets back today they'll be home for the rest of summer. It's always quieter around the house when S18 is gone because he's the one that is always dragging friends in and out of the house.
Hubby's birthday is Friday so I'm trying to think of something to do for him! It's hard that it comes right after Father's Day because we just did all this stuff for him. He never wants much of a fuss, but I like making a fuss! AND... he deserves it.
Things are going so well... we are both very happy. I did have a bad trigger last weekend that caught me out of the blue. I was surprised, in fact, because I had such a terrible reaction - shaking uncontrollably, etc... and I really thought I was over that. Not that I expected never to trigger again - but I thought I was over having such strong, negative feelings. I got some help from friends to not lovebust (by bringing up the past to H) which was a good thing! But, he knew something was up, of course, and he was a sweetheart. He said he hated that triggers existed - wished they'd disappear. Me too! LOL
Anyway, it was short-lived being that he was so great about everything - thankfully.
Long story short: got a call from a real estate agent from city where Skank lives - saying he would love to show us houses in the area since we'd viewed some homes online. Naturally that was not just a trigger for me - but my mind immediately went to the thought that H had been looking at stuff in Skank's area - and that would mean a lot more than just a trigger! However - as I've mentioned on here before - DD20's boyfriend happens to be from Skank's city (UGH!) - an awful coincidence (several states away). It was DD20 and Beau who had been viewing the houses... not H! After I'd stopped shaking my mind went to that as a possible option, when I heard the voicemail.
Anyway - it really sucks that Beau is from the stupid city that H and Skank conducted the A. I wish it weren't so. But... what can we do about it? Nothing. And ... Beau isn't going away any time soon, I can tell you that. They are head over heels. He's a great guy though... a few years older than she is, but she's always been mature for her age.)
SO...if anyone has any great birthday ideas, I'd love to hear them! Got a Kindle Fire for H for Father's Day - and he loved it!
"The #1 reason why people give up so quickly is because they tend to look at how far they still have to go, rather than how far they've gotten."
Just as a sidenote... DD20 and Beau were not looking at houses to move to Skank City. They were just showing each other awesome houses from both of their home towns. She had to register on the site to view the pics of this one house that apparently is "super incredible" - which is why the real estate agent called. When she registered, she listed our home phone # because we rarely use our home phone anymore. I told her you're supposed to make up a phone # for stuff like that! LOL
"The #1 reason why people give up so quickly is because they tend to look at how far they still have to go, rather than how far they've gotten."
Just as a sidenote... DD20 and Beau were not looking at houses to move to Skank City. They were just showing each other awesome houses from both of their home towns. She had to register on the site to view the pics of this one house that apparently is "super incredible" - which is why the real estate agent called. When she registered, she listed our home phone # because we rarely use our home phone anymore. I told her you're supposed to make up a phone # for stuff like that! LOL
Lol, and just your luck nowadays when you gave the fake number it would be entered into a PC, where a program would tell them the real occupants
"Sorry, that is the address to the local chapter of Save the Whales...Are you a member?"
Then you can feel guilty on two levels
Ah prying eyes, and stores that want your email. I just tell those guys "No thank you" with a smile. The deal ussually turns out to be no deal in the long run
Me 56 Former BS Widowed 5-17-09 --married 25 years. 4 children DS-35 previous marriage--18-22 DGrandSons 6 and 4 Me former BS DD-29 with DGDs 5 and 1yr DSs 26 and 23 Teilhard de Chardin..“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.” ...Sounds about right to me.
Just as a sidenote... DD20 and Beau were not looking at houses to move to Skank City. They were just showing each other awesome houses from both of their home towns. She had to register on the site to view the pics of this one house that apparently is "super incredible" - which is why the real estate agent called. When she registered, she listed our home phone # because we rarely use our home phone anymore. I told her you're supposed to make up a phone # for stuff like that! LOL
Lol, and just your luck nowadays when you gave the fake number it would be entered into a PC, where a program would tell them the real occupants
"Sorry, that is the address to the local chapter of Save the Whales...Are you a member?"
Then you can feel guilty on two levels
Ah prying eyes, and stores that want your email. I just tell those guys "No thank you" with a smile. The deal ussually turns out to be no deal in the long run
LOL....CP....I never thought about that! I guess it's not very polite to make up #s that belong to other people.
Yeah - it isn't too often you get a REALLY good deal. As they say, if it sounds too good to be true....
Good to hear from you!
"The #1 reason why people give up so quickly is because they tend to look at how far they still have to go, rather than how far they've gotten."
Or give them one of these "Rejection Hot Line" numbers for people needing to provide phony phone numbers for undesirable pick-up attempts. In my younger days, I collected ALL of them, kinda like my current "Mod Edit" collection. (I gotta get a life!)
THE NUMBERS by state:
ALABAMA 334-541-0107
ARKANSAS 501-340-3896
ARIZONA 602-230-4210
CALIFORNIA 310-217-7638 (Los Angeles) 916-733-1550 (Sacramento) 858-492-8002 (San Diego) 415-356-9833 (San Francisco) 408-236-2060 (San Jose)
NEW YORK 212-660-2245 (New York City) 516-730-7245 (Long Island) 718-971-5245 845-259-2245 914-269-4245 518-935-4012 (Albany) 315-682-1822 (Syracuse) 716-357-2127 (Buffalo)
NORTH CAROLINA 828-859-2905 704-264-2861 (Charlotte)
The worst (best?) execution was when a young lady handed me her purported business card with the number printed on it!
