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Originally Posted by black_raven
Al, maybe I missed it but have the As been exposed to your families?

AI,

Trt just said his affairs weren't exposed. Not even your friend's BH? The one that he just admitted was a PA? Her BH needs to know.


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Originally Posted by BrainHurts
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Al, maybe I missed it but have the As been exposed to your families?

AI,

Trt just said his affairs weren't exposed. Not even your friend's BH? The one that he just admitted was a PA? Her BH needs to know.


His recent PA was exposed to both our families, although he hadn't told me the full truth about it then.
The newly revealed PA (happened about 7 years ago) has not been exposed.

But neither of these PAs were with married women. They were/are both single. He's pretty good at targeting adultery partners who no one in their right mind would ever want a real relationship with.

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Lots of action being taken today. He's gathered up stuff to sell to help cover the polygraph and is doing that now. He booked it for Thursday. He's writing out all the details of his infidelity to come clean before the poly. He's acting like a man who's finally caught on (ie, not blaming or threatening me with his future resentment because he needs to do this).

He says even if I read the truth and leave him, at least he'll have finally been honest, and done everything he could.

After 7 weeks of lies and trickle truth and manipulation, I guess it makes sense that I have a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach and am dreading finding out whether this is just another tactic/game.

I hope it's the real deal and I'm ready to work as hard as I ever have at this...but I'm far from blind to the possibility that it might still be a game.

Waiting and watching.
Trying not to throw up.
The uncertainty is almost over.

If you have a spare second sometime today, think of us...hope and pray that he has finally, finally figured this out.

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Originally Posted by AlmostInvictus
Lots of action being taken today. He's gathered up stuff to sell to help cover the polygraph and is doing that now. He booked it for Thursday. He's writing out all the details of his infidelity to come clean before the poly. He's acting like a man who's finally caught on (ie, not blaming or threatening me with his future resentment because he needs to do this).

He says even if I read the truth and leave him, at least he'll have finally been honest, and done everything he could.

After 7 weeks of lies and trickle truth and manipulation, I guess it makes sense that I have a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach and am dreading finding out whether this is just another tactic/game.

I hope it's the real deal and I'm ready to work as hard as I ever have at this...but I'm far from blind to the possibility that it might still be a game.

Waiting and watching.
Trying not to throw up.
The uncertainty is almost over.

If you have a spare second sometime today, think of us...hope and pray that he has finally, finally figured this out.


I think the whole board has you an TRT in our thoughts. hug pray



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Originally Posted by black_raven
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Hang in there Al.

What sort of self-pampering are you doing?


None. Trying to take care of my three kids.

Having a very hard time today.

Do you have friends or family that can help you with the children? Or that can be there for support? That is important, Al.

Do you have a real life support system of friends and family to help you? Reading WH's latest confession and the poly will be stressful and upsetting. Where will the kiddos be Thu morning?


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AI, I have been off of the boards for a bit, and when I came back, yours is the first thread that I checked and I see this? Sorry doesn't even cover what I want to say to you. What an a-hat. Hopefully, he has decided that you are worth more than more lies. I am really glad to see that the polygraph is going ahead on Thursday. The sooner the better for YOU.



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Originally Posted by BrainHurts
I think the whole board has you an TRT in our thoughts. hug pray


Thank you. That means a lot.

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Originally Posted by black_raven
Do you have friends or family that can help you with the children? Or that can be there for support? That is important, Al.

Do you have a real life support system of friends and family to help you? Reading WH's latest confession and the poly will be stressful and upsetting. Where will the kiddos be Thu morning?[/quote]

The polygraph examiner needs to talk to me before the test, then they're supposed to be alone while it's conducted. I figured TRT could play with the kids outside while I talk to the guy, then I'll pack them in the car and take them to my cousin's house. I haven't really decided anything in stone.

