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Got a demand letter from pinoke about taking down the website. My lawyer quit helping me because of it. New lawyer said it's probably a better idea to take it down to be safe.
Your lawyer quit helping you because of it? Why?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt
Nothing crazy or awful about it! All you did was post some nice pictures. Is there something wrong with the pictures?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt
are there still recent hits? can you tell by IP address if the same people are visiting?
I would continue to use it as a bargaining chip. Reply like Mel advised -- "Rainy will CONSIDER taking it down upon payment of all past due child support" End of reply.
Throw that response at your attorney and see how that flies...
I did check stats on it for the first time - over 500 hits the day after the biggest exposure. Crazy, huh? I had no idea. So if all these people don't want this info, why do they go look at it?
This is what Pep would do.
Have some fun with it now. For instance, photoshop a rat head & rat tail onto her body. Put donkey ears on his head. And Pinoccio's nose, of course. Change all the names just enough so that they resemble the actual names, but are now hilariously funny. Change the names of towns and places to things like: "Then, the enchanted couple traveled the River Styx in their inner tubes."
Turn it into a twisted fairy tail. (or twisted furry tale)
See if you get another flurry of hits once it is obviously "them" but now funny as heck.
Have you ever seen the "schmoopie" YouTube videos?
rainy, that would be so perfect!!! Post those soul mate schmoopie vids!!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt
Are there some legal issues we aren't considering?
Like copyright of pics? In the UK, the pics belong to the person who took them and I doubt Rainy took those pics.
Its not a libel issue surely, the pictures are the proof of the 'homewreckers' title.
Some lawyers do just want an easy life.
Its up to you really, Rainy. If you're going to get constantly hassled and your Plan B interuppted Iy might be worth letting it drop. I'm sure everyone who cares has saved copies of the pics anyway.
While your AoA suit is ongoing, you're not truly dark anyway so might as well let it ride for now. Take it down when you want, not when ratgirl does.
Unless there are proper legal issues with the site they could snare you with. Make sure your lawyer explains proper reasons and is not just being lazy.
Plus Mel and I would LOVE someone to sue, so they could be called up in court to account for themselves.
But you've even got that base covered!
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
I did check stats on it for the first time - over 500 hits the day after the biggest exposure. Crazy, huh? I had no idea. So if all these people don't want this info, why do they go look at it?
This is what Pep would do.
Have some fun with it now. For instance, photoshop a rat head & rat tail onto her body. Put donkey ears on his head. And Pinoccio's nose, of course. Change all the names just enough so that they resemble the actual names, but are now hilariously funny. Change the names of towns and places to things like: "Then, the enchanted couple traveled the River Styx in their inner tubes."
Turn it into a twisted fairy tail. (or twisted furry tale)
See if you get another flurry of hits once it is obviously "them" but now funny as heck.
Have you ever seen the "schmoopie" YouTube videos?
Oh my god that's fantastic!
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
You all are funny:) I don't want more legal problems, though. Just want to be done.
Married: 22 years Me: BW 41 Him: WH 43 Sons: 19, 17, 12 Daughter: 16 DD 8/09 EA started 8/08 PA started 7/09 Brief recovery of a few months in there. Separated 10/10 Legal Separation 8/11 Plan B 5/17/12 Plan D 5/31/12
Are there some legal issues we aren't considering?
Like copyright of pics? In the UK, the pics belong to the person who took them and I doubt Rainy took those pics.
Its not a libel issue surely, the pictures are the proof of the 'homewreckers' title.
Some lawyers do just want an easy life.
Its up to you really, Rainy. If you're going to get constantly hassled and your Plan B interuppted Iy might be worth letting it drop. I'm sure everyone who cares has saved copies of the pics anyway.
While your AoA suit is ongoing, you're not truly dark anyway so might as well let it ride for now. Take it down when you want, not when ratgirl does.
Unless there are proper legal issues with the site they could snare you with. Make sure your lawyer explains proper reasons and is not just being lazy.
Plus Mel and I would LOVE someone to sue, so they could be called up in court to account for themselves.
But you've even got that base covered!
You would love someone to sue? Are you lawyers? Or just spectators?
