Yes, it IS a very sweet place to be in!

I think marital views have changed over the past several decades where people are more willing to walk away than work things out. Society is just so focused on immediate gratification. And don't you just love how waywards use the word "WE" when talking about "falling out of love" and such? So frustrating.

And YES...it's WAAAAY too hot. I hate summer. You know how some people have the winter blues? Not me - I have summer blues. lol. I have no energy when it's this dang hot. Although - I know you're struggling with it being too cold right now. Wanna trade???

I haven't posted in awhile - not much going on here in Sunnyville!

I am a little down these days because I have 3 herniated disks in my upper spine/neck area and I can't do much of anything! My days are all scheduled around daily appointments with the chiropractor for traction - not a lot of fun. I've not posted about it because I'm trying not to focus on it but I'm getting exasperated!

Yesterday I sent H an email saying how it was frustrating me to not be able to do anything: I feel like I am an invalid and I don't like it! It's kinda depressing... He sent me a short but encouraging note back.

I am praying that this darn traction stuff works. My right hand and fingers have been numb for over a month now! The daily traction is not a fun process; it is causing soreness and other non-fun stuff like the inability to sleep... But...I have to deal with it for now because it's supposed to work, long term. (I definitely want to avoid surgery!)

I'm trying hard to stay positive and still meet H's needs and not commit lovebusters by being cranky. lol.

A few months ago I would have loved some down time...but now that I have it....I hate it!!!! LOL (OK, so...it's not exactly the down time I would have imagined. I'm sure that makes a difference!)

Anyway, this is just life sometimes and I know other people have more serious health issues to deal with so I am remaining thankful. I just need to keep my mind busy and not focused on what I can't do at the moment.

Jeez Sunny have missed you and sorry you had to end up in traction so you would come back

But seriously I hope you feel better soon and are jumping hurdles ASAP

Thanks, CP!!!! I've been posting here and there on other threads, just not as much going on in my own sitch - which is a GOOD thing!!!

Hmmm... I've never actually done hurdles but maybe I should put that on my "after traction" list of things to do!!!

Call all techies - or at least one techie...


Can someone tell me how to do my links (on my signature) where you just make the statement "link to thread" the link???

THANKS!!!!!

Do you have the button that shows "create a link to webpage"?

Also if you want to just copy it from here.

Recovery Thread
Original Thread

I KNEW you would help, BH!!!!

No, I don't have the "create a link to webpage" button... so I'll copy and paste it from your 2nd post. THANK YOU!!!!!!!

Although, I suppose I should learn, lol. I can google it and follow directions though.

Well...darn.

I tried copying and pasting and it didn't work. When I first tried, it copied the words but not the links.

The second time I selected "copy link location" and it copied the links but not the words.

OK... I'm a smart cookie, I SHOULD be able to figure this out, but still!

Maybe one of these will work?

link = Makes the given url into a link.
link = Makes the given title into a hyperlink pointing to link

so in title you would put Recovery thread and the url would be the link. maybe?

I'll try that. Thanks, RQ! And keep us up to date with where you're at. I've read Kiss' thread... sounds like you've made no bones about wanting him to step it up. Good on you.

Thanks Sunny

hey, sunny, i saw your post awhile back about your discs, and that you're going to a chiropractor. have you ever heard of an osteopath? i visit one (and so does H) as needed, and they are like magic! no cracking of backs necessary. i know that osteos aren't too popular there (i had never heard of them before moving here), but mine tells me that there is an osteo association there, so there must be some! our insurance covers osteo visits as well (and so does ACC, our national accident health cover, when it's accident-related).

with my lupus, i often have fibro pain, and periodically (like now), when i'm under a great amount of stress, my neck and shoulders tighten up like boulders, affecting my lower back as well. with 2-6 visits, i'm back in prime shape! my osteo also practices eastern-style stuff too, like chinese cupping.

i cannot recommend them more highly! do have a look around and give one a try if you can. you may find more pain relief, and better management of your disc problem, without any additional pain via the visit.

I haven't checked into an osteopath, Letty. Sounds interesting! Right now I'm doing this traction therapy called Vax-D. You go for 25 straight days (excluding weekends) and they put you on a special traction table. Every day they increase the amount. After traction you do electrode and ice treatment, followed by ultrasound and massage. So far it has helped me improve, but I hate having to go daily. Makes me feel like an old person, scheduling my life around dr appts. LOL.

I'll be done in 2 weeks with traction and then I think I'm supposed to do stretching and physical therapy.

BUT... I'm always up for looking into alternative ways of doing things.

Thanks for the suggestion!

On another note...

I will confess that all this disk stuff has made me a lot less active than I'd like to be. I see a bit of depression sneaking in, which I don't like at all.

The physical issues make it harder to be the best wife and mom I can be: it limits the way I can meet H's needs. He is understanding, of course, and we work well together on making sure those needs are met. It's just a downer to me; I've gotten used to being the vibrant person I want to be and I have felt I've been knocked back a bit.

H has several medical issues too, including a disc issue in his lower back which he is going to eventually have surgery for.

It definitely works against recovery, it is hard enough to keep your spirits up when you are fighting infidelity, but then to add constant pain on top of that.

Yep. Fortunately we are far enough into recovery that I don't get a lot of triggers these days over the A. (Although, depression can bring on those triggers so I'm trying to monitor that! I've had depression in the past so I'm very cognizant that if I need to go back on meds, to do so if I fall into that pit again.) Always important to keep in mind the long term goals in situations like this.

yes, unfortunately, there are times where we have to acquiesce to our bodies' needs, and it does suck! i, too, worry about not being able to need meet when sick. had a little butterfly just last night about not making dinner, as i was in bed napping with this flare up! but, you know, sickness and in health, right?

do check into the osteopath. you'll be pleasantly surprised, i think!

oh chronic pain - that's something i know too much about! the trick is to manage it, and stay away from narcotics unless you have a super-bad flare up. those drugs are too addictive, and doctors hand them out far too freely.

Yeah, I'm not one to take meds unless I absolutely have to. I turned down going on any narcotics but did opt for one medication that will help with the nerve issues I'm having - after CAREFULLY checking it out. Because of the specific disks that are out of whack, I have had numbness and tingling in my arm and fingers - so it helps with that.

Yeah the cronic pain versus the narcotics choice, only have one opinion on that, with many attitudes within that also

Of course getting rid of the pain is desirable, but why wouldn't it be? It's pain

I remember being 13 when I started dealing with cronic pain from an accident and realizing what happened in my thoughts and emotions was much worse and depressing than I wanted to experience, so I took the pain unless I couldn't sleep

It surprised me how many people would choose oblivious deadening over honest suffering of pain, and even seek that feeling

If they could only use a drug that would effect just the pain but not our emotions, but that is also unrealistic, because pain effects our emotions

Sorry you have to deal with this Gals, and glad you are responsible enough to take them only when you have to