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I have blocked him and rodent. They can't reach me. They can call you from a different number and it will get through. If you change your number then they can't. A rodent finds small cracks and get in the house. HAHA. So true. She so does that. Yuck. So would you change all my kids' cell phones too? We have no home phone, just a cell phone plan since I have 3 teenagers. What a pain! But you all said stay on fb right? Don't close my fb account? Also, would you guys try to message more of her contacts in the next day or 2 when I get unblocked? Or you just hit once, get who you can, and that's it? I only got to about 1/3 of her list before I was shut down.
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rainy, i am SO PROUD of you! it doesn't really matter that you didn't hit the whole list if you did your 2 strategics lists first. if i were you, i'd try to finish, but it may not really be necessary.
i am so thrilled you finally did it! you go, girl!!
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So thoughts on trying to expose to more people on rodent's list? Do people complain and get you shut down? Trying to be strategic. Not sure if I can send messages today, or if I'm still blocked anyway. But is it better to wait until late at night so people don't find out as messages are coming in? I'm down to the more questionable people on her list, who may freak out at me. I got one scathing message from her upstanding Christian friend about how I'm just trying to hurt poor rodent. (I admit I WOULD like to leave a rat trap on her front porch or sprinkle her chocolate covered strawberries with D-con). The rest were supportive. Even her own sister said, "Why didn't you do this 2 years ago? Can I forward it to everyone I know?"  That made me happy.
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So thoughts on trying to expose to more people on rodent's list? Do people complain and get you shut down? Trying to be strategic. Not sure if I can send messages today, or if I'm still blocked anyway. But is it better to wait until late at night so people don't find out as messages are coming in? I'm down to the more questionable people on her list, who may freak out at me. I got one scathing message from her upstanding Christian friend about how I'm just trying to hurt poor rodent. (I admit I WOULD like to leave a rat trap on her front porch or sprinkle her chocolate covered strawberries with D-con). The rest were supportive. Even her own sister said, "Why didn't you do this 2 years ago? Can I forward it to everyone I know?" That made me happy. Oh, and Brain, I'm so grateful for your suggested response. Thank you! I answered her, "Interesting that you think I'm the one who is bent on hurting others. Thanks for sharing your opinion. I hope she doesn't come after your husband! Have a great day:)" Then I blocked her 
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So thoughts on trying to expose to more people on rodent's list? Do people complain and get you shut down? Trying to be strategic. Not sure if I can send messages today, or if I'm still blocked anyway. But is it better to wait until late at night so people don't find out as messages are coming in? I'm down to the more questionable people on her list, who may freak out at me. I got one scathing message from her upstanding Christian friend about how I'm just trying to hurt poor rodent. (I admit I WOULD like to leave a rat trap on her front porch or sprinkle her chocolate covered strawberries with D-con). The rest were supportive. Even her own sister said, "Why didn't you do this 2 years ago? Can I forward it to everyone I know?" That made me happy. Keep exposing! You have absolutely nothing to lose at this point. Just slow it down a little. You only get locked out of FB for an hour or two when they think it's spam so you could've started back up sooner. I would get going again now.
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Okay, thanks, Tiger. The fb note said it could be because people were complaining about my post, so I wasn't sure.
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So thoughts on trying to expose to more people on rodent's list? Do people complain and get you shut down? Trying to be strategic. Not sure if I can send messages today, or if I'm still blocked anyway. But is it better to wait until late at night so people don't find out as messages are coming in? I'm down to the more questionable people on her list, who may freak out at me. I got one scathing message from her upstanding Christian friend about how I'm just trying to hurt poor rodent. (I admit I WOULD like to leave a rat trap on her front porch or sprinkle her chocolate covered strawberries with D-con). The rest were supportive. Even her own sister said, "Why didn't you do this 2 years ago? Can I forward it to everyone I know?" That made me happy. Oh, and Brain, I'm so grateful for your suggested response. Thank you! I answered her, "Interesting that you think I'm the one who is bent on hurting others. Thanks for sharing your opinion. I hope she doesn't come after your husband! Have a great day:)" Then I blocked her You go girl!!! Love it!!! I love your response to her "Christian" (I say that lightly) friend. She better watch her own husband. You told the sister " yes please forward it to everyone including her BH again" I love when family members of OP support the betrayed. That speaks volumes. Don't you feel fantastic?
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So thoughts on trying to expose to more people on rodent's list? Do people complain and get you shut down? Trying to be strategic. Not sure if I can send messages today, or if I'm still blocked anyway. But is it better to wait until late at night so people don't find out as messages are coming in? I'm down to the more questionable people on her list, who may freak out at me. I got one scathing message from her upstanding Christian friend about how I'm just trying to hurt poor rodent. (I admit I WOULD like to leave a rat trap on her front porch or sprinkle her chocolate covered strawberries with D-con). The rest were supportive. Even her own sister said, "Why didn't you do this 2 years ago? Can I forward it to everyone I know?" That made me happy. Oh, and Brain, I'm so grateful for your suggested response. Thank you! I answered her, "Interesting that you think I'm the one who is bent on hurting others. Thanks for sharing your opinion. I hope she doesn't come after your husband! Have a great day:)" Then I blocked her You go girl!!! Love it!!! I love your response to her "Christian" (I say that lightly) friend. She better watch her own husband. You told the sister " yes please forward it to everyone including her BH again" I love when family members of OP support the betrayed. That speaks volumes. Don't you feel fantastic? Yes it does, and yes I do! Thanks!
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Even her own sister said, "Why didn't you do this 2 years ago? Can I forward it to everyone I know?"  Good job, rainy! 
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Great job RS!!! And I am happy to hear your WH has not even tried to contact you! Surprised, but pleasantly so:)
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Even her own sister said, "Why didn't you do this 2 years ago? Can I forward it to everyone I know?" Good job, rainy! Thanks, BR. Thanks for all your help:)
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Great job RS!!! And I am happy to hear your WH has not even tried to contact you! Surprised, but pleasantly so:) I am quite surprised myself. Hope it's not a bad thing. Maybe he had a heart attack. Or maybe it's all the prayers on my behalf.
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Been working on Round 2 of exposure for the past 2 hours - going much slower tonight so as not to be shut down. May be up all night - who knows?
What do you think about exposing to teenagers on rodent's fb friend list? Nieces and nephews, and then I assume friends of her kids? Or even kids she's taught at church? Yes, or horrible?
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I wouldn't personally send messages to teens.
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i wouldn't either, though to the supervisor(s) in charge of her teaching (sunday school?) would be effective. good luck rainy! so proud of you!
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How many hours have I spent on exposure? Holy cow. I could barely stay awake at work today, so I got an early start tonight - 7:30. I'm still going and it's almost 1:30. Hope it's worth it! I hope the skank doesn't dare show her face again, to anyone.
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GOod job, Rainy!! 
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GOod job, Rainy!! Thanks, Melody:)
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Theres no stopping you now! Well done Rainy round 2. I'm so glad you've received supportive replies. I'm really suprised Pinoke is laying low ... not a bad thing though. I agree I wouldn't PM teenagers. Hope you enjoy a well earned sleep when you finally get it. Doesn't it feel great to expose! 
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Rainy, AMAZING JOB. Once you are done with exposure, then you can get into the safety of Plan B, and begin to really heal.
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