|
|
Joined: Apr 2001
Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Apr 2001
Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 |
A really good, eye opening book about the futility of such counseling is "One Nation Under Therapy" How the Helping Culture is Eroding Self Reliance by Christina Hoff Sommers and Sally Satel, MD. It highlights studies that support Dr Harley's view that counseling is usually a waste of time at best and actually destructive at times.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jan 2010
Posts: 15,818 Likes: 7
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jan 2010
Posts: 15,818 Likes: 7 |
G.O.
I do realize I have been given a second chance and am greatful. I AM excited about this new way of life, that's what I was trying to let posters know. MB books helped me and my H understand how to be the best we can be to each other.
I don't believe we might fail, I know how we really feel for each other andI know our love is powerful enough to work through this. I know how I handled the past was wrong and I don't want him to do it the way I did, It didn't work, Great, 76! We want to help you get it! There are going to be some misunderstandings to be corrected, and there are going to be some times we need to say "Hey, you think you're doing it, but you're not." And there are going to be some times we need to say "Hey, stop doing that, because that's ineffective, or harmful." We'll probably have to do the same for your husband, too, if that makes you feel any better. 
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Mar 2010
Posts: 7,362 Likes: 3
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Mar 2010
Posts: 7,362 Likes: 3 |
Sorry, I misread what you said about Facebook and thought you still had it.
Melody has posted excellent excerpts from Dr. Harley on dealing with childhood issues. It really is a distraction to what you NEED to be concentrating on right now. As for the rest, I can testify that MB will make you a better person all around, if you follow the program. You will have stronger boundaries, you will be more honest, you will more in control of yourself. I believe I am a better parent, even.
You need to be fully concentrating on your marriage right now. YOUR CHILDREN need you to be fully concentrating on your marriage right now. Your marriage is the foundation of their entire world - when it is strong, they are strong and happy; when it crumbles, so do they.
Food for thought.
Last edited by Prisca; 08/02/12 10:16 PM.
|
|
|
Moderated by Ariel, BerlinMB, Denali, Fordude, IrishGreen, MBeliever, MBsurvivor, MBSync, McLovin, Mizar, PhoenixMB, Toujours
|
0 members (),
383
guests, and
116
robots. |
|
Key:
Admin,
Global Mod,
Mod
|
|
|
Forums67
Topics133,625
Posts2,323,524
Members72,038
| |
Most Online6,102
Jul 3rd, 2025
|
|
|
|
