Oh Hoping, I'm in a low point right now!

Two months is VERY early.

Let me clarify, that my low point I'm in has no sadness, not really, and I've never had any guilt whatsoever. Its very subtle. The lows aren't quite so low any more.

I turn into a bit of a couch potato is all and I mull a bit too much.

I never felt any guilt at all. I'm not really the type who does. Plus he rejected all my Plan A offers of a wonderful marriage and was horribly hostile to me. I grabbed on to Plan B for sanity and he has never given me a reason to doubt my course of action.

I still feel sad sometimes, but in a very low key way.

Its been - ohh months since I felt really truly sad for more than about half an hour.

At your stage I was struggling to keep my head above water.

I would say every month brings a significant improvement and at the five to six month mark,the coaster will slow down to a much more low key point.

But you know what? I've had good times right the way through my Plan B. From the first week.

Are you stocked up on silly comedys? That's my number one tip.

I also don't stress about my terrible sleeping or eating in a low point. Its goes a bit heywire but then I get back on track.

Hi all,

Here's an update on me:

I am 2 months and 8 days into a very dark Plan B and I have to say that I feel almost as good as new now. I know I will probably have some more dips in this rollarcoaster ride but I know that I have reached a new stage today. I actually went on my FB, locked all of my old wedding photos, and even left a few photos that WH are in up because it didn't really bother me to look at them. I didn't have any sadness, anger, regret or longing looking at the pics of our happy days and I feel great.

I have felt great for about the past week and am excited for my new job and my new life. It's amazing that I'm able to have this much improvement in just over 2 months after the abyss that I felt I was falling into when I first found out about WH's waywardness and the fallout afterwards.

I now feel good in my new life and I relieved to part from WH. I realize now that we are not right for each other in the first place and I am much happier without him.

I will start my new job in September at the sliding-scale family medicine clinic. I plan to delay moving out of my parents house until after I am settled into the new job. I like living with my parents anyway and I want to have some comfort when I am thrown into unfamiliar occupational territory.

I wish everyone else a happy and healthy recovery and hope that you will have a peaceful time in Plan B as well.

You sound like you're in a really good place, Hoping! A successful recovery doesn't always mean that the marriage is recovered, but that you are recovered.

Well done.

So glad to hear that you are doing well!!! It's a relief when you take yourself out of the madness by doing plan B right.

I'm sure your parents don't mind. They'd probably rather you adjust now, than move out quickly, perhaps not do well, and then have to come back and re-adjust later to the job.

Much better odds of you doing well this way.

So proud! Speechless!

My parents would actually prefer if I lived with them indefinitely. They are wonderful, so supportive and completely non-judgemental. I'm so happy to have them and I should credit my recovery in large part to them!