I meant it with the greatest admiration, my friend.



God Bless you, rainy.

And here's hoping that all hell actually does break loose tomorrow.

I am SO ready to be done! I just want to be a bissful, dark Plan B woman, living a great happy life with my sweet kids.

He has, and He does. God bless you too.

Rainy you rock!

I guess when his little princess gets the notice he will see who's the biotch now.

It will also speak loudly to her enabling BH. Maybe, just maybe this might wake him up? One can hope for those poor kids.

Boy this will rock the affair boat now won't it?. Karma!!

WOW rainy, WOW!

I also LOVE that you are going after the BH. There are consequences to beng an enabler!

That's amazing!

You can stand proud, you ARE representing art of war at its finest

Hats off rainy, its all I can say.

Oh, and we're all cheering you. Keep us updated.

Rainysweet,

WOW!!! This is the pinnacle of affair busting!!

I hope today and all the future days go well for you. Your kids have an amazing mom.

AM

I have added you to this list. You are one special lady, RS

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Thank you, Susie.

And thank you all for cheers and prayers today.

I really just want to be free to take care of my children, and raise them in peace.

If you stick to a dark Plan B you will have the peace, my friend.

I know, Brain. I'm trying. Pray, pray, pray this a of a case ends it, and makes DARK completely possible. I get feeling better, the kids are happy, and then I get slammed with something that sends me back to square one - like his attorney telling mine he wants the kids for Father's Day. And he's disputing the PO. I just want to stay out of court. He's missed every holiday, birthday, event, occasion - everything - for a year and a half while he was busy with the hooker. Now he thinks the kids can't wait to see him on Father's Day????

I know I want to just stay DARK. He died. Bury him, and move on. I actually missed him today for a minute - then I kicked myself for being so stupid.

That's why all the prayers are greatly appreciated. I hope we're winding down to the end here.

You're working hard to get to that point where you can be dark, Rainy.

You realise that the sooner you get there, the sooner you begin healing.

You've been relentless in working hard for you and the kids.

You deserve a few Plan B treats!

I remember asking for the password to our cable TV account. Simple IM request. The password was 'valentine' which is my birthday. I wept for two days solid off the back of that one.

Rainy,

You've been in limbo for 3.5 years and then the warrior woke up. Now you've been fighting this affair full speed and head on. Of course there's going to be moments, and unfortunately a lot of them because you still have to deal with their crazy arses with the PO and alien of affection lawsuit.
He only wants his kids on Father's Day because he's trying to "make himself" look good for the PO. Judges aren't dumb.

You're tired, my friend and understandably so.
Self care is so dire during these stressful times. This is Why Dr. H teaches so much about when staying to long in Plan A and Plan C is so dangerous to your health. Please make sure you treat yourself like Indie stressed.

You're right, Brain. Pinoke wants to make himself look good, make me look like the rotten ex for not forcing the kids to go with him (I can just see it - "She wouldn't even let me take the kids on Father's Day!"), but more than anything - I think he just wants to get to me and that's the only thing left to do it with - my kids. I honestly do think it's very strange he isn't spending it with rodent. Probably he is. Maybe I should have called his bluff. I am tired, it's true. Trying to survive the last 2 insane weeks of school too. If the a of a got resolved, pinoke started paying CS again as part of that, and if he and rodent went away, school got out - all within 2 weeks - WOW! I would have like an amazing month to just relax and BE. Now that is a happy thought.

I took DD16 to pick out flowers for the yard this morning. I love flowers. We (all the kids and me) got sod finished in the front, and sprinklers - yay! DD16 and I spent a fun morning picking out flowers, and we will get them planted this afternoon. Good time with her. She's very good at the bargain shopper thing, so we got a lot of stuff with the certificate the builder gave us - I didn't have to spend any money on plants/flowers. Plus the color in front of my house after 6 months of dirt will REALLY make me happy.

DS19 put rat poison out all over the place for me. I asked him for help, which I try not to do, but he loves me enough to come and do it. Have seen no more rats! Another happy thing. He went on a weekend road trip with friends, has really needed the break, so that makes me happy for him. DS17 and DS12 are both hanging out with friends today as well. That's big for both of them. They have both struggled. I've tried to keep the current tension from them - the PO has been such a good thing for all of them, helped them to relax and start enjoying life again.

All happy Plan B things.

And I told my 4-year-old nephew, when he came with my brother to help with sprinklers last night, that I would make him cookies this weekend. He looked so stunned when he asked for a cookie and I said I didn't have one, that it kinda made me laugh. He said, "But you always have cookies, Rainy!" Made me kinda happy that I'm the homemade cookies aunt, but I felt a little guilty that I didn't make them for him this time. I don't have them around a lot, but I guess I do usually make cookies when I know he and his little brother are coming. So it will make me happy to do that for him, and see his sweet face. He is hilarious, so just talking to the child is uplifting.

I may also enjoy a cookie or two myself. (Shhh!)

As soon as this yard is done - I am going to paint my nails some crazy color!

Thanks, Indie.:) And thanks for sharing your own things. Crazy how something so small can turn you so inside out, isn't it? Makes me feel better to know it's not just me.

Rainy, you are a good, sweet woman...and a beast!!!

AoA case...wayward strokefest in the making!!

Thanks, Raven. You're awesome. I sure hope so on the case.

Got a demand letter from pinoke about taking down the website. My lawyer quit helping me because of it. New lawyer said it's probably a better idea to take it down to be safe.

Am I really crazy and awful that I did that? Not sure what to think on taking it down, either. It bothers rodent sooo much. And I'm so tired of bowing to their threats - that's why we're all here in the first place.

Maybe it's served its purpose and the a of a case can take it from here. Or maybe I'd be throwing away my biggest bargaining chip since she so can't stand her image being defiled. Thoughts?

I did check stats on it for the first time - over 500 hits the day after the biggest exposure. Crazy, huh? I had no idea. So if all these people don't want this info, why do they go look at it?

Oh, the letter was dated before he got the a of a notice. Maybe that's changed it all. His lawyer wrote it, not him. Clearly, he's just as crooked though.