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Re: Not sure what to do
SugarCane #2634449 06/10/12 04:05 PM
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Point taken about my wording

My intent with the post was to point out that he isn't fully owning his action

From his narrative, it sound as though she may know him well enough to draw her own conclusions. Maybe she has.

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Re: Not sure what to do
ItCanGetBetter #2634452 06/10/12 04:11 PM
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Originally Posted by CanItGetBetter
My intent with the post was to point out that he isn't fully owning his action
That's how it seemed to me, too. He wrote as if he got caught up in the crime in the same way we might say we got caught up in traffic!

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Re: Not sure what to do
SugarCane #2634492 06/10/12 07:08 PM
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Thanks for all the support

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Re: Not sure what to do
SugarCane #2634499 06/10/12 07:57 PM
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Originally Posted by SugarCane
Originally Posted by CanItGetBetter
My intent with the post was to point out that he isn't fully owning his action
That's how it seemed to me, too. He wrote as if he got caught up in the crime in the same way we might say we got caught up in traffic!
I think you all are spending time looking at something that is immaterial. He committed a crime. He went to jail. He served his time. I'm not interested in whether or not he is actually guilty of his crime. He is now getting out and wants to hook back up with a woman who knew him as a wealthy man. She's suddenly out of the picture (take a hint, JK). Steve has apparently instructed him to Plan A a woman he isn't even married to. I will take a pass on this. JK, good luck with your girlfriend.

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Re: Not sure what to do
JK #2634996 06/12/12 03:22 PM
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Easy come, easy go. If it was like a lightning strike, it can die just as fast.

She IS telling you. Her silence speaks volumes. The question is, are you listening?

If she wanted to be involved with you, wild horses couldn't have kept her away for the time you were away.

Her actions send the message that she doesn't want anything to do with you.

I believe she HAS told you with her actions.

Will you receive and accept the message?

Originally Posted by JK
Armymama,

Thats fine if thats the case, then she can tell me. but i don't believe it, our relationship was like a lighting strike.

U;m not ready to throw in the towel, ;m simply looking for help on some ideas with Plan A, so i can begin a dialogue.

Thanks

JK
Re: Not sure what to do
maritalbliss #2635345 06/13/12 02:33 PM
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From this woman's point of view: She has teenagers and the last two guys she got involved with went to prison. If we knew her we would tell her to run far and run fast.

Your plan should be to leave her alone and move on. She is telling you that. She won't contact you directly to tell you that because, guess what? She doesn't want to contact you. If she responds, then you learn if you keep bugging her she will respond.
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