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Originally Posted by Scotland
AI, I have been off of the boards for a bit, and when I came back, yours is the first thread that I checked and I see this? Sorry doesn't even cover what I want to say to you. What an a-hat. Hopefully, he has decided that you are worth more than more lies. I am really glad to see that the polygraph is going ahead on Thursday. The sooner the better for YOU.


I hope he's decided that too.
I'm glad it's almost over.
It's been almost 7 weeks since I caught the most recent affair. Every time I thought we were moving forward, another sucker punch.
I'm glad I finally found a spine and got a clue and demanded an end to that abuse, but I SO WISH I had done it sooner. This is torment, and the next few days are going to suck.

Praying he's figured it out and this is all going to be worth it.

Thanks for your support.

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Okay, I can't stop shaking.
The feeling of impending doom is killing me.

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Originally Posted by AlmostInvictus
Okay, I can't stop shaking.
The feeling of impending doom is killing me.

hug

Remember hunny, this is another DDay for you.

That's why it's important for you to take care of yourself. Right now, the most important things are going to be eating and sleeping. And hugging those precious children of yours. You'll get through this.


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Scotty's THING laugh
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Originally Posted by Scotland
Originally Posted by AlmostInvictus
Okay, I can't stop shaking.
The feeling of impending doom is killing me.

hug

Remember hunny, this is another DDay for you.

That's why it's important for you to take care of yourself. Right now, the most important things are going to be eating and sleeping. And hugging those precious children of yours. You'll get through this.

I don't even know which D-Day I'm at. Three? Four? Four if you count when he told me the affair I caught was an EA.

Sleeping's been iffy. I'm forcing myself to eat.

Any tips on how to make it through reading this monumentally long confession I'm about to get handed? I'm guessing the answer is not 'with a bottle of tequila for company'. wink

In all seriousness, what do I do?

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Been there. Sorry it suxks. My h had a 2nd life for most of our marriage. What do u do? Read it. Cry shake. Throw up not sleep. Do that again. And tomorrow u get up and shower get the kids to school. Throw up. And sit and ask itself what can I for me today.

Then you wait to Thursday until the poly then decide. You are in control. Know that and own it. He trickled u for 7 week what is 3days. Lots of water and asprin do help. I am so sorry that you are dealing with this.

Typos flore. On a kindle!


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Originally Posted by AlmostInvictus
Any tips on how to make it through reading this monumentally long confession I'm about to get handed? I'm guessing the answer is not 'with a bottle of tequila for company'. wink

In all seriousness, what do I do?

43 pages of pain.
I don't know what you should do.
I guess, STOP reading whenever you need to.

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43 pages. In my hands now.

Think of me tonight.

I'm gonna need all the help I can get.

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Oh hunny, I'm more than sorry. Know that we are here for you and every single one of us understands. None of us wanted you where you are today. hug



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Originally Posted by Scotland
Oh hunny, I'm more than sorry. Know that we are here for you and every single one of us understands. None of us wanted you where you are today. hug
Ditto! pray hug


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Originally Posted by AlmostInvictus
43 pages. In my hands now.

Think of me tonight.

I'm gonna need all the help I can get.
Thinking of you, and praying for you AI.


Every man I meet is in some way my superior; and in that I can learn of him.

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Originally Posted by AlmostInvictus
43 pages. In my hands now.

Think of me tonight.

I'm gonna need all the help I can get.
Sweetheart ~
You are not alone...
You are in so many people's thoughts and prayers...
You are precious...
You are okay...
Right now...
I believe that you and TRT will come through this intact!
Yes! I do!
TRT is finally at the fork in the road...
This is what I posted on TRT's thread:
"My sincere prayer is that you will do whatever it takes to restore love in your marriage...
You and your sweet BW have a dynamic opportunity to be one of Dr. Harley's success stories!

Yes!
You are worthy of TRT's love as long as he is willing to be willing ...
To do whatever it takes to restore love in your marriage...
Hang in there, Sweet One...

hug hug hug hug hug hug hug hug hug

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