but I feel like I don't even care if he has her there at this point.
OK, but is that tactically smart? If he's allowed to turn into his skank shack, he's not going to want to cooperate and sell it.
Trying to beat him out using a lawyer and legal agreements is going to be lengthy and expensive and will affect your healing timescales.
MO
And expensive possibly with laywer since WH can now drag his feet. What will motivate him to leave the house or settle with you since your footing part of the bill and he can do whatever with whoever in your M home?
It still is your M home. You have just as much right to be there as WH does.
Waywards to me know deep inside themselves they are in the wrong and screwed up big time with the M. They may feel some pangs of guilt or remorse or Confusion about the chioces they are making. Choosing a course of action to rectify the situation may or may not happen. When I was a WH and my BW knew- she was the last person I wanted to see. The guilt ate me up. I simply stayed away-picked up my son as scheduled-made support payments etc...
WayTurds just keep the entitlement attitude alive and make every step obnoxious, distasteful, and difficult. They win the grand prize for the embodiment of selfishness, lies, and manipulation. They do not live life operating on the same set of rules that most of society does. WayTurds simply are out for everything they can gain regardless of who they have to step on or how they have to step on them. This describes my now XWW. Nothing was worked out easily. All it was is what can I gain out of this and who do I have to step on to do it.....and you can pay for me to be comfortable doing anything I want....even though we are still M'd.
Trust me no comes out a winner in D and it is a war which takes planning out strategy.
The man you knew as your H is gone and an alien has taken over his brain. Do not expect any of the steps you now take to be easy or cheap.
Locking WH out of his comfort zone at the house is a key part of the strategy with the MB's program since WH defiled the M home.
Would moving several trusted friends into the house with you for RL support help to make life uncomfortable for your WH? Makes it hard to carry on A when everyones watching isn't it?
Correct me if I am wrong- WH is not interested in R with you right? YOU Need to think out of the box here. It is not about WH's comfort or likes or dislikes anymore. By sitting back and being passive WH has no motivation to do much since it will cost him money in the end. Wouldn't be surprised if WH will want big changes to what you already have drawn up and agreed to already.
nESRE
