Be sure and cc your WS when you send her that email. When you email her, hit reply so her email is showing. You WANT your husband to read her email. Then attach all of his emails asking you to take him back.

Thanks, I will send that!

Perfect!

I am rubbing my hands in glee! (Sorry estrela), I don't mean to make light of your situation. I just love when the BS stands up to the OW.
I had done something similar to my WH's skank ho and had forwarded her text messages that he had sent me. I don't know if they helped end the A or not but they def. pissed her off!

Y'all are toooooo nice!!!

E-mail sent.
Now they are all blocked and hopefully I won't be hearing from them anymore.

True, but when you touch dirt, you get dirty also. So need to keep the distance

You rock Miss E!!

Wouldn't it be interesting to be a fly on the wall at their next meeting!!

Estrela, well done on keeping your grace and dignity through this.

I can't anticipate what my reaction would be to OW contact, so you keeping your cool... hats off!!!

As for sending the email, well, you just had a great old hand in steering the karma bus.

But now you have set the GPS destination, you are wise to keep well clear in a dark Plan B.

Hugs to you estrela, and keep on keeping strong.

Estrela, well done on those emails, and your unfortunate interaction with OW. They really are all the same aren't they?

While I was reading along, I was nodding my head with what the other posters were saying. She wants to scare YOU off by telling you that there were other affairs. I don't even understand why they don't think of the fact that that makes them sound absolutely worthless. If your WH had these other affairs, then she isn't that "special" now is she?

You're gonna be reeling from this contact for a bit, but we'll help you get through. Don't go all quiet on us. Let us help you sort through your thoughts and feelings and KNOW that you wil get better once you are able to get dark for a bit. And then, you'll stay dark. You can do this, Estrela. Hang tough.

BH - do you think her seeing the e-mails would be enough to kill the A?

Yesterday, I thought this was obvious and even a little overkill, but this morning, I wonder if WH can charm his away back to skank ho.

I guess skank hos are very resilient sometimes... (you know, like roaches)

Caracal - thanks. I was operating by our fellow MBers advice, fighting my fears and second guesses. I could not even think clearly after I received OW's e-mail.

Scotty - thanks for the support. I will keep posting. I can still smell skank hos horrible scent under my nose and it gives me nausea.

Also I almost O.D. on chocolate last night. Back to healthy today

BTW, her opening line when she came to "visit" was that I do not really know my WH. Yes, she probably thinks she is special.

I am happy my mom is here visiting, plus kids, that will help me go through this.

The good thing is that I doubt WH will try to break Plan B anytime soon with "reconciliation" talk and "you are the love of my life" e-mails.

estrela. Just wanted to say how sorry I am for you and your kids.

You absolutely created conflict in that A...but waywards seem to love the drama...at least until they hit the bottom.

I still think exposing this latest stunt of deceit to his family may have some impact on him. The light of day is the most effective tool in killing fog. That's just my own honest opinion.

Take care of yourself.

WH will probably charm his way back in, but now she will have questions swirling nonstop in her brain. Every time she can't reach him on the first ring, every time he's 30 seconds late...she'll wonder.

I also predict that OW will show up on your front door again when she gets desperate. I would advise very nicely refusing to converse with her at that time. You've done all that should be done, and anything further will serve the OW's needs more than your own.

pokerface - Thanks for the support and the advise on exposure. I agree with your view, but WH is not in touch with his family since 1st exposure.

He even went to Israel for work and did not call/ visit his parents who live there. For all matters, everyone in our circle still thinks he is in the A since we are not back together. He kinda of removed himself from everyone but his single friends.

Neak - I added a note on the e-mail to OW, telling her not to contact me ever again. Hopefully that will deter her, and I will refuse any further contact with her. I can see it happening also...

Normal women of sound mind and body know to stay far away from married men...skank whores who pursue the married are roaches because they are so desperate to be loved they will do anything to keep the married man's crumbs coming.

You just turned a flood light on this roach with your emails. Awesome!!! Awesome!!! Maybe the lights heat will be enough to kill her off, or she may find a patch of darkness to keep living. The thing is the light is on and the darkness will soon fade.

Ditto!!

Estrela,

Compliments to you for handling this ugly situation with grace and aplomb. You've received great advice from so many here and you've followed through on it. You operate from a bedrock of principles that has served you well.

You've entered into the drama through no choice of your own. Now ease out and let yourself recover.

I'm so sorry you are being so cruelly mistreated.

Peace and grace be with you.

E,

I agree with the others. I don't think the emails will be enough to end the affair, but it will definitely be the cause of conflicts and fights.

OW "but I saw what you wrote to her. You said you love her and want to do whatever it takes to be back with her" (all needy and clingy)

WH "you're lying I never said or wrote that" (all angry and annoyed)

OW thinks to herself and starts doubting and says to herself "I'm going to go tell estrela that he's lying to HER"

Can you imagine when he reads in your email that OW went to see you in person? Psycho and pathetic.

E you definitely shined the hot sun on them. That is why he is avoiding all of his family. You deserve so much more. He probably has been doing this the whole M.

Stay dark and continue to heal, my friend. The stronger you become will help you see the difference between gaslighting and true repentance.

J3ofUS, BH - thanks for the kind words and support!

MB has one more fan: my mom.

All my family knows about MB and its principles, but since we live far away, sometimes I feel they do not fully understand how wise and practical Plan A/ Plan B approaches are.

They feel I should be "doing" something and "making decisions" instead of "waiting".

My mother was actually the one who answered the door to OW, and she saw how the MB forum helped me in the war zone, with smart and fast advice, real time! She is very impressed by this band of brothers!

Thank you, All!!!

Mel - you got a special mention

Hello to estrela's mother!!