This is critical, Joe. Not only does this make it clear to your children that they are not the reason for any uneasiness in their family - your WW can't spin any wayward comments that could turn your children away from you.

Thanks guys. I got hit again today though, and I don't know anymore.

I found, on her face book page, about 8 or 10 guys that she was flirting with, some mild and some down right disgusting. I couldn't believe it.
So I made a list and took it over to her crappy rental house of sin.
So there I am with my list of names and I ask if she can tell me who these people are and I asked if any where physical. At first she acted like I was retarded so I told her what all I had found, and that some of them where very very flirty and I didn't even read through them all, god only know what else is buried in there.
As soon as I told her what I had and asked to explain it she said "but we were separated then"
She got mad at me and hit me with the past, said she was all alone and abused for so long.
I asked if we could both put down our ammo and start going to work. I still am willing to try.
But she gave me some crap like "I just don't love you anymore."

I'm going tomorrow to get on anti depressants, I don't know how much more of the lies and blaming that I can take.

sorry to interrupt, but shouldn't joe be posting in his own thread? posting in sab's thread is confusing, and i'm concerned about them crossing over.

joe, you do have your own thread, right? i'll go have a look now.