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Re: Asked a question and it backfired...
Surfer88 #2649406 07/24/12 11:47 AM
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Hopeless,

YOU were the one who asked your H if he was really at work and if he were seeing someone.

WHY did you ask those questions? What is your gut telling you?

No one asks those questions out of the blue.

AM

BW - 70
WH - 65
M - 35 years
D-day - 17 Apr 08
H broke contact 11/1/09
Back in love after the worst thing that every happened to us.
Re: Asked a question and it backfired...
armymama #2649457 07/24/12 01:37 PM
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aaaaaa (name suits you, btw smile )...we'll be here when you decide to return and get serious.

My marriage was on the brink of divorce without infidelity...just regular old run-of-the-mill checked-out spouse. I was sooo suspicious, I polygraphed him--he passed, but hoo boy, did he "fit the profile". Working late, out of town trips, refusal to date me or even engage in conversation, and had excuses out the rear why that was 'just how it is!'.

Guys like that tend to need a reverse caveman approach, and we can help you do that MB-style.

Or not. It's your marriage.

Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. Second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience.
(Oscar Wilde)
Re: Asked a question and it backfired...
CWMI #2649508 07/24/12 03:20 PM
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Not sure if it has been mentioned or not .. but does your hubby have a porn addiction? Men who dont WANT their wives are usually in affairs or "over stimulated" by porn use.

HAve you keylogged your home pc? www.desktopshark.com is a great one and probably the cheapest. Try it free for 3 days.

MNG
Re: Asked a question and it backfired...
MrNiceGuy #2649518 07/24/12 03:40 PM
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Hey, I see you changed your name. Ok, then!! hehehe. I hope that you don't leave the forum. No matter what YOU can begin to make some changes for yourself and in yourself that can make your husband take notice. I can tell everyone here is wanting to support you. So, let everyone support you in becoming the best you. I hope all is well.

BS Me 47,WH 49
DS's x3 17, 10, 7
Multiple D-Days
No disclosure by WH. No EP's, no transparency, no guilt or remorse either.
Plan C DOES NOT WORK!
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