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Go Rainy, start pushing those buttons, fiery hot pink finger power!


Me 46yrs
WH 46yrs "Isildur"
Married: 22yrs 8mths
DS 9yrs;DD 19yrs;DS 21yrs
Bomb drop:marriage not working don't know if ILY 12.11.11
DD:26.11.11
WH moves to OW house 28.11.11
Formal MB Plan A 14.4.12
Plan B 27.4.12
D:20.7.14

"There are moments in life that make us & set the course of who we become. Sometimes they're little & subtle,sometimes they're big & we never saw them coming. No one asks for their life to change, but it does. It's what we do afterwards that counts & we find out who we are."
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K, so I've been exposing for the past hour+. I just got a message from fb that said, "We cannot access your messages right now." Does that mean they shut me down? How long should I wait before trying again? I've been waiting close to 60 seconds between messages. One thing on here said 30, so I thought I was safe if I was close to 60?


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Him: WH 43
Sons: 19, 17, 12
Daughter: 16
DD 8/09
EA started 8/08
PA started 7/09
Brief recovery of a few months in there.
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Originally Posted by happyfuture66
Go Rainy, start pushing those buttons, fiery hot pink finger power!


smile Thanks. I'm like 1/4 of the way done, maybe.


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DD 8/09
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Looks like I'm back up and running, but going slower now - don't want to get shut down. Think I'm gonna go break out the cherry coke:)


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Daughter: 16
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Originally Posted by rainysweet
Looks like I'm back up and running, but going slower now - don't want to get shut down. Think I'm gonna go break out the cherry coke:)

Good job and since it's 1:40 here in ol Utah everyone will wake up to a good morning message!!!

hurray I know it took you awhile but GOOD JOB my friend.!!!!


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Maybe better to wait 60 secs. Good on you, starting to feel empowered?? clap


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DS 9yrs;DD 19yrs;DS 21yrs
Bomb drop:marriage not working don't know if ILY 12.11.11
DD:26.11.11
WH moves to OW house 28.11.11
Formal MB Plan A 14.4.12
Plan B 27.4.12
D:20.7.14

"There are moments in life that make us & set the course of who we become. Sometimes they're little & subtle,sometimes they're big & we never saw them coming. No one asks for their life to change, but it does. It's what we do afterwards that counts & we find out who we are."
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Yes, yes! Thank you both:) I think I just got blocked. I'm gonna try logging in once more in a few minutes. I only got about halfway done:(


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Sons: 19, 17, 12
Daughter: 16
DD 8/09
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Originally Posted by rainysweet
Yes, yes! Thank you both:) I think I just got blocked. I'm gonna try logging in once more in a few minutes. I only got about halfway done:(

200 is still a huge number. If you've been blocked you can still say "you done well".


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hurray


Originally Posted by rainysweet
Exposing this ridiculous rodent tramp

Great nickname!



What would you do if you were not afraid?

"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.

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It let me in again! Yay! K, so I'm gonna go VERY slow, and maybe by the time I have to go to work I'll get everyone done. Thanks, happy and brain for checking on me in the wee hours of the morning. Helps to know someone's up with me:) This is the scariest thing I've ever done. I really am kinda terrified of what pinoke and rodent will try to do. But I do feel empowered too. Someone's gotta stand up to this. ME!!! smile


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Daughter: 16
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Originally Posted by indiegirl
hurray


Originally Posted by rainysweet
Exposing this ridiculous rodent tramp

Great nickname!

Thanks, Indie. Yes, she's rodent. Looks like one, acts like one . . . (shudder!)


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Originally Posted by BrainHurts
Originally Posted by rainysweet
Yes, yes! Thank you both:) I think I just got blocked. I'm gonna try logging in once more in a few minutes. I only got about halfway done:(

200 is still a huge number. If you've been blocked you can still say "you done well".

Thanks. I may have to say that. They kicked me out again.


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Daughter: 16
DD 8/09
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Originally Posted by rainysweet
Originally Posted by BrainHurts
Originally Posted by rainysweet
Yes, yes! Thank you both:) I think I just got blocked. I'm gonna try logging in once more in a few minutes. I only got about halfway done:(

200 is still a huge number. If you've been blocked you can still say "you done well".

Thanks. I may have to say that. They kicked me out again.

So how many messgaes did you send at a time and how long did you wait in between?

You should update the exposure thread so we have updated info on facebook.


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I only sent 1 at a time. I was waiting 60 seconds in between each one, but then I got a little lazy - not waiting quite 60 seconds, so sending 2 closer together, then making sure I waited a whole minute or 2 before sending another (that's what Japandude's thread said he did to get so many sent). I thought they shut me down once, so I waited like 5 minutes and tried again. It let me send one. I waited 2 minutes and tried to send another and it blocked me. I tried to get back on 10 minutes later, but I'm still blocked.

In the "help center" link it also says you may have been blocked because people complained about what you were posting, and to only send messages to friends. ??? Not sure if anyone is really up complaining at 2am, but maybe.

I definitely would wait 60 whole seconds in between. I don't think 30 works.


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Oh, and I got less done than I thought. Only about 1/3 of the way through the list. I divided it into 4 priority levels, and got all of the first 2 levels done -but it wasn't half the list. Like 125 or so. I need to count again for sure. Oh well. It's something. I really wish I could have gotten to all 400. Not sure how Japandude managed to pull it off. Maybe me not being able to do it through her thread had something to do with it? No clue.


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Well you done well and so go get some sleep.

Now whether you get feedback or not or whether it's supportive or not don't let the negative responses get you down.


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Originally Posted by rainysweet
Oh, and I got less done than I thought. Only about 1/3 of the way through the list. I divided it into 4 priority levels, and got all of the first 2 levels done -but it wasn't half the list. Like 125 or so. I need to count again for sure. Oh well. It's something. I really wish I could have gotten to all 400. Not sure how Japandude managed to pull it off. Maybe me not being able to do it through her thread had something to do with it? No clue.

125 still rocks my friend.


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Thanks, Brain. Did you just delete them? Not respond? Negative responses, I mean.


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Daughter: 16
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Soo, if you get shut down during exposure, do you try to go back and finish your list in a couple of days when they let you back in? Or just the bomb's off and that's it with whomever you got to?

Just wondered. Didn't think about that before.


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Still can't get back in, and I'm exhausted. Guess I'll try to get 3 hours of sleep before work:) Thanks for the encouragement, everyone. Good night! Wish me luck tomorrow - that all the bombshells fall where they will do the most damage, and that pinoke leaves kids and me alone:)

I've been a bit "me" oriented this last week, with all that's been going on. Hope all of you are doing well in your own little worlds. Think of you, pray for you. Thank you for taking time to step into mine.


Married: 22 years
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Sons: 19, 17, 12
Daughter: 16
DD 8/09
EA started 8/08
PA started 7/09
Brief recovery of a few months in there.
Separated 10/10
Legal Separation 8/11
Plan B 5/17/12
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