thanks for your encouragement

my marriage is NOT a wreck because of MY bad decisions, last i checked, it was my H who made the bad decisions.

you want to cut me down and make me feel worse than i already feel unless i do everything you say step by step? shoot me while i'm down?

"The reason for the wide exposure is not to hurt the unfaithful spouse, but rather to end the fantasy. Your husband's secret second life made his affair possible, and the more you can to to make it public, the easier it is for him to see the damage he's doing. Keeping it secret does damage, but few know about it. Making it public helps everyone, including the unfaithful spouse and lover, see the affair for what it really is."

"Exposure is very likely to end the affair, lifting the fog that has overcome the unfaithful spouse, helping him or her become truly repentant and willing to put energy and effort into a full marital recovery. In my experience with thousands of couples who struggle with the fallout of infidelity, exposure has been the single most important first step toward recovery. It not only helps end the affair, but it also provides support to the betrayed spouse, giving him or her stamina to hold out for ultimate recovery."

"Our policy for years has been to tell all family members on both sides of the family about an affair. Time after time, people who have followed our advice have reported that it helped clear the air, and it also helped restore trust. Right now, anything you can do to help your husband restore his trust in you would be extremely important. Tell your parents right away."

I think I'm going to sue Betty Crocker. It's all their fault.

I started making a cake today. I read half of the instructions, but it soon became apparent to me that they had written them for general use and not for my very special, unique circumstances. I quickly revised a few things to meet the needs of my situation.

I got some things out to do it. The recipe said that I needed 3 eggs. I only had one, and going to the store was very inconvenient. I decided just to use the one and a package of Egg Beaters.

I got out a bowl. It wasn't a mixing bowl like the instructions said. It was just a plain old soup bowl, but that should have been good enough. I mean, really, what do they want?

Since the cake takes so long to make and bake, and I didn't want to wait that long, I just kept dipping my spoon into the mix and eating it as I went along. I set the oven to 500 degrees and turned it on to preheat. I added 4 cups of olive oil and my eggs. The package said vegetable oil, but olive oil is so much better for you that I decided to substitute it.

I got out my electric mixer like the one pictured on the package and turned it on the highest level. (I mean, HELLO, I want this sooner than later!) Well, let me tell you, the stuff went flying EVERYWHERE! WTF were they thinking?! Since the mixer obviously wasn't working, I just got out a spoon and stirred my mixture a few times.

I poured the mixture into the exact pan size that they said, and it didn't even cover the BOTTOM OF THE PAN, so I transferred the batter to a smaller pan that was 3 inches deep. I like thicker cakes, anyway.

I put the pan in the oven, and go to watch some TV. Who wants to watch something bake? I have better things to do !

Well, 45 minutes later I go to check on my cake (cause it was NOT smelling good) and I notice black smoke everywhere! The batter had oozed all over the side of my pan and burning on the oven's heating element! The rest of the cake was completely charred, there's no way I can eat that. I doesn't even look like a cake.

The box DID say to only bake it for 25 minutes, but really, should that be MY responsibility? Shouldn't the cake just KNOW when it's done and stop baking? Come on, it's the 21st century.

So, here I am standing in the middle of a mess with a worthless burnt cake. My oven is almost ruined, I've got cake mixture on every surface in my kitchen, and I didn't get to have my cake, let alone eat it too.

I don't advise anyone here to buy Betty Crocker products. They are nothing but a fraudulent rip-off. Your kitchen could be ruined.

And I'm suing them. It's all their fault.

One thing I know for sure, Steve Harley's whole idea of the 10 categories of emotional needs, lovebusters, love bank withdrawals and deposits, POJA and especially extrordinary precuations, really CANNOT be beat. Think about it, that is EVERYTHING!!! Figuring out emotional needs isn't as easy as it sounds. So, BOTH of you need to take that questionaire!!! Then, the harder part comes, discussing them and figuring out how to put everything in place to meet them. It seems like you are saying that you feel your H's desire is there, so think about starting with extrordinary precautions and emotional needs questionaire. MC's rarely work. This is not just a "feelings" thing. You have to figure it out quickly and take action. That is why I hope that you stick around and follow these things. This is the ACTION plan that you need!!!!

My thought on MCing. If you can find a really good one, you might have a shot. The problem is you go in and talk about feelings, how do you feel about that, more feelings. You say things that upset the other spouse, then you gotta talk about those feelings. That will go on for years!!!!

after carefully reading everyone's responses to me an spending some time reading through the stuff on the site and listening to clips i have come to the decision the program here doesn't fit my situation... having said that i want to thank everyone who took the time to read my posts and respond. Thank you for your good wishes and i hope everyone here thrives

thanks!

after carefully reading everyone's responses to me an spending some time reading through the stuff on the site and listening to clips i have come to the decision the program here doesn't fit my situation... having said that i want to thank everyone who took the time to read my posts and respond. Thank you for your good wishes and i hope everyone here thrives

thanks!