What I remember is beginning to feel angry, and then shutting up and turnning away to specifically avoid an AO.
'What you remember' implies you don't fully remember the incident. Which implies an AO. I know because I've been there. If you needed to turn away, then you were angry. Turning away does not sheild you from your anger at what you are hearing, it simply fuels the situation. You didn't leave. You stayed and fuelled the situation so you could have an angry release in response. So the answer to the question is 'yes'.
When I turned away, I never said another word. What they told Markos in Anger Management was that the first step to avoiding an Angry Outburst was to shut up. So I shut up at the first feeling of anger, and refused to engage in the conversation any further.
This made him angry, and he pressured me to talk for the rest of the day instead of leaving me alone to calm down. I never responded to his pressuring.
If there was an AO, it was before I turned away and became silent.
I know MB teaches that it is your spouse that determines if an AO has occured. So I have not argued with him about it. Do I believe it? I have a hard time believing him, because he has a history of accusing me of an AO when he is frustrated/angry, then coming back and apologizing with "I'm sorry, you weren't having an AO. I was frustrated." So, I don't know. His stories change a lot.
I haven't argued with him about it, and I am doing what he has asked -- anger management, and reading Love Busters.
He told me he would have a problem with having someone as an Elder in our church who had a pregnant unwed daughter.
I asked him why that was a problem, and he told me why.
I said "So they have to be perfect?" (judging his religious beliefs/sarcasm).
He said "no."
I then felt angry, and stopped talking.