Now we know the real reason NG "researched" every state's number.
FWW/BW (me) WH 2nd M for both Blended Family with 7 kids between us Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
The worst (best?) execution was when a young lady handed me her purported business card with the number printed on it!
LOL. That's pretty bad when you have it printed on a dang business card!
In one sense it sounds pretty mean to give this # to someone - unless they just won't leave you alone. Why make someone think they have a chance - get their hopes up - just to have them feel foolish and let down when they call the #.
In certain situations though - like this creep that wouldn't leave DD20 alone despite her telling him no and saying she already had a boyfriend - it's deserved!
"The #1 reason why people give up so quickly is because they tend to look at how far they still have to go, rather than how far they've gotten."
Just as a sidenote... DD20 and Beau were not looking at houses to move to Skank City. They were just showing each other awesome houses from both of their home towns. She had to register on the site to view the pics of this one house that apparently is "super incredible" - which is why the real estate agent called. When she registered, she listed our home phone # because we rarely use our home phone anymore. I told her you're supposed to make up a phone # for stuff like that! LOL
Lol, and just your luck nowadays when you gave the fake number it would be entered into a PC, where a program would tell them the real occupants
"Sorry, that is the address to the local chapter of Save the Whales...Are you a member?"
Then you can feel guilty on two levels
Ah prying eyes, and stores that want your email. I just tell those guys "No thank you" with a smile. The deal ussually turns out to be no deal in the long run
LOL....CP....I never thought about that! I guess it's not very polite to make up #s that belong to other people.
Yeah - it isn't too often you get a REALLY good deal. As they say, if it sounds too good to be true....
Good to hear from you!
True story: I used a # for many years that was one digit off from my real # for all sorts of reasons...guys, retail, surveys, you name it. Don't call me, call them!
Then I married H and was glad none of these people had my #. Then we needed a home inspector. Our RE agent recommended one. Guess what his # was? lolol. We hired him. He never mentioned any calls for me.
I now feel bad about giving out (real) bad numbers. He and his wife are great people! We hired them twice. I would use him again if I needed him, and I still remember his #.
Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. Second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience. (Oscar Wilde)
We were in church this morning and our pastor was talking about overcoming "giants" in your life - based on David and Goliath. He went on and on about how struggles can make you stronger if you take the opportunity learn and grow from them.
Then he went on about a lady who showed up in his office several years ago - unable to stop crying because her husband had an affair and left her and the kids. He talked about he built her up with having her focus on what she still had rather than what she'd lost - but yes - it was important to grieve what was lost. Then he mentioned how next year he was doing her wedding to a man who absolutely adored her and the kids...
The great thing was not just the story - but being able to sit there with H holding my hand, thinking just how much we've grown in the past few years. What could have killed us, but didn't, DID make us stronger. And now - just like that lady the pastor mentioned, I have a husband who adores me and our kids, of course - and it's the same man I married over 21 years ago... Well, the same physically, but with a different mentality. And...instead of the pastor's comments making us squirm, it made H squeeze my hand and me look at him and smile.
"The #1 reason why people give up so quickly is because they tend to look at how far they still have to go, rather than how far they've gotten."
Just as a sidenote... DD20 and Beau were not looking at houses to move to Skank City. They were just showing each other awesome houses from both of their home towns. She had to register on the site to view the pics of this one house that apparently is "super incredible" - which is why the real estate agent called. When she registered, she listed our home phone # because we rarely use our home phone anymore. I told her you're supposed to make up a phone # for stuff like that! LOL
Lol, and just your luck nowadays when you gave the fake number it would be entered into a PC, where a program would tell them the real occupants
"Sorry, that is the address to the local chapter of Save the Whales...Are you a member?"
Then you can feel guilty on two levels
Ah prying eyes, and stores that want your email. I just tell those guys "No thank you" with a smile. The deal ussually turns out to be no deal in the long run
LOL....CP....I never thought about that! I guess it's not very polite to make up #s that belong to other people.
Yeah - it isn't too often you get a REALLY good deal. As they say, if it sounds too good to be true....
Good to hear from you!
True story: I used a # for many years that was one digit off from my real # for all sorts of reasons...guys, retail, surveys, you name it. Don't call me, call them!
Then I married H and was glad none of these people had my #. Then we needed a home inspector. Our RE agent recommended one. Guess what his # was? lolol. We hired him. He never mentioned any calls for me.
I now feel bad about giving out (real) bad numbers. He and his wife are great people! We hired them twice. I would use him again if I needed him, and I still remember his #.
OMG... what are the chances?!!!! LOL
That's crazy!
He probably just thinks people called in error since the #s are so close. lol
"The #1 reason why people give up so quickly is because they tend to look at how far they still have to go, rather than how far they've gotten."
And...instead of the pastor's comments making us squirm, it made H squeeze my hand and me look at him and smile.
that's a sweet place to be in, sunny. good for you! yes, the hard work does help really build a marriage, doesn't it?
these days, so many people just fly off and move on, always wondering why nothing lasts for them. i heard someone today say, "we just fell out of love." of course, he was talking about just HIM, not WE. i'm so glad you two have made it through to the other side. it just keeps getting better.
so...hot enough for ya? i saw a photo today of a horse laying in its water trough! i hope poor colorado is able to get the fire under control.
Me too! LOL