My lawyer just doesn't want to deal with anything complicated. The new lawyer is much more willing to deal with stuff, but he said he thinks I may come to regret setting up the site, that they can try to use it against me as slander (which we can fight against as we've pointed out, but time and money) but that it makes me look bad, vindictive like they are trying to portray me as - to a judge or jury. Basically just points against me that I don't need.
But it is a bargaining chip that is freaking rodent out. Pinoke is getting more and more horrible trying to force me to take it down - all of which makes me want to keep it up. Truthfully, I took it down Sunday. Decided it had done its job and I just didn't want to think about it anymore. Then I got his nasty lawyer letter about suing me, and all the money I owe him for various things, and he's fighting the PO, on and on. So I put it back up. I'm done bowing to vermin. She just keeps driving things worse and worse. Stupid tramp. I would have taken it down long ago if she hadn't stopped my child support and PO and made my life hell. Heck, I never would have put it up.
I also don't want legal trouble I can't pay for. I guess I just hang tight and pray the a of a slams this down.
Married: 22 years Me: BW 41 Him: WH 43 Sons: 19, 17, 12 Daughter: 16 DD 8/09 EA started 8/08 PA started 7/09 Brief recovery of a few months in there. Separated 10/10 Legal Separation 8/11 Plan B 5/17/12 Plan D 5/31/12
I don't know about copyright on just everyday pics. I didn't think there was one. That would be hilarious though, since I think EX MIL took them, and she'd have to confess.
Married: 22 years Me: BW 41 Him: WH 43 Sons: 19, 17, 12 Daughter: 16 DD 8/09 EA started 8/08 PA started 7/09 Brief recovery of a few months in there. Separated 10/10 Legal Separation 8/11 Plan B 5/17/12 Plan D 5/31/12
Yay, Thursday! (Is there something special about today? Or just almost Friday?)
Thanks for thinking of me, Letty. How are you?
Married: 22 years Me: BW 41 Him: WH 43 Sons: 19, 17, 12 Daughter: 16 DD 8/09 EA started 8/08 PA started 7/09 Brief recovery of a few months in there. Separated 10/10 Legal Separation 8/11 Plan B 5/17/12 Plan D 5/31/12
Hi, Letty. Sorry, last week of school for me, so I'm sure you can relate. Aaaaarrrrrgh! I haven't had time to get on here for a few days. So glad for you that you are done! Yay! How long is your break? No, we don't use either of those things - never heard of flubaroo?
A of A response was due by this past Monday. They just threatened to counter sue on defamation. They won't win, but rodent has apparently run BH and his "making millions" power into the ground. They don't have enough assets to go after to make it worth it to my lawyer. Not sure what I'm gonna do from here. Too many other things going on this week to stress over it.
I LOVE Plan B. So much less stress.
I know I have a debt to pay forward here - I'll be on again soon. Sorry all.
Continued prayers appreciated.
Married: 22 years Me: BW 41 Him: WH 43 Sons: 19, 17, 12 Daughter: 16 DD 8/09 EA started 8/08 PA started 7/09 Brief recovery of a few months in there. Separated 10/10 Legal Separation 8/11 Plan B 5/17/12 Plan D 5/31/12
Hi, Letty. Sorry, last week of school for me, so I'm sure you can relate. Aaaaarrrrrgh! I haven't had time to get on here for a few days. So glad for you that you are done! Yay! How long is your break? No, we don't use either of those things - never heard of flubaroo?
A of A response was due by this past Monday. They just threatened to counter sue on defamation. They won't win, but rodent has apparently run BH and his "making millions" power into the ground. They don't have enough assets to go after to make it worth it to my lawyer. Not sure what I'm gonna do from here. Too many other things going on this week to stress over it.
I LOVE Plan B. So much less stress.
I know I have a debt to pay forward here - I'll be on again soon. Sorry all.
Continued prayers appreciated.
So glad to hear from you Rainy.
Waywards running the financial tap dry. Wow what a shocker.
So what does your lawyer suggest on the A od A case?
FWW/BW (me) WH 2nd M for both Blended Family with 7 kids between us Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
